Is quarter-life crisis a thing?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Quarter-life crisis is defined as a crisis "involving anxiety over the direction and quality of one's life" which is most commonly experienced in a period ranging from a person's early twenties up to their mid-thirties.

I'm not sure if that counts, but sometimes I feel that at 25 I have already done everything - got married, had children, got my dream job and a beautiful house I'm thankful for. Sometimes I feel like that's it and I'm not sure what the next years could hold. Then it passes, and I read it'a normal to have such moments.

[OlderAndWiser]

The fact that you at times feel accomplished means that you have developed self-confidence. The fact that you realize your coming years are for more and different things means you have some intelligence and circumspection.

Focus on how to make yourself more valuable to others and you will always have happiness.

[Anonymous]

It's definitely a thing for me because it's hard to see everyone around me who are in similar positions as you while I'm still trying to figure things out. Gotta remind myself that everyone lives life differently and it's okay to not meet social standards or expectations. No one ever knows what the future holds and thinking too hard about it can send you into a pretty deep spiral of anxiety. You seem to be at a point where you've achieved everything expected of you so now you really just get to decide how you want to continue experiencing life. Do you want mundane routine or do you want a new hobby or do you want to go experience/learn something new? Life is just about the experience. You've still got a long time to go.

[NZGirl07]

I definitely think it is.

For me I'm in my early 20s and I have a flat with my partner and our friend, I study at university and work as well.

I'm happy with my life but at times feel lost, not sure what to do when I graduate etc. But I think everyone feels that.

My brother closer to his 30s also struggles at times, although he is a frequent traveller with lots of great job opportunities.

I think as humans, especially in our 20s, we struggle with what our purpose and direction is. But it comes together over time.

[bean2k21]

In short, you are "living a lie."

Marriage, children, your career, a house -- these are things that society tells you are what makes you happy. So, you listen and work very hard for them. But now that you have obtained them, you think, ok well then why am I not happy? Didn't I do exactly what society wanted me to do?

Yes, you did what "they" told you was going to make you happy. That's the whole problem. You never listened to yourself.

[AffectionKing]

I had a 30 year old life crisis about a month ago. I called it a young life crisis. For older people telling me they wish they were in their 30’s. They’re in their 50’s and up. So I feel your pain. I had my life some what straightened out by time I was 28. But I’m going into a different career. Don’t get credit cards or if you’re in usa don’t do student loans. I didn’t move out on my own until I was 27. So I think late 20’s things should get better.

[lightbulb27]

yes, can be. life will change ever 10 years, some changes are harder than others. letting go of the past and choosing new course is... the work.

[Pinay_ako]

We all go through crisis at some point of our lives at any age… it’s normal. Don’t overthink it. You’re not alone

[DryGermanGuy]

Must be a relatively new felt phenomenon, I never heard of it or anyone experiencing it. We were busy living the life at that age.

[Lucy68]

Sometimes I think I am going through a quarter life crisis honestly 🙁😅

[Haha456]

25 is not a quarter life crisis. most people die in their 70s. 1/3rds of your life is already over.

and to answer your question, yes it is really a thing. i am experiencing it.

[FreyaRed]

How many crises have some people in their pointless existence? Sometimes I'm glad to be jaded.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

You've done more in your life than most people have by the time they're 40 lol

Good on you man. You grew up fast

[clampfan101]

Sounds like something I’m going through, except instead of having everything I have nothing.

[art84]

Impressive, I wish I could have done that in my 20's.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes. And it's completely normal. Don't worry!

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Thank you my friend

[Jamie05rhs]

You're welcome!

[melanieeeB]

I'm sure it is

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Pretty much, that can happen at any time.

[DeanFreed]

No
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