If she expected me to change then she isn't accepting me for who I am. Too many women want to mold their man into something he is not. Sure, it might work for the time being until one day he snaps.
I don't want to grow my hair out because it makes me sweat. Who really wants 3 inches of hair during the summer months anyway?
I don't want to dress up everywhere we go because the clothes are too clingy. I feel like the whole wardrobe you bought me is like some oversized tighty whities.
I don't want to stop hanging around my friends just because they don't get along with you. Perhaps they are cluing me into how much of a b*tch my girlfriend is.
I am not getting rid of my pet just because it doesn't like you. Again, another clue that the relationship isn't right.
I don't care if you do your other thing when I go to sporting events. I don't need a watch dog and that certainly doesn't mean I should go see the ballet because you went to my event.
Why should I stop going to the strip club just because I'm in a relationship? I have a lifetime membership card to get in. Plus I never slept with anyone from that place in the 4+ years I went before you came into my life.
I can't imagine marrying her since my life was miserable while we were dating. Take away the sex and it's like this annoying family member living with me. For my sanity, overall health, and to keep me from doing something irrational like hurting someone, she has to go. I'd do anything for love but not with her...
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You cannot change yourself to be loved by somebody ! Either they love you for you or they don't !
20 years ago I was with this girl that at first liked me for me . that's why she hooked up with me,right? So as some time went on she expected me to change some things so as the puppet I was then, eager to be loved by her.. I stopped hanging with all my friends the way I dressed, my attitude , my sense of purpose , my morals of what I would put up with and basicly handed her my balls and was a slave to making her happy to be with me... All that didn't work because she broke up with me,lol... Because I wasn't anybody to respect because I lost ( gave up ) who I was as a man !
This was all a very valuable lesson because I figured out LOVE cannot be forced, changed, or bought... No woman is worth changing for just for her to think she may love you, only if !
When I like someone, I like them for them. If they change by starting to drink heavily, become abusive, or treat me bad otherwise, then they would lose me since that is not a healthy relationship anyway.
I have read all the responses for liking me for me vs. changing for someone (puppet). I can relate in some regard because I REALLY liked this guy. He liked me as well, but for whatever reason he chose to hook up with the woman who was more pushy/easy. And he has somewhat become her puppet. Changed his hair for her, is on a diet for her, and she even gets on him about his diet if he eats something unhealthy. And this is by no means an overweight guy. It saddens me because I adored him for just being himself, not what someone wants to make him into. So I guess in this case, I lost him and he lost me as well, and maybe one day he will realize that if someone doesn't like you for you, then they are not worth being with. We all get old one day, and when that day comes, he may not even have ANY hair or he may not be able to lose the weight and she will leave, when I would have loved him anyway. :(
Well, I have seen guys and girls change...for the better and for the worse. Mainly because they know tha either it hurts their loved one or because they know it is wrong. Either way, it can be a good thing or bad thing. It just depends on the guys/girls EGO and how much they love that person.
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Lost her. But I tried to do so many things and succeeded. She made me a better provider and more responsible but I doubt she really loved me anyways because she gave nothing back to me after I transformed.
She died in a car wreck because of a drunk driver. If, when I find the man. I will kill him and make it look like suicide.
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