BF told you you have a fat butt?

Question

I am curvy and could lose some weight but I still think I look good. My bfs type is the little skinny blond type. I am blond but tall and solid. The other night we were in bed mucking around and he told me I had a fat ass and went on to lift up the covers going 'look at that, look at that!' I laughed it off. There was a show on too were all these pics of different body shapes and sizes and a really big woman came on. He said please don't ever get like that. It didn't seem like much at the time and It made me feel uneasy but now I'm thinking what an ass. Girls and guys what's your opinion?

timetowaste · Accepted Answer

Sometimes, some guys don't see this as an insult because they see it as a good thing. My boyfriend is like yours.. he's a skinny little blond, and my tush isn't the tiniest but I don't want a tiny tush anyway :P I like it, and I'm confident with it. Your boyfriend probably shouldn't have used the words "fat ass" but my boyfriend has told me I have a big ole booty to which I laugh and tell him his biceps are small. LOL, but in all reality he does it 'cause he likes it and he doesn't realize that I might take it as an insult. Ask your boyfriend about it.. tell him what he said got you thinking and you weren't sure how to take it. Maybe he can shed some light on it. If he's a jerk about it, then there is a man out there who thinks you're absolutely beautiful and sees you as perfection.

deanabby · Accepted Answer

i know EXACTLY how you feel. I'm 4 ft 11 and I used to weigh under 100, which is completely normal for someone my size. but I gained weight when I went to boarding school and went up to 120, and nowim back to 110 but my boyfriend constantly calls me fat andor thick... or his "gordita" which means "little fatty" sooo, imean it sounds to me like its just a joking kind of thing because if it really bothered him, he wouldn't still be with you.

and besides.. a fat butt is better than a fat belly. lol he's not an ass unless if he starts calling you fat in a serious manner. God made you the way you are, be proudof your stature! and if he doesn't respect how his jokes make you feel,..then he can escort himself out.

goodluckkk :)

Minxxe · Accepted Answer

my man said that to me once, I slapped his face very f***ing hard and denied him access to said arse until he was desperate and had to 1) own up to his own stupidity (2) apologize for his immaturity (3) rephrase that what he really meant was that it was round and juicy and couldn't get enough of it.

Hence, he realized that no matter what my arse looked like, it is his to have as long as he is respectful of it. He has never made the comment again, and neither doI ask him what he thinks.

If your little runt thinks he can do better - let him f***ing try! You'll have more luck with a gorgeous arse getting a new man than he will with his puny boys-body and needle-d*** trying to get a new girlfriend.

windowlight · Accepted Answer

That comment, even in isolation, is sadistic and nasty enough to merit a dumping. Sorry but those kind of undermining comments should be verboten. If there is an issue to be discussed it must be approached with the utmost of tact.

DaveMicharl69 · Accepted Answer

That's cold. I don't think he meant it to be mean, but that's still hurtful. You just don't say those things to a girl...

gallie · Answer

my boyfriend said I am flappy... and I laughed ... I then told him seriously that I would have big chucks of muscles all over my body if I am not flappy. so he just need to deal with it and be happy about it. of cos we people all make judgements on people's appearance and body. we got to accept it if its the fact, but you should not be worried if its some ridiculous jokes.

my boyfriend and I did joke around about being massively fat one day and I asked him not to be like that. he asked if I will still like him, so I asked him the same. we do think that it is important to be attractive to each other.so we will try to stay the same..

When your boyfriend said please don't ever get like that big woman, he does show appreciation that you are in this shape. he was properly playing you out or just to tease u...and he never said he doesn't like your ass. don't worry woman.

I am sure everyone likes curves...

PinkitGirl · Answer

Get rid of him.. You're bum is amazing, you have no idea how many times I have walked down the street and seen a girl with a beautiful bum and wished I was her! Every part of you is amazing and there is no need for him to be putting you down EVEN IF YOU ARE OVERWEIGHT which you have stated you are not. Now maybe he said it the wrong way and he actually has no issue with it but the way you have talked about it in other answers it seems like he has an issue with it. Just be honest with him and tell him what's up, but in my opinion I'd say let his sorry ass go. You be proud of your bum cause girls like I are very jealous :) Goodluck!

Anonymous · Answer

A lot of guys like fat asses so he could have meant it in a good way or a bad way. Around my way being told your ass is fat is a compliment. I'd rather have a fat round juicy butt than a flat one. there is a difference between HAVING a fat ass and BEING a fat ass. So I don't know how your boyfriend meant it but you can tell by his tone of voice what he meant. Hopefully it was a compliment and he wasn't putting you down. if he was putting you down then you need to dump him because no girl deserves a guy who is going to be disrespectful to her. talk to him about how you felt and ask him what he meant by it. if he doesn't like your ass tell him you don't like his d*** and he can't stroke in bed, then dump him. if he isn't attracted to you why date you, then put you down?

Eiffelgirl21 · Answer

I wouldn't really find it a bad thing.  I took it as he was saying "Damn! Look at that!"  And some people use "PHAT"...other words, Pretty Hot And Tempting!  I am sure you are this! ;-)  And, I am sure he thinks the same!  He was probably trying to tell you that he just thought that bigger girl was ugly...Sometimes guys do that...My Boyfriend does all the time..Like "ewww! She is gross! I am glad you don't look like that!"..etc  :-)  Flaunt that ass ;-)

baby12345 · Answer

tell him take it or leave it... he wouldn't be my boyfriend anymore

Darkfairie17 · Answer

Yea that was an asshole thing for him to say :S How dare he comment on your booty like that. Obviously he doesn't realize that all women are different. I wouldn't worry about changing yourself for him. He honestly sounds like a loser if he is making comments like that. I would personally leave him, he doesn't deserve you. I would talk to him about it.

moonlightromance · Answer

he sounds like he's trying to be funny but he's doing it in a d*** way. if he truly loved you he wouldn't care what size you came in. and the fact that he said "please don't ever get like that" means it's possible that you COULD get like that and he would leave you.

you need to let him know it bugged you so he can stop

Brandan_Cromartie · Answer

I'd tell him he's got a tiny d***. He'd shrivel up and die.

Creativenickname · Answer

You dump him, you dump him right now. Seriously, him mocking you because you look a certain way (That did not at all sound like playful, loving teasing). That guy sound like a total jerk.

He made you feel insecure. Fine, talk to him first (it might be love, what do I know?), but remember that he is still going to wish you don't start looking like that girl on the telly.

Yeahhbro · Answer

just work out? go for a jog? eat better? what is wrong with that? you know your butt will get fatter as the years passes by... yeah I said it. And if he still looks good and takes care of himself, you should do that as well.

MarcusDavis · Answer

Dont make too much out of it.  One day, he will miss that ass if he is not careful.  I know a LOT of guys who love exactly what You got...

-StillWater- · Answer

He sounds like a bit of a sociopath.

I'd dump his -what I assume to be- scrawny ass that very minute!

He's a jackass who thinks he can dictate what you do and how you do it. He thinks of you as his play thing, not his girlfriend.

toulouse · Answer

I would find that thoroughly inappropriate demeaning disrespectful obnoxious untrustworthy and lacking in overall good judgement.  I would DUMP HIM. btw is he himself skinny?

only_human89 · Answer

Like you said, I guess he just likes the skinny type. Based on the description of yourself, I doubt your ass is fat by my standards.

Spacemen3 · Answer

I think you should post pictures of your ass in different angles, so we can make a proper evaluation.

gummybear888 · Answer

it might be a compliment. one of my ex bf's loved my butt. and he often said so, maybe his choice of words weren't great but he probably was complimenting.

sikoo31 · Answer

hey I like fat asses, just find a guy that likes you for the way you look if you ever break up with him.  that's the best I can tell you.

ksgirl · Answer

That was a jerk move on his part. Your boyfriend can use positive things like "hey let's go to the gym together" if he wants a change, but straight up telling you that you have a fat ass is wrong of him.

Cailleach · Answer

I looked at your profile pics, and you have a nice body. If I were you, I'd just dump someone who made you feel self-concious. You deserve better.

Anonymous · Answer

I would have been turned on by a fat butt! When younger, I thought, Oh, I don't want to get fat... and don't want my partner to get there too. But you realize that it's part of growing...

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