Should I dump him and make him pay?

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He took me for granted and wasted my time.  We have been dating for 3 months and he put on like 15 pounds.  Every since that happenned I have just been disgusted and upset with him.  He went from being really fit to having a belly which is such a turn off.  Its a huge offense to me because I feel now that we are together he doesn't take care of himself.  I tried telling him to lose weight but he jokes about it.  Its getting to the point where I'm even thinking of cheating on him until I find another boyfriend because honestly he deserves it for taking me for granted and wasting my time.

oOsweet~o~nessOo · Accepted Answer

Wait...so you want to leave this guy - just because he gained some weight? That's kinda messed up. Especially if he has a lot of qualities you like (which is why you guys are together in the first place.)

I mean, that does come off as you being kinda shallow.

If he like put on impressive weight, like threw on 50+ ibs, then I'd see where your coming from - but 15ibs? A little belly? Those are things that can be lost in a matter of days, especially if he was just fit.

Now, I would be frustrated too if I kept addressing my partner about an issue, and he kept joking / laughing it off. That I can understand. But a little weight gain doesn't mean he's not taking care of himself - maybe he's just going through a lazy spell - we all have them. Perhaps he's stressed, or just haven't been feeling up to workin out lately.

As far as taking you for granted because he gained weight, lol, a lot of guys take their gf's for granted by using them, ignoring them, cheating on them, and not being appreciative - not because they gained a little weight.

But I mean, just think about the situation; if your boyfriend came up to you and was like " your getting fat, you disgust me," then cheats on you with someone else, your gonna feel like some major sh*t. Don't be so heartless; Sit down with him and have a serious conversation about it if it's bothering you so much.

A lot of girls struggle to find a decent guy nowadays; for you to casually disregard him because of a small physiological - that's just a bit superficial.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You seem passive aggressive. He took you for granted and wasted your time but you are still with him, plotting stupid revenge? If he was that bad, why are you still his gf? I bet he probably doesn't even know how he took you for granted and wasted his time because you didn't open your mouth and say anything. Just dump the guy because you don't even like him

tc1125 · Accepted Answer

It could just be that he's spending his time with you rather than staying fit. Maybe he's the type of guy who puts on weight easily and before meeting you he could have been exercising a lot.

If this really is such a huge issue and you are willing to cheat on him because of it, you need to either talk to him properly about the situation or finish with him. the fact you are willing to cheat shows you aren't serious about the relationship.

incidentally do you keep fit?

jocelynf · Answer

Maybe he is going through a tough time, and gained some stress weight. Bugging him about it probably makes it worse. Instead, when you guys hang out, do something active like walking or laser tag or something to get him moving. And don't eat out. Just because he gained a little weight doesn't mean he deserves to be cheated on or is taking you for granted.

iShine · Answer

Wtf.. you just sound shallow. Leave him alone, if he wants to stay unfit. Let him? -.-

justjumpit4 · Answer

Wow.. if he took you for granted, why didn't you just leave him then? The whole other part sounds suuuper shallow. And if you're so unhappy, just leave. You can't force him to want to be fit.

Anonymous · Answer

lol .. one can't be disgusted by someone they claim to love/like.

Anonymous · Answer

How did you become such a piece of shlt?

Should I dump him and make him pay?

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