I have meet some mothers that had kids at relatively "late age" (50's - 60's)
Is it ever too late to have a baby?
I have meet some mothers that had kids at relatively "late age" (50's - 60's)
Yes, it is. It's called Advanced Maternal Age or AMA. The older a person is both female and male the greater the chances are that child is going to be autistic.
The breast cancer risk for all women at age 40 is 1 in 235. By the time a woman reaches age 50, that risk jumps to 1 in 54, and by age 60 it's 1 in 23.
Women who give birth for the first time after age 35 are about 40 percent more likely to get breast cancer than women who have their first child before age 20.
A woman I graduated with from high school just died of breast cancer. She was 46, and had her first child at 36 and her second child at 40. In the middle of September, she went to the ER because of low back pain. There they diagnosed her with stage 4 breast cancer. She died 6 weeks later. She leaves behind 9 and 4
year old girls.
There's definitely a biological clock ticking for women. However, on the flip side it is absolutely much more realistic for women to have healthy babies at older ages then most assume. I actually had three children (one of them was a set of twins) at the ages of 41 and 42 respectively. All my children are very healthy. Consequently, I am absolute proof that healthy children over 40 is very possible. However, I was also doing everything I could to get pregnant those times as I knew I didn't have a lot of time left.
There are biological considerations that become quite momentous if a woman tried to get pregnant after age 40. She may have huge health problems with the pregnancy and delivery and the baby has a much greater chance of having birth defects. Also, the odds on getting pregnant decrease drastically. "The oldest mother that was reported by Guinness World Records to deliver a child after conceiving naturally was 59." https://nypost.com/2021/03/25/57-year-old-is-one-of-the-oldest-women-to-give-birth/
I'd say it depends on a few factors.
There's the risk of medical conditions such as autism, which rises steeply with increased parental age (both the mother and father).
There's also the risk of not being able to properly care and provide for the child until they reach adulthood - it takes a lot of energy, and someone who becomes a parent at 55 will be 73 when their child is 18, by which time they're very likely to have health issues of their own (there's a 1-in-5 chance they'll be dead).
I was born to parents who had me at 37. One of my top complaints are that older parents simply are unable to relate , understand or connect or play with their kids as well as younger parents.
Many people don’t think this really matters but it makes a huge difference in someone’s childhood if a parent has the ability to understand relate and play with a child
@shaysh87 Agreed. You always hear grandparents in their fifties and sixties, who have been babysitting their grandchildren for a weekend (or even just having them come to visit) - and they're already exhausted, saying they enjoyed it but couldn't handle much more of it. Imagine them having to deal with it day in, day out, for 18+ years!
And even after the 18 years, I don't think it's fair for a young adult (in their mid-twenties say) to have parents who are already becoming a burden to them, just as they're trying to get their career off the ground and maybe even start a family of their own - they have enough on their plate already.
My father had kids late in life at 37 and 40. He says that what hurts him most is being old while his kids are still far from being grown. And of course working past retirement to pay for his sons college tuition. It’s exhausting to be an older parent, most people want to retire by the time they hit their 59-60
@shaysh87 Yeah, I don't want kids any more anyway, but even if I did, I wouldn't do it now at my age.
I had this image of the kind of father that I'd want to be, and I just don't think it would be possible. Things like wanting to win the dads' race at school sports day might be really silly, but the point is that I'd want us to be active - playing sports, going on adventures, etc - and that's not so likely if I'm in my fifties before they even leave primary school. I do work in outdoor sports and with children, so I'm probably fitter and "younger" than most, but equally, that takes it's toll on the joints...
Fostering seems like a much better idea for older would-be-parents.
Retiring by 60 sounds optimistic, but here's hoping! The official retirement age is 66 here, and it's going up, so by the time I get there, it'll probably be closer to 70 (though I'll hopefully have emigrated by then).
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I think that women shouldn’t have kids after the age of 36. Any later , the chances of birthing issues increases
and I think that the max age for a parent (mother or father) should be 40.
The reasoning is older parents do not know how to understand or play with their children as well as younger parents. Older parents are also more likely to be exhausted and unable to keep up with their children.
The body put in that limit, freezing eggs doesn't make sense to me, the rest of the body still ages so it won't work. If you want babies gett them in you 20 and 30s. Men can wait a extra decade. After that they will be less good fathers because they seriously do not want to deal with the stress of having kids. It's a 20 year commitment.
My OH was 41 when our first was born, 42 for our second. She was classed a geriatric mum.
Personally I think beyond 50 is probably too late, it will take a toll on the body and likely to effect what you can do with child as they grow. I turn 40 next month, running around after my 2 year old drains me sometimes when combined with sleepless nights. Couldn't imagine being 10 years older doing it.
Usually mesopause makes the decision but women can freeze their eggs and people can get surrogates so I guess there is not a real age limit.
If you choose to have a baby you have to be physically and financially able to care for thet child. It depends on the individual.
do you really want to be 50 or 60 with a toddler?
Where would you find the energy.
Just because you can do something, doesn't always mean that you should.
Yes there are a few that have had kids that late, but they seem to always have help raising them.
Yes. It is. The risk of birth Defects increases as a person gets older. With Women menopause puts an end to the possibilities.
Men can continue to father children until the day that they die, but again There will be a greater possibility of birth defects as the man ages.
I mean a woman's body has a timer on it for having kids typically. I think it's unfair on a kid to have them any time later than 45. You're not going to be able to easily keep up with them as they grow up.
The chance of birth defects increases significantly around age 40. And menopause is a thing. So yes, there is a soft, and a hard age limit.
late life babies are just becoming adults when Mom dies... and are left alone during a time they need thier mom's the Most
The chances of having a healthy baby after 35 drop off dramatically. No one who seriously wants children should postpone it at all.
I think after 45 is pushing it in my opinion. There are a lot of risks and birth defects involved, but they should always consult with a doctor.
In my life, 35 is when I would stop having children/even consider children.
Physically speaking, it's highly unlikely that a woman can have a baby after 50. Once a woman goes through menopause, it's no longer a possibility. After 40 or so, the odds of getting pregnant and having a healthy pregnancy go down significantly.
No if you have the money any time is good and cool.
Presumably they had help, like IVF with a donated egg.
Women very rarely have babies naturally past their menopause \ mid forties. If they do have babies, it's a donor egg and they are on fertility drugs and hormones
There will come a time when you can’t and as you age the chances go up of having complications. Good question for a doctor. Any doctors in the house? I only play one with my partner and hardly know anything.
Their are more risks for older women, but lots of older coupes or single women get pregnant and have a healthy baby
Well for women after a certain point it's impossible for them to have a biological baby, but apart from that I say if you want one you should have one.
40.. after that birth defects are to high and it's just selfish
Janet Jackson gave birth and the baby was perfect and he is now age 4 so that shows age means nothing
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