Am I wrong to be fatphobic?

Question

I've had so many run ins with obese women here in the US and some incidents growing up. I'm 4ft10 and I've been knocked over, squished, even bumped down an escalator be a very large heart obese woman possibly on purpose.

inhua · Accepted Answer

no it's not fatphobic because the only people who can be allowed to be fat or those with an actual medical condition that makes them fat which is of no fault of their own

if being fat was only relegated to those who had such a medical condition than yes fatphobia would be valid if those particular fat people are being discriminated however since the vast majority of fat people are just lazy and unhealthy, fatphobia is not valid for them

this is what the feminist body positivity movement fails to mention. they try to promote "self-love" and physical attraction even in unhealthy lifestyles but this is only limited to women. fat men are deemed sloppy, disgusting, lazy pigs who need to lose weight and stop making excuses but telling fat women the same is "misogyny"

after all, society can not force women to be attracted to fat men so why insist on men being attracted to fat women?

Sonorous · Accepted Answer

I think it's best to generally have a more empathetic approach. And this is coming from someone who has struggled with weight in the past (when I was a kid) & know people close to me who struggle with their weight even today. I don't think we should take the high ground on this very human matter & pretend as if we're immune to the same various factors if we were the overweight person.

So, I really agree with Jeff when he says, "If you did want to argue that it is a choice in some sense, I think the best you can do is say that it's a complex series of choices, intertwined with many other complex contributing factors."

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i kinda get it.. i am scared of tall people lol, anyone 5´9 and above is scary to me lol in a way.. i keep my distant. but yeah same with obese people. but its not justified so isn't mine i think

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No you’re not Fatphobic. In fact, any words that end in “PHOBIC” is meant to shut you up. Those aren’t real words. Those words are current and completely made-up.

loveslongnails · Answer

First of all, the definition of the word "fatphobic" doesn't quite coincide with how it's being used socially, that's how weird it is. "Phobic" means having an irrational fear of or aversion to something. "Fatphobia" encompasses much more than just an aversion to fat people. It's a real disdain and disgust for them to the point where you discriminate against them and hold a severe bias against them. It can easily lead to hate speech, false assumptions and accusations, and mistreatment of those who are anywhere from overweight to obese. So where do you fit in?

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

I wouldn’t say you’re wrong. Just look at it as being seen with 👀’s of jealousy. Of course, if you were to ever get bit by a lot of dogs…. Folks that are bigger than others find it empowering to intimidate with their size.

I would even bet you wouldn’t have your phobia if you weren’t being harassed, right? Was that person a minority? If so, it was mostly done out of racism.

nolabels · Answer

Before seeing your additional information beyond just the question itself, I wondered why someone might label themselves as being "fatphobic".

I think that the situation would be more accurately described as having a reasonable dislike of rude people.

worldscolide · Answer

No, not at all. It's sickening that we are simply forced to accept and coddle people who CHOSE to be fat.. Nah there is nothing wrong with your attitude.

I will let you in on a little secret, I use to waleigh 400 .. i now weigh just under 200.. It took a shit ton of work to get there.

Billlewis · Answer

You can rest assured that full figured women are becoming more popular every year, but you're entitled to your opinion.

MementoMori777 · Answer

Anyone can push you down stairs tho, they don't gotta be fat, I'm sure if they can squeeze in without squishing you they would no? Lol

ohsheeT · Answer

I mean that's truly really up to you

I don't think most people are obese because they want to be I think there's a chemical imbalance in place I think everybody has a story and
For me I'm not going to judge anybody just because of what they look like
If we're honest with ourselves I mean we all have a flaw someplace

with obese people
Whether it's a flaw or not there's out in the open

molonski2 · Answer

NO , these women carry " Fat Obese attitude " and you are correct to be extremely wary of these fat , loud , depressed , disgusting fatties , who have no self control and they are taking it out on you.

007kingifrit · Answer

no such thing as fat phobic, it isn't a fear to dislike someone (and phobia is ONLY defined as fear, i don't care about concept creep in academia)

fat people really are less attractive and it is immoral behavior to be fat

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Nothing to but tell these overweight people real loudly EXCUSE ME

NamerOfStars · Answer

Yes. That's not a matter of weight, but of proprioception. When you get squashed by someone weighing 300 pounds, it makes no difference whether that weight is fat or muscle.

DJB72 · Answer

I can understand your concern given your experiences. I'm not sure it's a fair assumption globally, but I'd probably feel that way in your position

CrimsonAngel09 · Answer

Lucky for you I'm 5'0" and steadily dropping from 142 pounds.

Berethor · Answer

Being fat is not healthy so nothibg phobic about it.

Staximus · Answer

You've just been bullied or injured by angry fat ladies and are now wary of them haha. You should take judo because it teaches you how to throw fat people around.

DextroShade · Answer

No you are not, it's disgusting and unhealthy. Lately the level of entitlement from these cows has gotten insane.

AmeerX · Answer

😅 If a person is American fat then it's a problem. Having a few extra pounds is not that bad.

Summeroflove · Answer

Those are people who have no regard for others. Not everyone whose overweight does that. But that would pose me off.

Exterminatore · Answer

Given your circumstances, I would be if I were you.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Not at all. You're entitled to hate whoever you want for whatever reason

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

Fatphobia is just an irrational fear. It can be hard to control fears. If Thou art fatphobic, go to psychologist and they’d tell Thee how to overcome that irrational fear.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Your not Fatphobic, Your Angry or upset with larger Women because of the way you have been treated and Rightly so.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

As long as people can have a phobia against you, who cares?

Andres77 · Answer

Are you afraid of them or just tired of bullies?

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Your not wrong your entitled to feel however you want to feel. But I notice you said fat women here in America. Where are you from and are their no fat people where your from

Anonymous · Answer

I am 5’1 which is short too and obese like I don’t understand how taller people bumping into you is an obesity problem 💀

PointTaken · Answer

I'm unsure about this. As someone said, you could have been pushed or bumped by anyone.

AviatorTom · Answer

No, you're not wrong.

shades777 · Answer

you have a fear of fat people?

stepyo99 · Answer

Being fatphobic is based

RealMarek · Answer

Welcome to America, lol

XXblack88 · Answer

I don't think so.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, it is a sickness.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

There rude and fat by the sounds of it.

CubaPirate · Answer

Absolutely 💯 NOT

Anonymous · Answer

They must be jealous of how beautiful you are.

LazerBean · Answer

Not at all.

In_Trance · Answer

whatever works for you

gothbxtch · Answer

yes, it is

angieeeeee · Answer

you do you

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