Because its gay to be that weak. Men are supposed to learn how to handle these emotions not fail. Now its ok to get some help one way or another but to constantly rely on it is terrible.
Learn on his own or from friends. In fact i just talked about ways of dealing with depression with a few guys. I was diagnosed young w clinical depression but i discovered a foolproof way to not be depressed. No drugs or alcohol. Gym regularly. Make goals. Boom its gone.
Sterotypes, sometimes the elderly saying its not right for a man to ask for help, sometimes its just that they don't want help, sometimes they just feel that no one would take them serious, sometimes they just wanna die
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Stigma and trying to appear strong (which is what a lot of men are encouraged to do from the time they are born)... not feeling comfortable showing emotions.
I dunno what its called... I do know both men and women practice it. You might be the exception to the rule, but most women i have interacted with, the moment you open up to them, they vanish.. My wife is the single sole woman that did not do that. I can't be with someone who i can't allow to see everything about me, if you get my meaning.
My problem with the term you use though, is it is used as a blanket term by lots of leftists to shame men for liking traditional masculine things. For example. I love to fish, I love to tinker with things both electronic and mechanical. I love to fix things. I have been told that i like those things because of toxic masculinity. I've also been told that disliking traditionally feminine things is also toxic masculinity.. I've also been told that i was gay because i love to cook, and take care of my home.. Its like i cannot win.
Toxic masculinity to me is limited to telling boys they are wrong to cry, or wrong to have feelings.. or wrong to dislike some traditionally masculine things (for example i strongly dislike football)
Something else to add @Subarugirl Traditional therapy is geared toward women. Mostly anyway. And a lot of the time the things that work with women dont work with men. It took me months to find a therapist years ago that actually understood me and what I've been through, and actually helped me..
Because mental health is demonized in it society and admitting to struggling with mental health as a man is seen as weak, which men are trained not to do.
Maybe it did in the past, but now with "Toxic masculinity" plaguing the apa, the only therapy that will be given to them is all just about "talking about their feelings".
I, myself, wanted to kill myself years ago. I told everyone I trusted and I went to several therapists but it didn't help and all the therapists did was give me book recommendations on the subject. It wasn't until I completed a personal project of mine, which was building a computer, was what finally got me to snap out of it.
I think men heal by proving to themselves that they are able to succeed or be useful without the person or thing they lost.
My guess is that mentally ill men, or woman (sorry, but Trump is a great example), truly, deeply believe that they are ok, and everyone around them who disagrees with them are the sick ones.
What women goes to the doctor for normal menstruation lol, its recommended that men have yearly health exams, and aren't you due to have your prostate checked?
so it sounds like you're right at that age.. Here I found super basic preventative care schedule. Every 6 to 12 months, get dental and eye exams. Every year, get a flu vaccine. Every 1 to 2 years, get your blood pressure checked. Talk to your doctor about how often you should have your cholesterol levels tested. The results can help predict and prevent your risk of heart disease and diabetes. As an adult, get the Tdap shot. This protects against tetanus, diphtheria, and pertussis (whooping cough). Every 10 years after that, get the Td booster vaccine. Starting at age 50, get regular tests for colon cancer. Around age 60, get vaccinated for conditions, such as shingles and pneumonia.
Yeah, I don't know why that is. It is troubling for sure! In general, I truly believe that we as a society should change our attitude towards mental illness and start treating it like any other disease like diabetes or cancer.
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Because its gay to be that weak. Men are supposed to learn how to handle these emotions not fail. Now its ok to get some help one way or another but to constantly rely on it is terrible.
How is a man supposed to learn how to deal with those emotions if he is shaped for seeking out support?
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Learn on his own or from friends. In fact i just talked about ways of dealing with depression with a few guys. I was diagnosed young w clinical depression but i discovered a foolproof way to not be depressed. No drugs or alcohol. Gym regularly. Make goals. Boom its gone.
Sterotypes, sometimes the elderly saying its not right for a man to ask for help, sometimes its just that they don't want help, sometimes they just feel that no one would take them serious, sometimes they just wanna die
Stigma and trying to appear strong (which is what a lot of men are encouraged to do from the time they are born)... not feeling comfortable showing emotions.
Because the society is so hard on men when it comes to expressing their feelings
Thats the most pathetic response yet.
@Ryfyle you think that society encourages men to express their feelings?
@Subarugirl Society clearly does not want that. That should be painfully obvious by now.
@Ryfyle why do you think that?
Because the phrase man up comes to mind. I have heard this by the way more from women than men..
So because of the stigma of toxic masculinity?
I dunno what its called... I do know both men and women practice it. You might be the exception to the rule, but most women i have interacted with, the moment you open up to them, they vanish.. My wife is the single sole woman that did not do that. I can't be with someone who i can't allow to see everything about me, if you get my meaning.
My problem with the term you use though, is it is used as a blanket term by lots of leftists to shame men for liking traditional masculine things. For example. I love to fish, I love to tinker with things both electronic and mechanical. I love to fix things. I have been told that i like those things because of toxic masculinity. I've also been told that disliking traditionally feminine things is also toxic masculinity.. I've also been told that i was gay because i love to cook, and take care of my home.. Its like i cannot win.
Toxic masculinity to me is limited to telling boys they are wrong to cry, or wrong to have feelings.. or wrong to dislike some traditionally masculine things (for example i strongly dislike football)
In any case. i rambled enough.
Something else to add @Subarugirl Traditional therapy is geared toward women. Mostly anyway. And a lot of the time the things that work with women dont work with men. It took me months to find a therapist years ago that actually understood me and what I've been through, and actually helped me..
Guys are raised to just suck it up and don't be a pussy. Admitting you need help is a sign of weakness.
I don't have time to talk about my feelings when I am the ruler of Omicron Persei 8!
because men are not as weak to the emotional and spiritual as we are.
How is seeking treatment for an illness weak?
so they can overcome it, they don't wear themselves out. I wonder how you read.
Hi how are you doing today?
Because we’re taught we need to “be a man” and deal with our problems.
But the truth is, its even more manly to be able to admit defeat when you need help.
It takes a lot of courage to be honest and open up about yourself.
also men that have a learning disabities they can treated unfairly. they need a find to stop the toxic words that men always seem to get called.
I have autism and you would not believe how many people tell me I am just faking it for sympathy.
@Juxtapose NO I wouldn't know but dislike how people catry learning disabilities as children.
It’s not considered wise for a man to show weakness in the world we live in where men are expected to be strong by both genders.
It's easier for men to accept the truth.
So we take action, instead of looking for excuses :D
Heh heh
Because mental health is demonized in it society and admitting to struggling with mental health as a man is seen as weak, which men are trained not to do.
They're expensive and they do jack shit. Men don't heal from trauma the same way that women do and that is what therapists assume.
That what works for women will have the same effect.
The results indicate it does hep though
Maybe it did in the past, but now with "Toxic masculinity" plaguing the apa, the only therapy that will be given to them is all just about "talking about their feelings".
I, myself, wanted to kill myself years ago. I told everyone I trusted and I went to several therapists but it didn't help and all the therapists did was give me book recommendations on the subject. It wasn't until I completed a personal project of mine, which was building a computer, was what finally got me to snap out of it.
I think men heal by proving to themselves that they are able to succeed or be useful without the person or thing they lost.
possibly because they are ashamed more or embarrased or feel like they are a man and its not manly to seek out treatment
just my opinions of course
My guess is that mentally ill men, or woman (sorry, but Trump is a great example), truly, deeply believe that they are ok, and everyone around them who disagrees with them are the sick ones.
Because we're men and we can fucking handle it unlike you weak willed, silly women.
And that's why so many dudes are fucked up with issues they don't know how to deal with and can't communicate lol
women get used to going to see doctors
for menstruation
then for
birth control
finally
pregnancy
men dont have these needs to get to know a doctor
What women goes to the doctor for normal menstruation lol, its recommended that men have yearly health exams, and aren't you due to have your prostate checked?
prostate does not get checked until at leased 50
so it sounds like you're right at that age.. Here I found super basic preventative care schedule.
Every 6 to 12 months, get dental and eye exams.
Every year, get a flu vaccine.
Every 1 to 2 years, get your blood pressure checked. Talk to your doctor about how often you should have your cholesterol levels tested. The results can help predict and prevent your risk of heart disease and diabetes.
As an adult, get the Tdap shot. This protects against tetanus, diphtheria, and pertussis (whooping cough). Every 10 years after that, get the Td booster vaccine.
Starting at age 50, get regular tests for colon cancer.
Around age 60, get vaccinated for conditions, such as shingles and pneumonia.
You find more men than women at treatment facilities, so I'm not sure that they are.
Yeah, I don't know why that is. It is troubling for sure!
In general, I truly believe that we as a society should change our attitude towards mental illness and start treating it like any other disease like diabetes or cancer.