I wouldn't let a female friend hug me under the best of circumstances. No way would I ever consider this okay. I can barely take the touchy feely stuff with the strange social situation.
thatturkgirl I'm 21 age doesn't mean anything but from a personal experience I had a girlfriend. She had a lot of guy friends. She has a better chance of having sex. Okay I didn't let that bother me. When I found out she cheated on me. I realized why. Because she had more choices more options. Now I'm not all girls are like that but most are like that. How would you feel if you had a boyfriend surrounded by girls. Would you feel comfy?
Yeah because he already is. I'm an Art student and most parts of our class are girls, 28/32 are girls and most of them are his friends. And I'm not really the jealous type I would let him sleep in the same bed with his girl-friends only if they weren't intimate.
How would you know if they were intimate or not? Youd have to ask him right? And if he did told you do you think he's telling the truth? What if he did cheated on you? Would you still be with him?
theturkgirl subconsciously, we are all territorial. Its an instinct that all humans have, sortve like a defense mechanism. If someone invades are space we either run or face are problems head on. We tend to find a reasonable explanation to justify how we feel in order to fit society's standards. Its either that or we have mental disability...
Okay, thanks for the labeling "mental disability"... Never occurred to you that maybe I have a higher trust spam? You know, not all humans are alike. Maybe I'm even gullible, which I don't think I am.
I don't want you to get confused but I'm not labeling anybody. I believe you are an intelligent young lady. Perhaps more intelligent then I am. Subconsciously we are territorial that is fact that I could prove. Its the voice that's in the back of are heads telling us we don't feel comfortable. Now your right. We are all not the same. There are two types of people the Innocent and the broken. What separates them both is that the innocent can trust almost anybody because they haven't been broken yet. The broken hardly trusts anybody because of past events. Its like a rape victim somebody who had there innocence stolen from them is less likely to trust anybody.
That's not really true but mostly yeah. I agree with you but there are special cases, always. Intelligent, but more than you, I don't know. I think that intelligence is such an abstract thing, there's common sense, social intelligence, logic thinking, rationality and so much more, and I doubt I have all of them.
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I don't see any harm in it.. If the boyfriend doesn't like it, it shows extreme insecurities.
I hug everyone I know. That is just the way I greet people.
u can hug ur male friend , ill hug my female friend too , sounds fun
Yeah, it's cozy as hell. Group hug!
I wouldn't let a female friend hug me under the best of circumstances. No way would I ever consider this okay. I can barely take the touchy feely stuff with the strange social situation.
You're too old to be asking such an idiotic question. Like wow you chicks are slow here
Well that would depend on the friend and how that friend sees you
Most of the time its ok. Especially if she has boundaries.
A girl that hangs out with a lot of guys yeeaah I wouldn't feel comfortable being her boyfriend. The hugging I could understand. But mam is a red flag
There's nothing wrong with being friends with a lot of guys. You're acting like every girl who hangs out with a lot of guys has sex with all of them.
Okay, but if he too had a lot of girl friends would he understand better?
thatturkgirl I'm 21 age doesn't mean anything but from a personal experience I had a girlfriend. She had a lot of guy friends. She has a better chance of having sex. Okay I didn't let that bother me. When I found out she cheated on me. I realized why. Because she had more choices more options. Now I'm not all girls are like that but most are like that. How would you feel if you had a boyfriend surrounded by girls. Would you feel comfy?
Asker I don't think it would make any difference for both the girl and guy. They both would be jealous.
Yeah because he already is. I'm an Art student and most parts of our class are girls, 28/32 are girls and most of them are his friends. And I'm not really the jealous type I would let him sleep in the same bed with his girl-friends only if they weren't intimate.
I don't mind my boyfriend having girl friends, as long as I know the girls, I don't really have a problem
How would you know if they were intimate or not? Youd have to ask him right? And if he did told you do you think he's telling the truth? What if he did cheated on you? Would you still be with him?
I would believe him. Communication is key as well as trust. I wouldn't hop on to some conclusions I can't prove.
Okay, just want to clear it up I don't have a boyfriend, talking about my crush in the comments.
theturkgirl subconsciously, we are all territorial. Its an instinct that all humans have, sortve like a defense mechanism. If someone invades are space we either run or face are problems head on. We tend to find a reasonable explanation to justify how we feel in order to fit society's standards. Its either that or we have mental disability...
Okay, thanks for the labeling "mental disability"... Never occurred to you that maybe I have a higher trust spam? You know, not all humans are alike. Maybe I'm even gullible, which I don't think I am.
I don't want you to get confused but I'm not labeling anybody. I believe you are an intelligent young lady. Perhaps more intelligent then I am. Subconsciously we are territorial that is fact that I could prove. Its the voice that's in the back of are heads telling us we don't feel comfortable. Now your right. We are all not the same. There are two types of people the Innocent and the broken. What separates them both is that the innocent can trust almost anybody because they haven't been broken yet. The broken hardly trusts anybody because of past events. Its like a rape victim somebody who had there innocence stolen from them is less likely to trust anybody.
That's not really true but mostly yeah. I agree with you but there are special cases, always. Intelligent, but more than you, I don't know. I think that intelligence is such an abstract thing, there's common sense, social intelligence, logic thinking, rationality and so much more, and I doubt I have all of them.
You do you just don't it yet...
What?
Friendly hug is okay but a romantic hug is not.
Why do you have guy friends?
No. That's not okay.
Talk to your boyfriend about it.
Its completely ok.