I built up the courage to actually speak to a guy I took a liking to. We work together. I got the courage because I have caught him staring at me. He always speaks to me as in always says hey and ask how I I’m doing when he walk passes me. So, I decided to ask him for his number. Assuming that maybe he thought I was attractive just like I think he’s attractive. He didn’t hesitate. He gave it to me. I texted him before leaving work. He responded and told me not to be nervous around him and that he doesn’t bite. He also said I made his day at work interesting because I asked for his number. Then he said that he wasn’t much of a texter but he does want me to go out with him after new years to get to know me more. I responded with okay. I respected the fact that he said he isn’t a texter and of course he didn’t respond because he did in other words let me know he likes face to face interaction so that could mean he’s gonna wait until the next time he sees me at work to actually talk to me in person. Set up at date etc which makes sense but the overthinking part of me Is assuming the worse. Like he was too scared to say no when I asked for his number and now he’s pretending to like me although signs point toward the opposite.
Man, overthinking is the worst! But don't sweat it too much, happens to the best of us. From what you described though, I really don't think he was just saying yes to your number and isn't actually interested. Here's why:
- He volunteers information like saying you make his day interesting. Guys don't usually say stuff like that if they're trying to get away.
- Specifically saying he wants to get to know you more after the holidays is a clear sign of interest.
- Not being a big texter is valid - lots of guys just prefer face to face. Nothing to do with you!
My advice would be try your best to stay positive. Don't analyze every little thing or you'll drive yourself nuts. Give it time, see how the date goes once it happens. In the meantime, if you start spiraling just do something active to get your mind off it, like exercising or video games.
Also remember - even if he ends up not feeling it romantically, that doesn't say anything bad about you. Can't force chemistry. But for now all the signals point to him liking you back, so try enjoying it! You got this.
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Ahh girl you asked for the number, you got that , got an reply , set up a date. Cool just go ahead.
Don't be a looser like me I apologized to my crush for messaging her into her social media account coz i thought that it was wrong. She even asked me that should I want to say something else and i said no haha.
Buddy you rocked don't overthink.
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