Subconscious Love?

[Anonymous]

Could you subconsciously love someone and not realize it? Or could you subconsciously misjudge your feelings? Like maybe you don't know exactly how you feel about someone, for some reason, or maybe you even act out against them, but you're just misjudging an ultimate feeling of love?

Like a better example, maybe you feel something different, and it kinda scares or confuses you and you feel threatened or something by the person, yet deep inside, its actually love you are feeling?

Is something like that even possible? And if it is, how would they realize that they are ultimately in love with the person consciously?

[SugaSpice09]

I don't think you can subconsciously love someone and not have any inkling. I think you may always know it in some manner but you can either ignore those feelings or deny them by attributing other causes to them because there is a part of you that does not want to feel them for some reason. One of the other responders said that she denied her feelings for a year, but in order for you to deny your feelings, you have to have felt them, right? It's not as though you were just completely blind-sided by them.

Most of the time, you are forced to admit to your feelings because you see that person end up with someone else. That is usually how these situations go down. When that happens, it's not so much you realizing you love them, but ADMITTING that you do, kicking yourself for not allowing yourself to admit it sooner, and taking steps to try to have that person in your life. If I were in that situation, I would probably have to start making a mental list. I would compare what I felt for them to what I felt for others. I'd evaluate if I feel what I feel when I am with them just as strongly as I do when I am not. I'd evaluate the way that person makes ME feel and decide if what I feel for them is truly love or something short of it. I hope this helps in some way.

[Standingpretty]

Yes, that is possible and that is happening with me right now. I didn't realize I am in love with my guy friend until just recently when I had been trying to deny it for a year. Even when I was with other boys after I met my guy friend I had been thinking "What would he think?" and then questioning myself on why it would matter since I didn't like him or anything. And then just one day and I looked at him and it hit me: I did want him, and only him, and I was willing to wait forever for him. It was really weird because everyone realized that I had feelings for him before I even realized I did.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I recently realized that I am completely in love with my best friend of 15 years. She has had other boyfriends, I have had other girlfriends.. but I basically compare any girl I date to her. She is the model that I base any relationships I enter into off of. In being single, I realize now that instead of trying to find someone like her, that I need to just face up to the fact that she IS the one for me. We made a pact that if we each weren't married by 30, that we'd marry each other. Now I just really want it to be her, because I am in love with her.

[dwiller943]

Nope.