How did you feel when you last ghosted/got ghosted by someone?

[xJeremyx]

I'm currently halfway through a MyTake about the mentality and reasoning behind ghosting and how to respond to and handle being ghosted, so I thought why not get some experiences from you? It might change what I put in my mytake, so the more the better.

[petitedollbabee]

Like a fool, but in the long term, it was good. I’d poured a lot of effort and time into maintaining a friendship with this person, and then one day they just removed me from all of their social media accounts and stopped responding to my messages. I hadn’t done anything (that I know of?) to cause their avoidance of me. But after a few days I was glad that they ghosted me. It meant I wasn’t the one who had to cut them off, and I had been wasting a lot of my time and effort into making the friendship work when they weren’t putting any effort in. So the friendship would’ve ended eventually anyway, I would’ve gotten sick of it being one sided. Sometimes being ghosted is a blessing in disguise, so I don’t let it effect me long term.

[xJeremyx]

100%. But I also believe that when someone ghosts me, I gotta do some self reflection. Because it may be something that I did wrong that caused it.

[Guy13]

Shocked because it had never happened before... Waste of worry time and energy. It is better to know this personality tendency of "running away" from early.

[xJeremyx]

Ah you brought up something I hadn't thought about.

The people who pull away when they get too close with someone, because of trauma/emotional baggage from past relationships, and they dont want that to happen again.

Good point.

[Guy13]

Looking forward to reading your final version of MyTake. Did the response to your Abstract... how abstract is that make sense?

[xJeremyx]

It kinda did make sense. Abstract-ness is non-quantifiable.

[Guy13]

And may even not Be. Yeah, definitely not touchable or measurable

[Anonymous]

I've never been ghosted, but it must suck.