Even as a kid, I don't recall being too affectionate with my parents and don't say elaborated words either. I love my family but I'm not into giving too much hugs nor frequently saying I love you to anyone.
I was the same with my previous past bfs. I'm not the type say the L word too much, never dedicated a love song to anyone but like spending quality time, doing gestures and making efforts (ex: maybe making your favorite dessert or making you feel comfortable, drama-free, etc) more than talking endless ''I'll forever be with you, oh my eternal love'' worthless talks.
Do I simply lack that female quality by not being overly affectionate? It just doesn't come out naturally in me.
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I've always felt as if I'm wired (my brain) a bit differently. Supposedly being very affectionate should come out naturally for most of us but it doesn't in me. I don't mind briefly expressing my love towards someone after it's been followed by gestures and actions but I would get bored saying ''I love you'' every day and it just doesn't come out in me to be constantly be romantic.
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I think we as a society expect that to be a female trait, yeah.
But it's always better to be what you are then pretend to be what you're not. I know I exhibit a lot of traits that are not considered "sexy" to women.😆 But it's who I am. I'm not going to pretend to be what I'm not. Because the RIGHT woman will accept that about me.
The right guy will accept this about you. And who knows, if you meet the right guy this might change in you. So don't stress. Just be you.👍
yeah I can't be someone I'm not. I figure early in life that if someone doesn't accept you for who you are then they're not the right person.
I think it is supposed to be a female quality, but people are different and it is ok to feel however you feel. It is just important to find somebody who understands that is who you are and is ok with it.
Yeah someone that doesn't know me very well can find me aloof and somewhat detached... when in reality I feel the same as the person that's overly affectionate. It's just different ways, different personalities.
If I were constantly saying ''I love you'' and talking too much romantic things, it would feel as if I were trying to copying someone else. It wouldn't feel like me. My parents and relatives know me well by now. I tend to smile a lot though, that's my way of saying I like your company.
Smiles are great and you don't have to say "I love you" to say I love you, if that makes sense. Be yourself and just be upfront about it.
More like humane quality...
I guess. I just don't feel like saying I love you every day. I suck at poems and doing elaborated ''you're together for eternity'' speeches. I think some of us just aren't natural at it.
Oh no it's completely fine, you don't have to be expressive all the time!