How/when do I tell my girlfriend that I have vitiligo?

[Anonymous]

Vituligo is an autoimmune disease where patches of skin lose their pigment and become white. I have it on my back and on my balls, but I guess it could spread at any point. It's not that as on my back because I already have light skin. But the skin on by balls is naturally darker so it's very visible.

We haven't been intimate yet, so she hasn't seen it. She's my first relationship and I've never had to tell anyone before. Honestly, I feel like I'm deceiving her. She thinks she's with a good looking guy but I'm hiding something that could, in her eyes, deem me unattractive. I'm worried that she'll leave me because of it. The part that hurts is that it would be completely just if she did.

When do I tell her? What do I say?

Tell her now, or ASAP

Tell her some time before you have sex

Tell her immediately before your first time

Let her find out and explain if she asks

Don't know

[electromagnetic]

For all its worth you can tell her whenever you want. It's not like she's dating you for other reasons. It's because she likes you. And vitiligo isn't something that would break a relationship. Continue your relationship like you normally would. Odds are, once you're intimate, she'll see it on your back before your genital area. Bring it up to her then if she asks questions.

[DarkHorse24]

Be honest with her. As they say, honestly is the best policy. She'll have a ton of more respect for yiu if you let her know earlier on in your relationship. by the way, there is nothing to be ashamed of. Having vitiligo does not make you a bad person, and if she really likes you then trust me, she's not going to make a big deal out of it.

[DarkHorse24]

*you

[baarkmann]

tell her a very bad man beat you up and poured bleach on your skin, then stole your money