What's the point? should I stop working out?

[Anonymous]

I started working out to partly be healthier but to also attract girls more, since then I've put on a good amount of muscle, but the amount of attention I get is still the same... which is 0..

now I see it as a waste of time and I don't feel like doing it anymore..should I stop?

[Anonymous]

Well, you spent a long time learning a valuable lesson.

Girls don't really give a crap about muscles.

You might have believed that thoroughly, but like many kids your age, you only think you know what women like and want.

Now, being at the gym is still good. It's for your own health and self confidence though. But it won't get women to throw themselves at you.

Now, maybe you're in the right frame of mind to admit that you hadn't a clue when it came to girls. And that all you were doing was following stereotypes. (Like many young guys on this site.) And if that's the case, you'll find people happy to help you here. But you'll have to forget what you think you know.

BTW, when you do start getting some girls interest, the cut body will be an asset.

[Drummer4life2010]

I can relate with you on this subject. But I started working out to get girls attention and it didn't help at all. Finally I decided that I liked the way I look when I work out and so now I'm just working out for me so I feel and look better. If working out is something you enjoy then keep it up for you but if It's difficult to make yourself workout or you just wanted to get girls then that's not gonna help you stay motivated. You have to do it for you and it takes time to become the big muscular guy you see in magazines.

[curiouschica]

No don't stop...do it for yourself...cardio and strength training are good for your body and soul! Plus, there's always the possibilty that you still aren't "attracting girls" as you said, because they might now be more intimidated by you...just show that you're a friendly interesting guy...

[justathought191]

Exercise is good for you. Endorphins are amazing. And overall it can take a lot of time for people to notice changes that you have noticed in yourself. Keep your chin up and give your body the workout that it deserves (I mean, it does do everything for you, right?)

[htarmort]

Exercise in the long run will keep you healthy. It suck if you had no attention and was in bad health. Nothing is a waste. I think your expectation of instant attention is sadly unrealistic because of your self esteem. Here a secret I wanted to pass on. Not that you will care but it helps me.

People want to be around people who make them feel comfortable and valued.

[Anonymous]

Don't, it definitely helps to work out. However, what you really need is to have confidence. Like yourself. Be proud of yourself. Think highly(but of course not too high or you'd end up being too arrogant) of yourself. Have a good personality. And most importantly, be yourself. Girls can definitely sense confidence, and confidence can even fool people that you're so good looking and in demand. So confidence, man, confidence. And being buff is bonus ;)

[cyrus7]

confidence is not an option, I have nothing to be confident of

[Asker]

^ what he said

confidence doesn't appear out of thin air, success is what gives confidence

[Opinion Owner]

and that attitude of yours,no offense, is precisely why you can't get any girl to like you.everyone has something they're good at, a talent or ability. it is just up to you whether you want to discover develop yours. as long as you have a "loser" mindset, then you definitely won't even take a chance at discovering yours.and no, success is not the only thing that gives confidence. if that were the case,only a few people in the world would be confident.my 2cents:try something you're interested in.

[TheDigitalSaint]

Keep doing it. Exercise helps boost positive feelings in your brain. Have you tried working on your posture? Are you clothes stylish and the right size? How's your friends and social circle? Are you really shy? Do you feel or act nervous around girls? There are so many factors that you didn't mention as to why you're not getting any attention. A good body can help, but it sounds like we might need to work elsewhere. Could you please explain more?

[Asker]

my postuers fine I think

clothes are good I think

i have 2 best friends, that's about it

not shy not really

Im neutral around girls

[TheDigitalSaint]

Are you friends successful with women? If so, don't be afraid to ask them for advice. It is great that you have two best friends. That being said, there's always room for opening your social circle larger. Do they have friends you don't know yet? Your goal should be to meet more people (men) and sooner or later you'll get to know some more female friends. Just being around female friends gives you a good idea how women click. That alone will teach you a lot.

[Asker]

I don't see how being friend zoned would help

[TheDigitalSaint]

The point isn't to become successful with all women. You just need to know how they "tick". What do women talk about? What interests them? What do they gossip about their current boyfriends? What things are these other guys that they are dating doing that you aren't? A "friend zone" isn't a bad place to be if you are going to be a good listener and student. Consider them you're test subject and this is a science experiment. There's nothing like the real world.

[GuysBestFriend]

No, do it for your self not just girls. It just takes the right one, and personally I look at a guy and I try figure out what his personality is not how good his butt looks in jeans.

[best_username_ever]

KEEP DOING IT! It's SO good for you and chemically makes you happier!

[BobBobinson]

Well, are you TOO muscly?

[Asker]

no