I started talking to an army man recently on IG and now their saying they love me, ask me questions on marriage, etc. They been through war and such I told them I don't feel the same. They kept talking sweetly and such and making me uncomfortable. I told them night and to be careful for their in a dangerous situation. I'm uncomfortable because I'm in my 20s and their in their 40s. I blocked them. I feel so guilty for doing that and not telling them why or saying anything
Should I feel guilty for what I did?
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It's definitely not a great thing that you did, but he really shouldn't be talking to someone that much younger than him, or saying that he loves you after such little time. There are better ways to handle it, but I think you did the right thing by breaking contact.
No one can tell you how to feel. What do your morals say? Do you feel peace of mind by that decision? Those are the things that matter. Personally if I were talking to someone to the extent that they can say they love me, then I’d definitely give them the closure of saying goodbye. I also know how it feels to be ghosted and wouldn’t do that to someone else. But that’s me and how my morals are, so take a look at yourself and do what you can live with.
I've been ghosted before but we just started talking quite recently not long at all after the question of marriage and such I got quite uncomfortable and figured best nor to say a thing
I don’t blame you for feeling uncomfortable for talking about those things too soon. Personally I’ve never met an army man who didn’t rush things along with a woman, maybe it’s fear of dying when on duty or acting on their loneliness, who knows, but it can be very intense. I’m not saying you’re wrong for backing out, my only point is that you should do what makes you comfortable and gives you peace of mind.
you started this. and you ended it. a kind person would give an explanation for that even if he was acting weird. say your peace and move on
They texted me first, I didn't start it. I try to be a kind person but I'm not good at confrontation
well, you don't owe him anything. you shouldn't feel bad. i'm sure he's been blocked before with behavior like that