My boyfriend has asked me to stop eating pork. Muslim and agnostic relationship? (Page 2)
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he doesn't have to be Muslim not to eat pork.. vegetarians aren't muslim but they feel it wrong to eat animals.. in his case it may not be that but it's similar... I say stop eating out of respect for him. if you're going at this serious relationship thing.. well, it's all about sacrifices, you know?
it'll help you grow as a couple.. when the kids come you can tell them that daddy doesn't eat it and you don't bc daddy doesn't... but they can if they want.. just as long as they eventually understand that they (the kids) have a choice you'll be fine...
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just a big no to this relationship
It said to see that even after he has stopped believing in Islam, he still suffers from its aftereffects. You should try to see where he is coming from. Why does he consider pork bad? Try to explain to him that what comes out of your mouth is worth a lot more than what goes in.
If he truly loves you he shouldn't care if you eat pork or not... You're NOT disrespecting him or his religion by eating pork, besides you do what you think is right and stick to your beliefs not his... Take his into consideration but don't change your life to suit him and Islam.
Let me tell you something, I dated a Muslim and he's as controlling as f. Talking about compromise, why isn't he compromising for my freedom to do what I love. If he loved me, he should let me be myself, and do what I do as long as I have conscience and not harming anyone. I decided to leve him and it was the best decision in my life! :D now I'm happy
And like sometimes when I see the things that he does, they're stupid and harmful to others and hurting others. Now that's what I call a hypocrite. Lol.
Let it go... Let it go... Turn away and slam the door... :D
Out of curiosity what did your ex do that was controlling?
At first he said that he wasn't going to force anything upon me. THEN he started with the guilt manipulation that he says that certain things are wrong in his view because of his religion though he's saying it's ok if I do it, well obviously that would have made me be so concerned about everything I'm doing... It's like a reverse psychology of saying I'm accepting you though you're doing bad things. At the end of the day, I'm tired of all of these manipulative controlling behaviors I called it a stop. I'm free now I'm so happy living the life I should be living.
Feel* to me that's indirectly controlling he knows that I wouldn't let him say that to my face! but he failed a sell trying to make me stop by making me feel guilty...
He dosent bealive in Allah !! So thats not muslim
If he's really care that much about pork he should stopped sleeping with u and drinking our religion is not like a game u can't drink then tell pepole stop pork!! Therse many many things the Muslim should do before he start say thats forbidden or thats not forbidden he should start from himself first ,, anyway I think sciences have proved that pork meat not healthy at all u can google it
Fuck him and his bullshit cult. The "religion" of Islam is about controlling and oppressing women. Tell him to fuck off. Don't give up what you want over a guy who thinks he can control you because of his beliefs.
Eat pork, you should NEVER stop eating something you like because of a stupid belief. That's fucking ridiculous tbh. I don't care if I offended anyone. If you get offended by such things, you should get off the internet.
No, its HIS beliefs. Not yours. You can respect it, you dont need to follow it. Im a vegetarian and my bf respects that. I do NOT force him to change his diets
maybe you can compromise if he's willing to never drink.. after all it's also a good example for your future kids. I don't see why eating pork is worse than drinking, but that's just me.
Tell him you will stop eating pork when bacon stops tasting so good.
He is the one that does not respect you. You are not the one trying to change him.
Dump him now.
It's a stupid teaching. Likely hijacking religion to keep people from eating pork because they didn't cook it correctly and got sick. Just another stupid 'tradition' started via religion hijack. People are so gullable.
he's a fake muslim!
Double standards, picking and choosing between what he desires
Do what you want, dont listen to that nonsense
That's just one step of controlling. Don't let him make your decisions, your body your decision
And plus, bacon is awesome!
NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO... I'LL GO TO HELL AND BACK FOR BACON. FUCK IT.
This lady has it right.
Hey, he is just like me, but I don't like being called a Muslim, so , I voted before reading the update and I think I'm going to vote B, I think pork tastes good, but you should make him try some, don't force him.
If he is a muslim HE BELIEVES IN ALLAH, he can't call himself a muslim if he doesn't believe.
This is just him trying to control you. Tell him to take a hike, you aren't his property
You may be asked to raise your children fully practicing the Muslim faith. Are you prepared to do so?
Religion is a serious value, though the pork itself msy not be.
If you don't really care for eating pork... why make this an issue?
Because I feel like its a lack of respect and unwillingness to compromise. I went a year without pork and didn't even miss it. the only reason im eating now is because the dishes I buy while im out. I dont buy pork products to add into any food that I cook though just because I have lived without it. In short I feel like my freedom of choice is taken away when he says that I can't eat pork.
Just like he makes the choice to not eat it which I respect. Shouldn't I have that same option and make my own decision respected?
Try to compromise with him.
Tell him you will continue to eat it.. but not around him.
If that's still a problem for him.. then you have to rethink your whole relationship.
You have to make a choice if he's unwilling to.
Cut pork completely out, or leave him.
It really all comes down to that.
You do have a point by saying you respect his religion but at the same time he should respect
your choices.
As long as you aren't doing it in front of him... I don't see why he should make such a big deal about it.