It is indeed possible. I read a book called, "Why Men Love Bitches" that saved my relationship. One of the first things she points out is that if you are too available, then he won't appreciate you.
I was always the one who would show up on time, rush to answer his calls, feed him gourmet foods, and would go to extents to be ultra sexy for him but he'd always find someone else and I could not understand what I was doing wrong.
It turns out, men don't want the woman who's so available. They want the girl they have to chase a little bit to get her... the one who is interesting and who is showing a little bit of coyness. The one who they have to work to get is worth it in the end.
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If you're already doing something, say no. That's when you need to. It keeps him guessing, and you're using a trick called submissive flirting. It's like ending a text conversation first: it leaves him wanting more. As for him asking you places when you're not doing anything, say no of you're not in such a great mood. If you're generally always happy or decent, try to think of something interesting to talk about when you go with him. If you can't think of anything, turn him down.
It's true. Being too available is a sign that you don't have much of a life and don't have many hobbies that u enjoy. If a guy knows all he has to do is call and you'll come running over time he won't respect your time or you and take u for granted. If you never have anything going on except for your boyfriend then u might want to find things to do besides him
He's use to you always dropping what your doing and hanging out with him, so if you where to make your self less available start slowly because if you just blow him off there is the risk that he will take it the wrong way and think you don't like/love him anymore. I would suggest not blowing him off just for the sake of it but instead taking sometime to your self with friends when you want but make sure he knows that you haven't just lost interest in him. This way your not being to available and to unavailable.
For me, my girlfriend being "too available" sounds like some impossible feat for me, as much as I like affectionate attention.
But maybe I'm just an oddball. Most people can be turned off (in various degrees and thresholds) by their partner being too available.
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Guys want a woman to have her own interests, hobbies and agenda, and it's not about being "available", it's about the guy knowing that the woman has a life and that she isn't just sitting around waiting for him to entertain her.
he's your bf its fine :)
me and my ex has a lovely conversation about this once after sex
she said to me 'do you find it bad that im always avaliable to please'
we just discussed like lust for someone and when your in a relationship its totally cool to be avaliable.. just i reckon if he can turn you on in a special way that makes you desire him sexually thats something he should do constantly to keep your 'too avaliable mind set' soothedI agree with your mum and @pr3ttybr0wn and the other girls here. Always keep your own interests and have a life other than with your bf.
this is possible but if he really likes you then you never have to worry about being too available.
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