I honestly think it's of the actions we didn't take; the chances we never took.
I remember that in the story of Icarus he flew too close to the sun, and we all remember not to shoot too high, but we do not remember that Icarus was also told not to fly too close to the ground as well, to not shoot too low.
We know not to surrender to arrogance, and grasping at straws, but we also know not to surrender to subserviance, to stagnation. It's just that we do not get reminded enough of the latter to recognize that sooner.
It's better to shoot high and miss the moon, than to aim at an ocean, and hit.
I don't want to be dying in my final moments, thinking, "if only I had..."
Look into Prince EA's video of, "WHY EVERYBODY DIES, BUT NOT EVERYBODY LIVES"
It’s too broad a topic, so I’ll focus on relationships.
In relationships regret in not making a decision, which can last a lifetime. This can be you wallowing, or making scenarios of what-if’s.
Rejection is instantaneous, and you obtain catharsis and closure. It’s a step in understanding not everyone will like you, and this shouldn’t diminish your self worth.
A video I reccomend on rejections and regret.
To regret something you did, for sure. The something you didn't do is the simple unknown and even if you did whatever you wished you did, the results may not have been good, you'd never know.
But to know something you did created a domino effect of a series of bad results... That's terrible, and all you had to do was not do that ONE thing.
Be careful on that slope. Use the fear of regret on things you can reference as long term goals. Then use the fear of not doing something on money based or family based decisions.
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Hard to say. Its easy to regret the things we didn't do because we tend to believe they could've turned out really well while ignoring the fact that it could have been equally disastrous or just plain meh. Its this fear of missing out that's so ingrained in our subconscious that makes us think that if we don't do something then we've made this huge mistake.
Its like when someone wins an award or something, we think that they're super smart and awesome and their life is amazing. Then when we win something similar, we think we're still unimportant and downplay our accomplishments.
FOMO, grass is greener in the other side, its all part of the sake tendency to downplay our accomplishments, experiences, and decisions and overvalue others. We don't realize that sometimes not doing something is better than doing something. We just have to remember that the things we don't do probably wouldn't be nearly as rewarding as our minds make them out to be.
Also, once we do something we can't take it back. I'm sure we all have stuff that we wish we could have a do-over on but have to live with the decisions that we made.
Regrets are pretty complex but I’d agree that it’s the regret of inaction that can last a lifetime.. folk generally don’t regret telling a bad joke or betting money on the lottery and not winning but they would if they had the winning numbers and never bought the ticket.
I regret doing something that enabled someone else to fuck me over.
The thing is you have to be in a place to know to stay out of it.
Meaning, if a person has lost his leg and regrets doing it, it's better than if he didn't do it but also didn't know not to do it and might even get injured harder or even die next time.
So I agree with you.
Nobody ever looked back and said "I wish I'd played it safer"
I've made some big mistakes in my life, but the only ones I regret are the ones where I had an opportunity and didn't take it.
Its definitely worse to regret something you didn't do.. In most cases you can't go back and do it and if you did something you regret then at least you can learn from your mistake
Something you didn't have the guts to do.
But above all, is better to never regret. If you choose to do (or not do) something, you have to support your decision with all within you.
I agree and think regrets over things you wished you’d done are longer lasting than most regrets of things you have done.
I have experienced both: regret not doing something and regretted something that occurred. I got over what occurred but still hate myself for something I did not do but should've done.
difficult to say, both are bad and depending on different scenario's regretting something you did could be far worse than regretting not doing it, and vice versa ofcourse.
It depends on how bad the thing is to do, or how good it is to do. Never not acting, when it will hurt someone. Try to act, when it will help someone.
to regret not doing something...
Rather than saying if it is better to do that thing so that you can learn from it (even though it will be a regret)
Our pain and bitter experience can nurture us to grow as an individual
Eh... usually the things we didn't do are good things that we missed out on, but the things we DID do were colossal fuck ups. I would say that the regret is about 50-50
Regretting stuff and not understanding OWN situation, state of mind and the whole context of that time. That is the worst. ;-)
It depends on the situation. Fucking someone with AIDS is probably worse than not going to a job interview.
It all depends on the effects X thing will have on your life.
I think regreting something you didn't do is far worse
I agree with you - that's how it was for me. Wishing I could go back and get some of that enjoyment I missed along the way.
something you did, cause you already did it and saw the consequences or how it all turned out, not doing something couldve been worse
Depends on the context. Tho it hurts most when you did something because you thought you would regret not doing it and doing that made it worse.
Regret something I did. I can never take that back and it will eat me alive.
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