He thinks we'll be together forever?

[Anonymous]

I asked my boyfriend "If you were to guess, how long do you think we'll be together?". He said forever, and I asked if he were serious and he said yes. He's my first boyfriend, and I'm only 14. I know I do love him, so I was pretty happy and fluttery when he said that. The thing is, is it possible to "stick it out" in a relationship for so long? I care about him a lot and I definitely don't want to separate at all. I just want to know if there's hope to be together forever in this situation.

[UnknownXYZ]

Yes, there is hope. As long as you are 100% committed to each other then your relationship can last forever. I personally would never enter a relationship without the intention of trying relationship last forever how unrealistic that may be. I think nowadays, it's so much easier to "give up" on relationships because it's more socially acceptable.

I think people have lost sight of commitment and only will remain committed when there aren't any hurdles in the way but when there are obstacles, that's when people's committed levels are really tested and they can't pull through. Depending on how strong your resolve is, the fact that you are even questioning the idea of your relationship of your relationship lasting forever is the start of the problem.

But then again, this is only relevant for people who go into relationship for the long-term. A lot of people go into relationships without realizing what they are getting themselves into and eventually put out if they don't like what feel the relationship is going towards. Well, no one can predict the future but early establishments should be made to prevent any upsets.

But how do you account for things which happen in the relationships that wasn't expected to be accounted for? No establishments which will be made are perfect but as I mentioned before, this is where people's commitment levels are tested. This is where you need to fight and put in a lot of effort to maintain the relationship but many fail at this point mainly because they feel they can just break up and look for someone else who they feel wouldn't have the same problems if they were to be in relationship with them.

*I'm not too sure if everything I said I agree with myself but it's just some food for thought.*

[Asker]

I agree. People tend to focus on the physical qualities of their partner but then they learn more about them on an emotional level, and then some give up because it's too "complicated". Also, I didn't think of this as questioning the idea of my relationship lasting forever. I really want it to, and I'm definitely willing to wait. I just don't know if I'll be able to get the money and eventually live together (since it's long distance). I know I am 100% committed to him and I would not trade him for any other person in the world. I also wanted to know others' opinions on the subject, because I know a lot of people don't believe anyone as young as I can maintain a long-lasting relationship. I think that there's a fight in itself to just stay in contact with him because of the distance. I know it will be difficult at times, but so far it's worth it. Thanks for your opinion, it's the most in depth one I've gotten. I appreciate it. :)

[UnknownXYZ]

No problem. And I am sorry for thinking that you were having second thoughts about committing to your relationship. Yes I think at 14, it's possible to maintain a relationship, I think it is more dependent on your maturity level and I will say you sound very mature and intelligent to me.

[Asker]

Oh it's fine, it did seem like I was questioning it, but I assure you I'm not. Also, I agree on the fact that maturity is an important factor in a relationship. And thank you, you also seem pretty mature and intelligent based off of your response. :)

[UnknownXYZ]

Thank you but I can be a really nasty person on this website. I guess some questions on GAG can get the best and the worst of me. :( In this case though, I do want to be as helpful to you as possible. That being said, I really hoped I helped you.

[Kshppatel]

Lold at age 14. You don't even know what the hell you want at age 14. It changes every day. But hey if you two stick it out past 18 then I give you props.

[Asker]

Do you think every 14 year old isn't sure about what they want? So far the only thing I'm really worried about is how I'll be in the future (what job I'll have, where I'll live, how I'll save money). I've wanted the same thing for a while, and that wasn't love. But hey, I got it anyways haha. :) Thanks for sharing.

[lePoivre]

There's always a chance that you'll be together forever, however it is very unlikely. Go ahead and see how long you two san stick it out, and if you make it to forever then more power to you, but you wouldn't be the first 14-year-old girl to believe she loved her (first) boyfriend, would be with him forever, and then you two break up sometime later.

[Asker]

I know I'm not the only one haha :). I know there are some relationships that last in high school but I think they're typically older than 14. One reason (I believe) is that people focus on physical traits rather than personality traits. My boyfriend now I feel couldn't be more attractive because of how much I like his personality. I know it's unlikely, but I'll try my best because I don't want to give up. Thanks for your opinion by the way. :)

[lePoivre]

Yeah you should always try your best to make it last =) I didn't learn that until recently, and before now none of my relationships lasted longer than a month. Just don't do anything crazy while trying to make it last, like moving in together as soon as you turn 18 or deciding that it's okay to get pregnant because "you'll get married anyway" =P

[Asker]

Oh jeez I would never think about moving in with anyone as soon as I turn 18 haha! Also I don't even want to think about being having kids right now (I'm not exactly fond of small children most of the time anyways :P). I won't do anything crazy, I promise. Thanks :).

[Bromanicus]

That's very sweet. Naive and unrealistic, but super sweet. Who knows? You guys could be the exception to the rule. The best to you both.

[Asker]

Yeah I know it's pretty unrealistic, but I feel that this will last. Thank you :).

[matheus_mb]

There is surely a chance. Not every relationship ends.

[Asker]

So you think it's possible to stay together for at least four years? I know this is a late addition, but I might as well add that this is a long distance relationship. (Yes, I completely trust him and I know to be careful.)

[matheus_mb]

If you have feelings and are completely commited to each other, I do think it's possible. Long distance or not.

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing. I hope that you're right. :)