Do you think women can really get sex whenever they want/easier than men?

[ManOnFire]

First off, I know most people are probably going to say yes, and I have my own idea about the situation really, but I'm not gonna say it until you answer. And I want sincere, thought-out answers from everybody, not any of that goofy college campus-level thinking about guys fukking fat girls cuz they can't laid with anybody else. That's just stupid deductions. I want serious, for real answers here.

Also, for females: have you ever approached a guy for sex and really got it every time? And don't lie about the times you may have been turned down either. I notice chicks do this pretty often.

[Plato]

Depends on her level of education, her experience (overall), her age, her social status, her economic status etc. Pile this up together and see your compatibility. Even women in relationships can cheat if there's the right guy. Then again, it's no different for guys. Once you reach a very high level of understanding, a lot of people will come off so childish that sex won't even seem deep enough without some kind of good personality that has substance. So I'm going to say a general YES if she's good looking and social, and a big fat NO if she's introverted and not good looking.

[ManOnFire]

What if a guy is good looking and social too?

[Plato]

Cool, someone voted my answer down. Um... If a guy's good looking and social it's less likely to happen, there's not as much distinctness because the culture here has a certain convention. More often than not, it's conventional for the guy to ask the girl out or to do whatever chivalry, so if a girl's hot and social, then she only needs to pick and choose, while if a guy's good looking, he may still have to ask a girl out and wait for her response. Seriously, who's the loser who voted down my opinion?

[ManOnFire]

Are you basing this on researched social science or your own true perspective?

[Plato]

It's not a peer-reviewed-journal, it's a website where half the people can't spell properly. Why are you being a pedant? If you want some sort of research done, go to a university and do some research yourself, you can't expect social scientists or academics on a site that isn't really based on empirical evidence. You're dealing with persons who relate phenomenologically. Pedant.

[ManOnFire]

No, that's my point. I don't want university research. I want answers from real people.

[Plato]

Okay. I'll answer your question as best I could. You can't have any universal way of telling he's going to get laid and who's not. But in all likelihoods and I think it can be confirmed, a beautiful woman, in many public places is usually looked at, more often than a handsome guy in the same place. You can't really make a science out of this and it's different from place to place, culture, country, faith or whatever. I don't know why this question is a big deal to you.

[ManOnFire]

Beautiful women do get looked at, but handsome men get looked at too. How we view how much the other is looked at is still unknown though. As men we're not going to imagine that we get looked at often even though we really may. I agree that you can't make a science out of it, that's kinda what I'm trying to prove here. I ask this question as part of what I'm doing for a book I'm writing.

[Plato]

Okay. You know what's a really good idea? This website's not going to help your work, you should go to places that are hot spots for single attractive young women and young men, analyze age group by age group, behaviour. You have to exhaust cultures, personalities, behaviours, experience, education. You have to exhaust their combinations, and the area as well, and the year, and the world events that shape the outlook of the world. Are you up to the challenge?

[ManOnFire]

It's a work in progress, but I do plan on getting in depth like that at some point in the future. I'm not depending on websites to help me, but I like to start with them as a way to see people's experiences and all.

[Plato]

I don't think testimony is going to make for a good start though. If you want my honest opinion, and I'm not trolling anymore: try and exhaust a person's life - reduce it as much as you can, categorically organize personalities, but don't make it rigid, just as a means of making intelligible the phenomenology of people. I do think that everything's predetermined, so I also think that you can get something out of it, but it takes a lot of thought. May I ask what's the whole point of such a research?

[ManOnFire]

To prove that there's more to a woman getting sex easy than her just being attractive or asking for sex. To show that despite how many men pursue women for sex, it's more to it than that just meaning a woman has lots to choose from.

[Plato]

You also have to be careful. Even if today you could come up with the truth, being women getting sex 55% easier than men, by some unknown figure, that figure won't be the same as tomorrow, or the next year. And the warrant for the earlier figure won't be applicable for another time, do you get what I'm saying? You have to crack into the phenomenology of people, but be careful, psychology is a pretty desultory pseudo-science in the theory-level. Descriptive psychology, or maybe a weak form of behaviourism is useful somewhat. I don't know what else I've got.

[ManOnFire]

Right. I'm not really looking for numbers or percentages, so that's really the least of it. Numbers and percents are for people who need those to help them make up their minds. I know exactly what you mean, all things vary at all different times.

[Plato]

Well, you're implicitly forming a sort of likelihood in writing your article while attacking other likelihoods. There's no way to tell if your sample has any bearing on how a person will behave next - I prefer it when we examine details after the fact. Say, you ask 50 men of various ages about their past encounters, and that itself would have much more bearing than if you ask 50 men of various ages about how they might encounter an attractive woman. To be honest, I sympathize with you that the stereotype of desperate men for attractive women is a myth, but it seems there's something lacking, but it was an interesting read.

[ManOnFire]

Interesting point. I'll keep that in mind.

[Plato]

Alright man, good luck.

[Anonymous]

This is very age-dependent, and varies from society to society.

In more conservative societies, women can't just afford to sleep around... for a number of complex reasons.

Also, though I may be an exception, I've turned down more offers than the number of women I've had sex with. For reasons of my beliefs. (Maybe women are more tuned into you once they know that you're more hard to get!)

[musicbrain5]

Only if she is attractive to the guys she is approaching. The same goes for guys seeking out sex from random women. Overall, I don't think either gender has it easier when it comes to approaching people for a sexual encounter. Although it's likely easier for men and women alike to get sex from a stranger than it is to get sex from a particular person (their crush or something, for example).

I'm not interested in casual sex though, and I don't do it. So I've never approached a guy with that goal in mind.

[ManOnFire]

Brilliant.

[musicbrain5]

Ha thanks :)

[RedSnowBunny]

I don't think it's necessarily easier. Whether it's a man or women, no one is going to jump into bed with someone unless they find them attractive and can socialize on a basic level. Men supposedly have a higher sex drive, but they also tend to be more visual that females do. So the chances of them having sex with just any girl isn't very high in my opinion.

[ManOnFire]

Interesting point!

[Cleveland]

I don't know if women have it easier given I don't randomly approach guys for sex, but I would think it comes down to whether or not the person being approached is open to casual sex and attracted to the person asking. Final answer, I think it's 50/50.

[ManOnFire]

Me too. Great answer.

[udolipixie]

Do you think women can really get sex whenever they want/easier than men?
Yes however to me that's not an advantage considering gals generally don't orgasm.

So to me this ability of gals is like saying a person can eat for free by dumpster diving.

have you ever approached a guy for sex and really got it every time?
No as for me masturbation pwns sex every time. I have never approached a guy for sex to me that is illogical as I enjoy my orgasms and my orgasm is my responsibility. It'd be a sh*tty way of handling my responsibility by approaching a guy for sex considering the seeming norm selfishness in males he'd likely be thinking 'I'm getting laid' not how to please me and ensure I orgasm.

[Mark-Ego-Almencion]

quality post. Vote you up.

Hello Udol. :)

[upsyndrome]

Maybe not WHENEVER they want.. but most of the time, women essentially decide if men get sex. Many men literally go out and look for someone to have sex with. In terms of comparison, more women than men are ok with not having sex.. or having less sex. With that being said.. men pretty much line themselves up for women. I can literally walk outside ask some random dude to fuck and the odds of him saying yes are in my favor.

I have never ever asked a guy for sex. I value sexual intimacy. Can't go out there giving it willy-nilly.

[ManOnFire]

I've heard this said before. Now I can say what I know here: men who "line themselves up for women" do it why? Because they know they CAN get sex. If it really NEVER worked, or worked rarely, men would never try. So that's how women don't decide if men get sex. Where one woman isn't interested, a man can usually get it with another woman, and not somebody "fat and ugly." To be honest, I think women tend to think that they can get sex easier as really a way of countering the very real fact that it hasn't been that hard for men to get sex from them, and it bothers women. If this wasn't true then you wouldn't have so many women who complain of feeling "used" or "cheap" after the guy got it from them, and wouldn't have so many unwanted pregnancies.

[upsyndrome]

Men can get sex because women allow it. You're proving my point.

[ManOnFire]

In some sense women CAN allow it, but you weren't seeing my point. Women can turn down whoever they want, but it's often harder for her to get sex with a guy she wants. Even if you were to walk outside and ask a random guy to fuck you, that still doesn't mean the odds are in your favor because he has to find you attractive first. Just because you ask for it doesn't necessarily make it sexy for a guy.

[upsyndrome]

Your question isn't about having sex with proper attachment (or with the man she wants).. your question is about a women wanting sex in general. I responded accordingly.

[ManOnFire]

False. You just contradicted it. My question was if you think women can GET sex easier, not if she wants it. So my point is, she can't necessarily GET sex easier even if she WANTS it.

[upsyndrome]

Women can get sex easier.. because men line up for them.. because women give men sex.

speaking generally.

[ManOnFire]

The problem with this is that you're assuming men in general are lining up for women. A man still has preferences.

[Anonymous]

I went to a bar once and whispered in a girls ear "I have a huge penis". That was the least amount of effort I have ever had to put into getting laid.

[ManOnFire]

Wow!

[Opinion Owner]

I have to admit, I really did not think that would work. I had just gotten rejected by a long time friend and figured "why the fuck not". That was the first and last time I used my penis for evil.

[ManOnFire]

LoL! Not hard to believe really.

[kheserthorpe]

Yes, obviously.

An overweight woman can post an ad online asking for men to come have sex with her, and she will get takers. They might not be very exciting takers, but she will get takers.

An average man could post an ad online asking for women to come over to his place and have sex, and he would get zero genuine responses. Zero. Not 'only ugly girls'. He'd get none.

Women cannot get it every time, but they can get it at a far higher rate than men.

Can some men get laid easily? Yes. But far more men than woman find it hard to get an average or somewhat below average partner.

[ManOnFire]

Some of this is true, but anybody can find sex with someone online pretty easily. I know from some of my own experience. I haven't ever met for it but I've met women who have said they'd definitely want to meet me for sex cuz they thought I was good looking. What most people can't accept is that if going online to meet women for sex REALLY never worked, not even 1% of the time, you would never have the men who seek it even try. Just that 1% is still enough to motivate them, and in truth men are meeting women - and girls - online for sex a lot more than that. And to make it worse, a lot of the women meeting men for sex are not even necessarily the ones with sleazy, pornagraphic profiles but actually very average, woman-next-door ones. So this is why men who seek it keep doing it, knowing that they'll be able to get success. Does it work every time? Of course not, but it works enough.

[kheserthorpe]

You can. I could. There are plenty of guys here who are struggling and getting zero opportunities.

Of course it works for some men, but for others it works rarely or not at all.

But none of what you say matters. I am not saying that men cannot get casual sex. I am saying that women get casual sex more easily, with a higher success rate. Women can relatively easily get casual sex with men who are better looking then they are.

[BC1001]

Best Answer. I've seen some overweight/fat women with good looking guys but never the other way around.

[ManOnFire]

It still doesn't work. People think a woman doesn't have to do anything or look good to get sex. This is really rarely the case. Just because a woman could ask a guy for sex at random, doesn't mean it's sexy for the man if he doesn't find her attractive. Men who can't get any sex are usually the ones who "take what they can get." Most men don't really have the "struggle" that people talk about.

[kheserthorpe]

If you think it's only a few guys that struggle to get laid easily, ... then we just disagree.

[ManOnFire]

Which is fine. I think you're basing the struggle a lot off guys on the Internet and the whole bars and club thing. I know guys for real who get it pretty easily.

[kheserthorpe]

I know guys who do, i know guys who don't.

I honestly don't know any women who couldn't get laid in 24 hours if they were motivated to.

[ManOnFire]

I know some who said they tried it and couldn't get laid at all. And they were attractive too.

[kheserthorpe]

I think that most women, actually, have the pick up game of the average 11 year old boy. But they have, on average, highly refined 'be attractive' skills. men tend to be the reverse.

[tzdc21]

They could walk up to a random guy on the streets and ask if he wants to bang her, and he will be very tempted to say yes. I say very tempted because if he's smart, he's gonna be cautious. Whereas a man walking to a woman and doing the same thing, he's going to jail. So yes. Women can get sex much easier then men.

[princesswitch]

I'm not really into casual sex anymore, but when I was it was always really easy to find a more than willing attractive partner. I usually never did the approaching but the one time I was rejected was because the guy's best friend was in love with me and literally lived in the next room.

[ManOnFire]

How old were you when you did casual?

[princesswitch]

17-20

[ManOnFire]

So you were always the one approaching the guy for sex first?

[princesswitch]

No, I said I rarely ever did the approaching.

[ManOnFire]

But the times you did, you always got it?

[princesswitch]

That's right

[ManOnFire]

Were all the guys black? I'm black too btw.

[princesswitch]

No. Mostly white and middle eastern guys.

[Anonymous]

Not necessarily for a man she really wants to have sex with. And women don't get very excited by the idea of having sex with anyone they can. To be excited, they need to be attracted to him and in many cases, feel some level of connection/trust.

[Opinion Owner]

I threw myself at a friend once when i was drunk and he turned me down because he wanted to get with one of our other friends. Then he teased me about it for ages. I felt dumb, but luckily someone does something dumb in high school all the time so everyone else stopped teasing me. Haha!

[ManOnFire]

What women don't understand is that a man has to be attracted to the woman too in order for her to even be able to get sex. Just because a woman might offer it doesn't necessarily make it sexy for a guy.

[Opinion Owner]

I think, on average, women desire sex from specific men. Say, they're crushing on a particular guy and that guy may not be interested and she's competing with other girls for his attention sometimes. Guys are more likely to think "I want laid" and then try with a wide swath of interchangeable partners. When girls feel that generic craning to get off, they usually just masturbate - because as udolipixie said, random hookups are usually unfulfilling or even unpleasant.

[ManOnFire]

But men desire sex from specific women too, this is what women don't understand. And still applies to your idea of guys trying with a large group of interchangeable partners. Men have particular women in mind who are attractive to them, and that's different for every man.

[Opinion Owner]

That's what I mean, though. More women often want to sleep with a specific guy and only him whereas more guys I've been out with are open to anyone who fits a certain set of criteria.

[ManOnFire]

So basically you're saying that men can actually have sex with anyone they want, versus women who can't necessarily get sex from whoever they want.

[Opinion Owner]

No, I don't think either sex can have sex with anyone they want or any time they want.

I was just explaining how a small minority of guys whose criteria is "any woman who'll have sex with me" perpetuates this myth. Because their criteria is so vast, they assume everyone's is and it's just not true.

[Your_Personal_Drug]

I gotta say it's a lot easier for women! I don't go picking guys up in clubs but when I would speak to a guy and we would hit it off it was very rare that I would get turned down, I'm not denying I never got turned down but it's only happened a couple of times.

[ManOnFire]

So you're saying when you hit it off with these guys it was usually in clubs?

[Your_Personal_Drug]

Or sometimes I'll meet up with people I started talking to or when they have given me their numbers, it was just the first example that popped into my head.

[dinosawrroxxxo]

I think it is easier for woman. Personally, I have never approached someone out of a relationship for sex and I haven't been refused, but have turned down people. I want sex to be intimate, not casual.

[Anonymous]

YES YES YES YES YES YES YES AND YES. All a woman as to do is look decent and guys will come. But guys have to prove themselves worthy of sex hell they have to prove their even worth dating. That's why I hate being a guy. We have to work twice as hard to get noticed and to get sex.

[Anonymous]

Of course they can. She wouldn't even need to leave her home. Just put an ad on Craigslist

But can they easily get sex from the specific guy they want? Not necessarily.

[ManOnFire]

Exactly. That's what I was about to say. Even being pursued for sex on the Internet doesn't exactly work for women either.

[abundantlyrich]

I don't give what's between my legs freely. *evil laugh*

[abundantlyrich]

Phat girls are more confident

[CommieDearest]

I've never been a guy, but I am confident that I could get laid pretty much any time I wanted to. I don't do that, of course. But yes, I think women have more options than men when it comes to casual sex, because more men are receptive to it.

[ManOnFire]

But that still doesn't mean a guy is open to casual sex with just any woman. This is what women aren't getting. Just because you make yourself open to it or offer it still doesn't mean a guy necessarily thinks that's sexy or that you are because you're into it. A man still has preferences to begin with. What women also don't realize is that it's not easy for them to get sex with the guy THEY want.

[CommieDearest]

I never said anything you're defending haha.

[mike5150]

Sure they can but why have sex with just anyone? If they have standards or a specific type of guy they go for then it will be much more difficult

[dwiller943]

Yes. But more times than not, it's when we DON'T want it.

[bubbletrouble]

Women can get sex whenever they want but not with whom they want

[ManOnFire]

Where one woman isn't interested, a man can usually get it with another woman, and not somebody "fat and ugly." To be honest, I think women tend to think that they can get sex easier as really a way of countering the very real fact that it hasn't been that hard for men to get sex from them, and it bothers women. If this wasn't true then you wouldn't have so many women who complain of feeling "used" or "cheap" after the guy got it from them, and wouldn't have so many unwanted pregnancies.

[bubbletrouble]

Nope, don't agree.

[ManOnFire]

I know you don't, but not to sound rude, I'm older than you with more experience.

[Internet_Monster]

If you actually think about it then yes it is easier for women to get laid.

[Princessofpersia]

No I have no game

[ManOnFire]

Lol.

[Princessofpersia]

Im serious

[TheNewClassic]

Yes, thats true.

[ManOnFire]

What has your experience been to say it's true?