My boyfriend gave me money for my trip... I feel guilty accepting it. How would you feel?

[Shygirl901]

My boyfriend has been out of a job for about 4 weeks. He just got a job yesterday, but hasn't started yet. He gave me a good amount of money for my trip to new york next week. I feel guilty accepting it because he doesn't have that much left in his savings, and he gave me so much... I already have money saved up for it. But he said he just wanted to ensure that if something were to happen while I was in new York, like if I got seperated from the rest of the group... that I had extra cash to get a cab or a hotel or whatever I may need... He said it would make him feel so much better if I let him give it to me. I answered "if it will help put you at ease while I am away, than I guess you can give me some... But not very much!"

Should I not feel guilty? Or do you think I am reasonable in why I feel guilty?

Wouldn't feel guilty

Would accept the money but feel a little guilty about it.

Wouldn't have accepted the money.

[Darkfairie17]

I wouldn't feel guilty. He wanted to give you the money so he would have peace of mind. You don't have to spend it. If my boyfriend did that for me, I would understand :) Your boyfriend sounds very sweet and he must love you very much. I would take it with you, but not spend it if you don't have to. And then give it back to him after :)

I would definitely not want to take it of course. I don't want my boyfriend to ever feel like he has to give me anything. But this is something my boyfriend would totally do :P He cares a lot and I love him for it. I would maybe get him a nice gift with some of the money. Or maybe when you come back, take him out to do something romantic with it. Save some of it for a rainy day too. If he needs the money down the road, it's there :)

[bunnahies]

if it was me I would never accept it unless I REALLY needed it and if he forced it...ill leave it in my savings and save it up for him. if he can't handle his money, I will. ill save it up for him and give it when he needs it.

but that's just me. I don't think you should be feeling guilty. you didn't make him feel bad! he offered cause he care! sometimes guys just likes the feeling they can take care of you/support you. let him!

[Anonymous]

He gave it to you because he wanted to. He was being considerate. Stop feeling guilty. Haven't you ever done anything considerate for your boyfriend before? Should he have felt guilty all those times you did x, y, and z for him? No. So don't feel guilty when this guy does something for you.

[Shygirl901]

Okay, thank you!

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

I'd probably not want to accept it, but if they kept insisting, I'd take it but want to give them it back in time or do something for them.

[aventaes]

just take it with you try not to need it and then give it back problem solved

[Shygirl901]

He won't take the money back, He already told me that...

[aventaes]

then maybe buy him a gift with it something he always wanted or so he can't not accept a gift from you

[Shygirl901]

Okay, thank you. I think that is a good idea!

I will have to listen very carfully to what he says, see if I pick up on anything that he says he wants.

[aventaes]

i like the fact you're not willing to take advantage, it proves you're a good person :)

[Shygirl901]

Thank you! That is very kind of you!

[Vasillilaw]

I think one of those answers should have been... would have felt like a hooker.

[Shygirl901]

Hahahaha... Not an option 8) we are both waiting for sex until marriage. So I wouldn't have felt like a hooker at all.



...But I if that's how you would feel...

[Vasillilaw]

Lol! (:

[1stranger]

I mean.. Yeah I'm guilty, I love you.. you..
Now bed time😘..

[1stranger]

Babe which girl are you asking?
Who are you curious about? I don't get it..

[1stranger]

Haa... the guy.. I don't want to tell in public😄

[1stranger]

I just don't want everyone here to know/hear what I'm about to tell you. I want some things to stay between you and me. That's all😌

[1stranger]

Babe good night, sweet dreams😘

[1stranger]

I guess you are not busy, babe🤭.. typing typing

[1stranger]

Ahhhh yeah I agree 🤩 I love your fantasy. Can I be the one who licked?😋

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't it just shoes he really cares about you, if you feel bad about it don't waste it and give it back to him when you get back.

[Shygirl901]

I told him if I didn't use it I would give it back. And he told me just to keep it, that he didn't want me to give it back. Just to use I for gas money or something.

[Dom163]

If they insisted yes would I want to? No I just wouldn't use it and give it back or something