My bf likes girls who have the exact opposite body shape to me. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I suppose you could say I'm venting on here. I just feel so crappy about myself.
My boyfriend like girls with big boobs, big bums, big thighs... He's not into chubby girls, like a lot of guys are. He just likes curvy and I'll never be curvy. I have small a cup boobs and a tiny bum. I used to really like the shape of my skinny thighs, but now I wish they were bigger.
I remember how I used to love telling people I was a size 6-8 (Australian sizes) now I'm really ashamed of it. I'm trying to eat a lot more but I can't seem to put on weight. I'm looking at girls with a curvier body shape now, and I honestly feel like trash next to them. I don't feel sexy anymore, and I don't even like to get dressed up or do my hair/makeup because what's the point? I'll never be anything special anyway.
I don't know what to do. Has anyone else ever experienced anything like this?

[Anonymous]

I was in your exact same position! My boyfriend loved women with large breasts, thick thighs and big butts and still watches p*rn with women like that. Then he dated me - petite eurasian with A-cup boobs and small butt. I used to think i was hot until i met my boyfriend! lol.
It bothered me for ages until we broke up. I was upset for a while but then i had men hitting on me left, right and centre! It reminded me that lots of men do still like petite girls (just as some men have a preference for full women)! I was enjoying the attention of being single for about 3 months and then my boyfriend came back to try and work things out. We spoke about many things, including the fact that i didn't feel attractive around him.
To cut the story short, we established that he thinks i am gorgeous which is why we continue to have great sex. He still finds other women attractive too (who doesn't) but those are fleeting desires - a thought that comes into his head ("boobs!") and then goes.
A relationship is so much more than looks (by the time i have 3 kids i hope i dont need to be the hottest thing in my boyfriend's eyes), but perhaps right now you need to remind him to compliment you more. And if that doesn't work, squats make your butt rounder and perkier! He thinks i have gained weight but i haven't!

[Breenuh]

Everyone had a certain look they lust over, that doesn't mean he doesn't love you and find you incredibly sexy.
I find my boyfriend extremely sexy but that won't stop me from looking or lusting over someone who resembles Zac Efron walking past me. Same with my boyfriend (who loves Beyonce's body). We would be delusional if we thought that our partner didn't find someone else attractive.
As long as he loves you, he finds you beautiful.

Remember, you are as sexy as you feel. Your confidence definitely affects your sex appeal. Be confident in your body, love your body and your boyfriend (and other men) will notice.

[Poppykate]

I am the opposite of my boyfriend's preference too. I sometime say that I am wasted on him, and should be with someone who prefers my looks. He likes tall skinny blondes, am I am a busty brunette. But we have been together a long time, so it seems to work.

[Anonymous]

As a guy who liked the big-breasted heavier girls and started dating someone whose arms looked like twigs... don't worry. If he likes you and the two of you do sexy things together, he *will* like your body.

About 2 months after we started dating, I was looking at a random girl at a dance and thinking she was attractive, and then realized that I wouldn't have thought that a month ago, and the only reason I thought she was attractive was b/c she looked like my gf.

So. Yeah. Thin arms are now sexy :p Smaller girls are now sexy:p And my gf's cups are C-D range, but I really notice A and B cups now too.

You've got an awesome body, and you may not be his "type" (for now), but he obviously thinks you're hot enough to date, so he's paying attention! ^_^

[bellylover16]

Look if your boyfriend doesn't like you for the way you are then he's not worth it so you should find someone else but if he does then it doesn't matter, and you shouls just be happy with the you are becouse thats the real you so try and be something your not becouse might just end up being unhappy so take pride in who you are.

[dazedandconfused22]

Well if that's really what he prefers why is he with you? I don't mean to be cruel but a lot of guys will get into relationships or STAY in relationships so that they don't have to go out and look for sex again cause it's too much work. if he's making you feel insecure dump him.

[Anonymous]

I'm the same boat, only opposite. My fiance loves petite women in every sense of the word, and in every sense i am not petite. I'm tall and I've got curves and large butt and boobs, but he isn't hardly even into me. He has huge stashes of porn of tiny women, and he points out women that he finds attractive in real life, but i can barely get him to pay me a compliment without dressing up completely with a full face of makeup like I'm going to the club or something. I have always been so insecure about my body, and now I honestly just dont know what to do. I want to be someone that he notices, but in the end I know he loves me for other reasons even if he doesn't see how badly it hurts to not be physically attractive to him.

[Anonymous]

I understand how you are feeling, my boyfriend has always been with curvier girls and has always bragged about having girls with big boobs. I am skinny and dont have big boobs :( he says he loves me and all but lately i have been feeling very insecure about myself because of it. Im not sure what to tell you at the moment because I feel low and low self esteem, just that I know how you feel and try to love yourself. Im sure he loves you girl :)

[Crystal5181]

I still haven't figured this out myself because my boyfriend is always following the pages on Tumblr and Twitter that have anything to do with bigger women as well as making his little sly comments towards me about my weight, as far as telling me that I need to gain weight and saying that I'm too skinny and etc... so when you figure this out please let me know because I have never felt so low about myself untili i got into this relationship with this man

[Ihav2fart]

if he likes that then how are you his girlfriend?

it's just his "preference" and if that's what he prefers but he's willing to date you which is opposite from his preference then you sure are someone special.

[Sexualchrist]

I actually like your body type more than that.
Get with a guy who likes your body and make his dreams come true.

[IamMrHappyPants]

He can take it or leave it! Love is more than your physical appearance. Don't let anyone change you. BE YOU!!! Even if that is a cup and thin. Someone will love you no matter what.
now for me... you sound perfect physically!! Sound hot.

[MichaelJoseph89]

I think your boyfriend should stop looking at other girls.