We will be marrying after 2 months. And we haven't kissed each other. But she told me she doesn't like it! Plus she's a virgin
What should I do if my girl isn't comfortable with kissing?
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Anonymous
(36-45)
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Wow, what ignorant and judgmental comments here, especially from the men! (No surprise though considering where this is, haha)
Since she is uncomfortable kissing, ask her why and see if there is anything you can do or say to ease her into getting more comfortable with kisses: maybe a peck on the cheek, kiss her hand, kiss her forehead- basically see if she would be okay with those kinds of kisses/contact. Then ease into a peck on the lips when the time is right. Obviously do not force it, but the important thing is to make her feel loved and comfortable, yet happy.
If she still is against kissing, find other ways to show your affection to her! Hugs, cuddling, hand holding. I am sure she will eventually want to kiss you, just take things slow.
You will kiss on your wedding day. Be respectful of who she is and have patience with her. If you getting so impatient and maybe you need to find yourself somebody else so that way she can find somebody who's actually going to love her and respect her. It sounds like to me you are not happy with the fact that she's a virgin and sexually inexperienced besides not wanting to kiss just yet. Sounds like to me that you two are just not compatible.
Ask her why? It's one thing if it is a normal part of your culture, but if she genuinely doesn't like it, it sounds like she wouldn't want sex, and that can spell intimacy problems long term in the marriage. I would figure these things out before you decide to marry her and make a potential big mistake.
There's a mental disorder to do with a fear of kissing, best get her used to it e. g kissing her forehead, if on the wedding day she still isn't ready then kiss her lightly on her lips or cheeks, either way I'd recommend a therapist/psychiatrist before or after your marriage.
I believe she doesn't like kissing because she know it's a danger for her virginity. Romantic and passionate kissing on mouth, ear and neck and you get her.
Ask her what will happen after marriage I understand cultural things but if she is not gonna be a great... wife you know in the bed then like I don't know man
A girl that doesn't kiss you isn't called a girlfriend, she's called a friend.
Find another girl.
I'm guessing unlike her you're a normal human being that wants to kiss, have sex, intimacy etc. If that's the case you need to move on and take control of your dating life cause right now she's calling the shots.
Heck she might just be using you for company when she's bored, to get free gifts, meals etc and is actually fucking other guys on the side...
Hahahah its not what you think. I know what you are thinking and I've been in those kinds of situations. Its not that she doesn't want to kiss me, she just doesn't like it. For instance many guys out there love their s/o but they dont want to eat their pussy... (just for the sake of example) Do u get me now?
Kissing is the most basic form of affection though. Eating pussy is more niche. A guy might not like it cause of the smell or pubic hairs if she doesn't trim making him gag which is fair enough.
It's just weird man, like she's got intimacy issues. Or she's super shy/conservative and hasn't matured as an adult.
Make sure before you Sign a Potential Death Warrant You See about Your "BOUQUET BAE.":((xx
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Anonymous
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It is late but go to her and talk. And how can she dislikes kissing if she never kiss and why do you even mention her being virgin. Like that is irrelevant to your question and also rude to your "girl".
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I did not mean to offend here anybody and how can I delete my comments
Then dont kiss her. Maybe she's a girl with family values. You should wait until marriage.
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Anonymous
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I've no idea. If you're getting married I personally see no reason not to, but I'm not her. Ask her.
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Anonymous
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That’s probably a red flag and maybe you shouldn’t be marrying her but is this an arranged marriage maybe?
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I’m actually concerned about you about how she will be About sex since she is a virgin and can’t even kiss you, you may be headed for a marriage without sex
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