I've done something really f (cked up (I catfished my boyfriend and leaked his nudes) and now I'm confused?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is Armenian and he came here for a football career, but he has to leave for Armenia next year (we are both 17) and I wouldn't be able to come with him. Our relationship had a bit of underlying tension knowing that he was gonna dump me at some point. However he did tell me that if his football career went to plan he would be able to stay here. Anyway we had a discussion and I said it would probably be better if he dumped me because it would hurt more if we let the relationship develop. He said he didn't want to and I said neither do I.
I then set up a fake facebook account and chatted him up from there. Meanwhile I was talking to him as me, saying it would be best to forget about dumping me and to take each day as it comes. From the fake girl I tricked him into giving her nudes and I then uploaded them. This made him so angry and he then blocked the girl. I was hoping that would make me seem more desirable. While he was in the midlle of a huge argument with the fake girl, he ignored my real message (Which I understand), but I sent him a follow up message today and he ignored it. Why? Obviously he doesn't know I have anything to do with the fake account so he has no reason to ignore me... But I haven't got a clear mind because in a way he was still talking to me but not really.

Also I am more than willing to accept the strong worded answers that might come my way for doing such a disgusting thing to my boyfriend. But why is he ignoring me, the real me?

[Missphysio]

I wouldn't even bother worrying about why he is ignoring you, you should worry about the fact that you didn't trust your boyfriend at all and went to the extreme lengths of catfishing him! Are you sure he doesn't know you are connected the fake account? just go see him and make him talk to you and then that solves that problem and you can actually discuss your trust issues with him whilst you are at it!

[Asker]

If he knew it was me, wouldn't he have told the real me?

[Missphysio]

not necessarily he might be figuring out how to deal with the situation but either way you can't stay with him after a stunt like that! a) it was illegal b) its disrespectful and just horrible. c) he deserves better

[Asker]

But I really do love him though, I don't want our relationship to end

[Missphysio]

if you really loved him you wouldn't have cat fished him and uploaded his photos

[Asker]

Well he bloody deserved it for ignoring me. I hope that it teaches him a lesson

[Missphysio]

IGNORING someone and uploading NUDE PHOTOS onto social media are two very different things. People ignore people all the time, its not nice but its a part of life and you need learn and accept this. You can't catfish and leak nude photos of people on the internet everytime someone upsets or ignores you. Grow up and face what you have done.

[abundantlyrich]

lol First you started arguing with him under another alias, you stirred him and you expect him to send you a message on your real account? Get rid of the split personality business and deal with him honestly. All the trouble you went to test him. You put him under duress!

[Asker]

He doesn't know the fake girl is me though, so technically to him, I have nothing to do with it

[abundantlyrich]

Yeah then why post a question here asking why did he stop talking to your real account?

[Asker]

Because it makes no sense for him to blank the real me since I am not actually connected to the fake girl to him

[Asker]

They would have been like two completely separate conversations

[abundantlyrich]

This relationship is doomed. You two are indecisive and incapable of being truthful with each other.

[BellePepper]

He's probably so disgusted with girls in general or he realized it was you. Break up with him and get some therapy so you can work out why you felt the need to do that to someone who was supposed to be important to you.

[Asker]

Well I know for a fact he has no idea it's me... So now I've just made him run away because he's disgusted by girls

[Asker]

... Shit...

[BellePepper]

Did you seriously think this would go well?

[Asker]

No, I wasn't exactly thinking properly and from the start I knew it was fucked up and I know I deserve all the backlash I'm getting.. But I thought I would seem more desirable if another girl fucked hi over. Which did work, until I leaked the nudes

[Anonymous]

lol "young love" this is why we should restrict internet access to minors, let them build a decent foundation in their live's before we hand them a phone to waste all their time on and do stupid things. It's just not a good idea to give someone with a still developing brain constant access to the internet.

[PropaneAccessories]

That was a MAJOR dick move on your part. Not only that, but since you mentioned you are both 17, you have also committed an illegal act by uploading images of a minor containing nudity.
Congratulations, you really did fuck up.

[Asker]

Yeah I know, and I totally agree with and accept what you say

[PropaneAccessories]

I'm glad you agree.
My word of advice, go delete the picture if you can to at least minimize the impact it may have in spreading. These sorts of things can potentially ruin people's life. Not only his, but if he found out and reported you to authorities, it would be you on the line as well.

[Goldie757]

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What you did is fucking awful. Imagine if he catfished you and leaked his news.

He is ignoring because he isn't interested, when he dumped you he was trying to let you down easy.

[Anonymous]

Well you're going to be in huge trouble if the authorities get involved. Leaking underage nudes is a serious offence and you could get prosecuted. You made a stupid, stupid mistake. Not only that, but you toyed with his feelings with this fake account out of pure selfishness. I hope you pay for what you did to this guy.

[Meedo]

I think he is just feeling bad right now and his mind is occupied. He is in a bad mood and have no energy and time to please someone.

[chrisbigman]

Maybe because he found out that you catfished him? Yes, you fucked up. Why do you seem to want to settle for mediocre or less than mediocre?

[Asker]

But he wouldn't have sent the real me a message saying that though?

[chrisbigman]

He doesn't necessarily have to, if he already knows you catfished him. That might be why he's angry with you.

[HomerJ]

What the f***? What would make you do something like that?

[Asker]

I'm messed up in the head... Probably

[Anonymous]

In many countries, that would be a felony. Be thankful he's only ignoring you and both of you aren't facing criminal charges.

[Anonymous]

I think he just got angry at the fake girl and thought it was the fake girl who sent another message.

[UnremarkableDay]

You are a disgusting cold heart b****

[Asker]

I know, and I genuinely know that what I did was plain evil

[UnremarkableDay]

If you truly feel bad you'll tell him what you did regardless of the consequences. The only way people can learn from their mistakes is by facing the consequences, good or bad

[Asker]

I won't do that. He blanked me so he's the one acting like a dick

[UnremarkableDay]

You are trying to ruin his current relationship! He's moved on from you, he can blank you if he wants. You need to move on

[XNicholeMariex3]

... You both are fucked up

[Succcesssfulll]

Maybe he thinks it's you.

[Asker]

But he was so angry at the time, wouldn't he have just asked if it was me?

[Succcesssfulll]

You probably left a hint while talking to him and he figured out.

[2014raser]

"Mean girls."