How can I fit in better with my boyfriend's interests?

[Anonymous]

My new boyfriend is into sports and wants me to participate with him in all kinds of activities. the problem is that I am a very feminine person and I've never been into sports. I love my boyfriend but I feel kind of lose when he expects me to play basketball and baseball with him and his friends. Some of the girls in the group are very tomboyish and I just can not compare. I feel stupid and embarrassed when they laughed me (especially the other girls laughing and calling me names "as a joke") ! what can I do

[Anonymous]

Tell him that you'll just watch him play 'cause playing yourself makes you uncomfortable, and find other things you're both interested in that you can do together. My girlfriend is like you, people invite her to play sports, especially basketball 'cause she's tallish but she's has no talent for it, no speed, no reflexes and she feels uncomfortable in competitive games. She's just not the type for it, she's way too gentle and feminine. She explained how she felt at the beginning of our relationship, although I could tell myself cause she looked downright scared when I tried to get her to join once and I don't push it. It's not a big deal at all.

[Asker]

my boyfriend does push it and he wants me to play, I do try my best. I'm just sort of girly...

[coolbeans01]

Maybe ask you're boyfriend if he can teach you or you two can practice these sports he likes/wants you to play. For example, tell him that you want to practice and learn a few things and that you wanna play catch or something.

There's nothing wrong with being feminine but think about doing this not for him but for you, there's nothing wrong with playing sports. It's not like as soon as your good at playing baseball you'r gonna be considered a tomboy. He'll probably find you even more attractive that you're willing to learn and even participate. Don't give up, you can only get better, just practice a little.

[Asker]

Ok I will try, I am always trying but I'm just sort of feminine.

[blaster]

As a guy I'd say he wants to involve you in his life for you to feel included in his activities. If you back out now since it seems to b a new relationship u'll b slowly killing ua relationship.But if you show some interest even pretend you don't know how and let him teach you he'll b elated. Frankly you don't need to play the whole game touch the ball a bit feign tiredness sit out and cheer him on. U'll c how much he'll love that

[PengersL]

Tell your boyfriend that sports isn't your thing and you aren't enjoying yourself. Still be with him at the sporting events, but watch from the sidelines. If he can't see sports aren't your thing. You two aren't meant to be dating.