I'm 19 and never been kissed, had a boyfriend, etc. is this normal? (Page 2)
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It's fine. Kiss and date someone because you love them not for the sake of saying you've kissed or had a boyfriend. Don't turn into one of those loose girls who does everything with every guy. Wait for the right person he will come :)
I like this advice :)
I'm really glad I found this entry, because this is really similar to my own situation. I'm 19, a junior in college and have never had a boyfriend. In high school this never really bothered me, because I was never really serious about a guy before. But now, only one year until I graduate college, it really does bother me that I've never had a boyfriend. Yet, I think it's because I want something more serious in a relationship. I am also not know who really drinks or parties much. I don't have anything against it...it's just not who I am. I try to stay positive and think...yeah someday it will happen, but I realize that it's hard. I guess what we have to do is convince ourselves we are beautiful and although we don't have anyone at the moment, we need to gain confidence in ourselves regardless.
There's nothing abnormal about anything you described. First of all, there is no such thing as "normal' in the first place, so don't judge yourself in relation to other people. Be yourself. It's a good thing to find someone that doesn't drink, do drugs, and have to rush into things and can maintain dignity and respect. Give yourself time, everyone has a different process. Good luck.
Hey
DON'T WORRY
because
I'm 16 and 6ft 3
I've never even held hands with someone before. It really bothers me. I never show it, but it does. Guys never show interest in me, and I feel like something is wrong with me. People always tell me how beautiful and nice I am and stuff, but guys never ask me out, or try to spend time with me...But hey they are missing out on some AMAZING people and
we DESERVE to be treated with ROYALTY
Not to sound like a jerk, but it's because you're 6'3. Guys don't like dating girls that are taller than them. It emasculates them. Also, most guys assume that women only want to date guys that are taller than them. Girls always tell me that they want a taller guy so they can wear heals without being taller than them. It's not really fair, but you just have to work harder to get guys to look past that. Just be fun and friendly around guys and eventually you'll find one.
I know your not a JERK but I've never had a guy but I'm myself which isn't working with the guys but if I do get a guy intrested they are normally from 20 -33 :( and its the people I don't really talk to
Just be happy with yourself and don't worry about what anyone else thinks of you. The very worst thing you can do for yourself is sit and wonder how to make other people like you. It isn't possible in any case. People in general are f***ed up--esp young people--so I wouldn't use them as a guide. Take pride in your uniqueness.
I'm 19 and I've never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl only loved one person but she had a boyfriend.
It's not because I can't its because I don't want to. I've rejected many offers kindly, I only wan't to go into a relationship when I know it will be serious when I know It will go far and I know that I can support her finacially aswell as any other way she needs me to.
Theres no point having points few months relationships that will go no further than 4months.
The first thing you need to do is not compare yourself to other girls. You said you were a quiet girl but I think you should put yourself out there. Start small at first like talking to guys that stand in line with you. Just make small talk. You can say things like, "that's a nice sweater" or "It is super cold outside today". If he is interested he will continue the conversation. Don't come on to strong though. Just know that sometimes you have to take risks. And the worst someone can say is no. :)
hey don't get down...u are perfectly normal...i have tons of friends 20-22 who have never had a real relationship...you are quiet so in my opinion that's probably why...i think guys, like girls, are always up for the risk so if they're not getting clear signs from you then they're not gonna risk it...if you're in college, parties is usually where people meet each other but a lot of the time these relationships are superficial... just hang in there for a guy to sweep you off your feet girl!
i think you should keep being yourself .. don't try to be a bad girl all of the sudden because you want a guy to like u... many time those vulgar girls end up dumped
just try to be friendly if you like a guy go and tlk to him... smile a lot and just be fun
i laugh a lot but not in an annoying way and I have come to realize that guys like that
dont be shy and pretend that he's really funny haha trust me they love that lol
idk... just be cute and dress nicely wear chapstick or lipgloss.. not too much make up and
like I said be yourself and just have fun(=
Hey,
Life is little bit of tears and pears.
1. K try to get attracted first.
2. Wear some hot dresses.
3. Be hot always.
4. Try to be fashionable always.
5. Its good you don't smoke but don't say others guys don't smoke for some.
6. And try to have more friends tempt guys on theirs ways.
7. Be confidenton yourself.
8. And if you feel you want to know more about dressing sense and guys attraction email to me I'm a fashion designer.
9. I've a parlor where the text on the flux is " Don't trust the ladies who comes out of this parlor. Because it may even be you grand mother"
10. Fairness is not it face it is in mind and the way you take it
Don't worry for ever do contact me if you really wanna be noticed by all.
Note: Don't ask such questions in a open site this make bring trick to you.
Email: delisharow@rocketmail.com
Cheers,
Neo
I know how you feel as I have the same inexperience. I'm an extremely introverted person so I don't pursue girls usually and they definitely don't me. Normal? I wouldn't know really. Those standards have drastically changed in the last 50-60 years. Id guess in 1950 you would be considered a normal, healthy young girl but now you might be seen as prude. I really don't know what to say to help but just know you aren't alone in this at least.
You should probably pose that as a poll question, but in my experience it is NOT normal. Try a dating site if you're against parties. Most men such as myself have given up asking- the game was so confusing with "playing hard to get," and the like, that we decided to just play it cool, see what options present themselves, and then act on it accordingly. Good luck and happy hunting!
yes it is normal. I was 21 when I had my first boyfriend and first kiss. I was really chossy with guys.
dont be pressured dear. :) its not like you are a loser or you're not attractive or pretty. always follow your feelings. don't rush into things. just let it out. try to have fun.
I know what you mean. I'm a girl too; the same age and I see the same thing. It does make any sense to me either. We have a certain respect and dignity to ourselves that I think is fine to have, healthy even. However, I also think that to most of the people our age and what not, it's not seen as such an important quality. Though it should be, and that is not our fault. We might just have to wait a bit longer than most and in the process, end up avoiding some unnecessary drama from not so good people.
If you really are both kind and cute, that's hard to find. Most guys aren't afraid of rejection when it comes to girls that aren't like that, but when you meet a girl that both kind and cute, it's hard to ask if you might get rejected. Try asking a guy out that you like, but make sure he'll treats you kindly. You have to remember they're in the same situation your in.
I guess its that girls like you...and guy like you never meet up cause they don't go to those kinda social events where those things (drugs sex drink) happen
I am pretty much like you in that I don't do those things...But I have had contact with females sexually.
Hi, I just want to say hang in there because I was 20 when I had my first kiss and my first boyfriend. There is NOTHING wrong with you. Most likely, you are just quiet and a little shy. People tell me I'm beautiful and etc, and I'm 22 and I've only had one boyfriend. Also, not partying makes it harder to meet guys as well (same problems here)
I think you're normal. I haven't done any of those things with a guy either. I mean guys have liked me and they have told me, but I just didn't want to go out with them or have a boyfriend. It's not like I don't know how to be with a guy it's just I don't want to. I want to be pure so the guy that steals my heart can have all of me without having all the guys I previously went out with too.
you're still young! you'll find him. I dated after highschool . I think it's better that way because when iwas in highschool I wasn't that secure about myself yet
think how I feel, I'm a 21 year old guy, almost 22 and never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, always been single, and us guys have the added difficulty of having to be the one to make the first move, start a conversation, ask the girl out.