Is wanting to date and marry only people with white skin considered racist?

[TenderFantasy]

Just wondering what you guys think.

It's not because you like who you like ("personal" preference)

It is because you shouldn't disqualify someone for things they had NO control over

[JoePro_]

Are you sexist because you prefer dating men? Modern day "racism" is nonsense. Along with most other redefined -isms. Racism, as it's traditionally and properly defined, is a dislike for another racial group and/or a belief that another race is inferior to you or your race. If you're not disqualifying non-white people because you hate them, their race, or think you're better than them, then it's not racism. It's a preference. There's nothing wrong with it. I'd say the same thing to someone who only dates black people, Asian people, latinos, whatever. Preferences are perfectly fine. We all have them.

[Xia1994]

The reason why we say it's racist is because if you can't see people for what they are then there's a problem, we are all of the same species, it's not like certain races are a different species a woman is a woman and a man is a man no matter what their race is. If you find someone you like who is compatible with you their race definitely should not matter at all.

Sexuality that's a different concept you can argue the fact that you are straight because of religious reasons, or you can say you are straight because of your biology but so far though I know no religion that encourages people to only date and marry people from their own race... even science agrees that people can be straight and it agrees that everyone is from the same species and has ancestors from Africa despite their race... Also imagine being sure that you're perfect match is white what if they are a different race you wouldn't even know cause you're not dating a woman or a man you're dating a race.

Preferences are not based on race they are based on things like common values, how frequently the person works out, interests, the person's gender, things like that etc. If race is a preference for you that sounds like race fetishizing or racism.

If you are they type who refuses to marry or date people you like because of race you are a racist, what you did there is the definition of racism. if you say you are only attracted to one race you are a liar because you have not seen, interacted with or dated all the people in the world to be able to determine that only one specific race is what you are attracted to.

[Xia1994]

Yes it's racist, preferences should not be based on race they should be based on common interests, values, beliefs things like that, once you start basing your preferences on race it's racist.

At the end of the day we are all of the same species no matter what our race is, so if you find someone you like who is not white and you don't date that person because they are white that's racism.

I think if people want love they need to stop ruling people out based on race, your perfect match may not be white and there you are only dating white people, if your argument is "oh but I'm only attracted to white people" you're lying because you haven't met every person in the world or in your country or state who isn't white to be able to ascertain that you are only attracted to white people and not other races.

[Xia1994]

they are not white*

[Xia1994]

essentially if you like someone who isn't white and you're attracted to them and you're looking for a relationship but you don't date them because they are not white that's racism 101.

[BuffTaco]

If you believe white people are inherently more desirable than all other races, well yes that is racist. Duh?

If you have some actual personal reason that you want to marry within your race, like your family is racist so you know if you marry someone of a different race your spouse will be treated badly by your family, then maybe that's not racist (but I would wonder why you are okay with your family being racist).

[WhiteBoyChill]

So its wrong to think certain skin colors look more attractive? Its wrong for white people to want to tan their skin in the sun?

How is that hurting anybody?

[BuffTaco]

@WhiteBoyChill it is wrong to think certain skin colors look more attractive, yes, because attraction is subjective. It's factually wrong to think that. You may be personally more attracted to certain skin tones, and that's whatever. Nobody cares. But to say all races are ugly except your own, obviously you can see how that's racist, right? And if you go around saying people are unattractive and undateable because of their race, obviously you can see how that can hurt people, right? It's pretty straightforward.

[Xia1994]

@WhiteBoyChill there's a difference between skin color and race, were not talking about Teletubbies and crayons. race is a complexed multifaceted concept. According to you it's not hurting anyone but that's not what the asker asked she asked if it's racist. It can be racist but it depends on the persons reasons for only dating and marrying white people. Some reasons have some underlying racist ideologies that they may not even be aware of but usually people who aren't racist are not picky about race, because at the end of the day we are all from the same species and we are all of African decent. look up the research on how everyone's mitochondria shows that they have African ancestry. A man is a man and a woman is a woman no matter what their race is and thats a fact.

[Jersey2]

@WhiteBoyChill Totally agree.

[WhiteBoyChill]

@Xia1994 Where I’m going with this is she finds white guys more physically attractive.

I wouldn’t see it as an issue either if she found guys with darker skin colors (like black guys) more attractive.

How is that an issue?

[WhiteBoyChill]

She even said herself she wishes she could give birth to a child with blonde hair.

I’m not really into blonde women myself, but I still don’t see an issue there

[Xia1994]

@WhiteBoyChill no one finds one race more physically attractive, you haven't seen, dated or met all the people with different races in the world to be able to determine that you are only attracted to one race. It's not like every race is a different species, we are all human and a man and a woman in every race is a man or a woman, you can literally be attracted to and fall in love with a person despite their race if that person shares common values, beliefs, interests, views or if their personality is compatible with yours.

Preferences are not based on race they are based on things like common values, how frequently the person works out, interests, the person's gender, things like that etc. Sexuality that's a different concept you can argue the fact that you are straight because of religious reasons, or you can say you are straight because of your biology but so far though I know no religion that encourages people to only date and marry people from their own race. Even science agrees that people can be straight and it agrees that everyone is from the same species and has ancestors from Africa despite their race and that we are literally all the same species.

[Xia1994]

It's also giving race fetish vibes to say that you are only attracted to a specific race it's 2024!!!, that's what slave masters said back during slavery, they said only white people are attractive and every other race that isn't white is unattractive, and they lied too because many of them were having relationships with people who weren't white and procreating with them and fetishizing their race hence why nowadays a large majority of the world is mixed race, most people who do genetic testing find that they have white ancestry. Back then many people fell in love with people outside their race and wanted to be with them but they couldn't that's why today there is no racism, it's because we see and realize that we are of the same species and anyone can fall in love with anyone and be attracted to anyone despite race.

If you are they type who refuses to marry or date people you like because of race you are a racist, what you did there is the definition of racism. if you say you are only attracted to one race you are a liar because you have not seen, interacted with or dated all the people in the world to be able to determine that only one specific race is what you are attracted to.

[WhiteBoyChill]

@Xia1994 I don’t care for your SJW crap.

That’s just how the whole works.

Certain people have racial and ethnic preferences and that’s totally ok.

It doesn’t mean we trash and disparage and treat people bad that aren’t what we find physically attractive.

[WhiteBoyChill]

World*

[Xia1994]

@WhiteBoyChill you're right most people work by being racist and thinking it's okay to be racist.

[WhiteBoyChill]

@Xia1994 You don’t even understand the fundamental concept of racism. Don’t get back to me until you do

[Finchie40]

Not at all , that’s your preference , you can’t force yourself to be attracted to something that you aren’t attracted to period. If someone tells you , you are racist because of that , that person is a complete moron , everyone has their own preferences on what they like and don’t like , it has nothing to do with racism what so ever

[jshm2]

No it's considered idiotic and incestuous.

You are basically stating you would rather marry your own parents if they were the only white skin around.

Skin colour has no baring on relationship quality. Your white husband will beat you and cheat on you just as hard as a Jewish one. So it's rather idiotic to pick something insignificant as skin color as your hill to die on.

[NamerOfStars]

It's discrimination on the basis of race, so it IS racist, regardless of what it's "considered". The thing is, not all racism is equal, and not all racism is bad. If two people ask you what SPF sunscreen they need, you're going to base your answer on the color of their skin, since that's what determines it.

[noohair]

Race is a 17th century pseudo-scientific theory to define humans by physical appearance. It is a defunct concept yet a widely followed construct. It is a convenient way to divide people into tribes that are easier to control by the political overseer class. There is one race, Homo Sapiens

[Xia1994]

Thank you!

[Saiesh30]

No that's not racist. That's more of a preference.
It's not like you hate people who ain't white skinned. If hate is involved, then it's racism.
A person is free to have his/her preferences or choices when it comes to marriage or dating.

[BlissfullyCurSed]

As the queen once said....

[HelpfulWoman]

It is racism in a sense. But i don't see an issue with this. if you're not attracted to them, they were never there to be disqualified in the first place

[Mr_twoface]

I don't see it that way. Its your personal preference. However, if you were to go about sharing your preference, openly to a larger audience, then it can be considered being a racist.

[Drewtate]

Muhammad Ali wouldn't marry a white woman but then black women in the 60s & 70s were high quality

[Anonymous]

i mean, i can see it as preference, but if it's a make or break situation that you want to marry because the person is white, that's pretty weird. so yeah i can see how it can cross the line of racism.

[Sevenpointfive]

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[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Not racist but they have to be truly self loathing individual at their core.

It's only natural to be with people that look like you and your family, not the opposite.

[Jennz6]

I’m dating a lot of Black guys now and most of them want to marry me. I also have been dating Black girls but same sex marriage is not allowed where we live

[RavVid]

The Left seem to think I shouldn't restrict my interest to girls who are girls by birth.

[OtterMan68]

if you would not consider dating someone based solely on that person's skin color, then yes, it is racist.

[Xia1994]

thank you!

[JesseP1nk]

No its not racist. Do not listen to those idiots who thinks its racist. Same way its not homophobic if you are not attracted to your own gender and would not date them.

[Xia1994]

The reason why we say it's racist is because if you can't see people for what they are then there's a problem, we are all of the same species, it's not like certain races are a different species a woman is a woman and a man is a man no matter what their race is. If you find someone you like who is compatible with you their race definitely should not matter at all. Sexuality that's a different concept you can argue the fact that you are straight because of religious reasons, or you can say you are straight because of your biology but so far though I know no religion that encourages people to only date and marry people from their own race... even science agrees that people can be straight and it agrees that everyone is from the same species and has ancestors from Africa despite their race... Also imagine being sure that you're perfect match is white what if they are a different race you wouldn't even know cause you're not dating a woman or a man you're dating a race..

[Kingofkings1992]

I don’t see any good reason for it. All races have attractive people. To say that you ONLY find white people attractive is just ridiculous. I’m not sure I’d say it’s racism necessarily, but it’s definitely silly and childish.

[Bklynbadboy12]

That's not recents at all. You just have a personal preference and there's nothing wrong with that. You like what you like. 🙂🙂🙂🙂

[Bklynbadboy12]

That's not racist at all

[Jackblue]

No you are allowed to have any preferences you want.

[Staximus]

That depends. There are European, Asian, middle Eastern, and Indian people with white skin

[AngryCarl]

I consider it freedom of choice. The government doesn't yet control your dating habits.