Is it normal to pull away when boyfriend tries to kiss you?

[Anonymous]

So my bf and I have been together for a few months (three) and everytime he tries to kiss me, I automatically pull away. When he tries to touch me (like hand on butt) I get tense and nervous.

I won't lie, I wasn't attracted to him at all at first but his personality was awesome and now I do like him but I just keep hesitating. And he is sooooo patient but I want to be able to not be this way.

He is my first boyfriend <3

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Why do you think I pull away then?

[allwood]

Ask yourself this, how do you feel picturing him having sex with you? If this makes you think negative thoughts then he isn't the right guy for you.
There has to be at least some attraction to begin with in a relationship, not wanting him to kiss you or touch you at all is not a good sign, actually it is a very bad sign, especially if you have kissed other guys before.
You need to get out of this 'relationship' and find someone you are attracted to both inside and out.
Although, I will say, well done for seeing past his looks alone and being attracted to his personality, most girls are too shallow for that, and that shows maturity on your part.
Good luck.

[Asker]

It doesn't make me think bad thoughts, just makes me nervous and tense.

Uh oh :/ I mean after a while I do get comfortable with him but then he will go to visit family and when he comes back, I suddenly pull away again.

Thanks.

[slackercruster]

Are you queer miss? Would you rather have a girl touch and kiss you?

If you like guys, you need to loosen up darling. Just close your eyes and accept a kiss. Or you can turn your head and accept it on the cheek, then maybe work towards the lips.

Yes, you are lucky you got someone patient. He is very respectful of you. I can't fool round that...3 months... Jesus NO!

Next time your with him, hug him, pull him in close, press your breasts up tight to his chest and you kiss him gentle on the lips and thank him for being so patient with you. Good luck!

[Asker]

Jeez I am not queer.

Its not so fucking easy. I have kissed other guys, he is the only one I have issues with.

[Operachic]

I say that you guys just stay friends. If you're not attracted to him, then you're not attracted to him. Even if you say you like his personality a lot, it obviously isn't attractive enough to you to make up for what he's lacking in looks. When that's the case, it's not true love.

[Asker]

:( Its kind of too late for that.

[brendaa]

That's not normal. I mean you guys have been dating for 3 months for heavens sake, the reason you're not kissing him is because you're not physically attracted to him I guess. I don't think this relationship will last very long since you're obviously pushing him away.

[Asker]

I am trying to kiss him its just hard :/ but I do like him I just don't like him touching me. How do I fix it?

[brendaa]

The best thing is to get over it. Let him touch you, guys are suppose to do that. lol they're suppose to grab your waist, your butt, etc. Theyre just admiring your body. I mean when you don't want to be that weird couple that kisses and he doesn't grab your waist and you don't grab his shoulder or whatever. That's odd. lol. The more you let him hold you the more use to it you'll get.

[Asker]

I will try to hold still. When I do he tells me I look super uncomfortable and it makes him feel bad. Will it help me become attracted to him?

[brendaa]

Maybe. I can't answer that for you because I'm not you. Just relax and don't think about how uncomfortable you are.

[Asker]

Okay thanks