My boyfriend stopped texting and calling me:(?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend like stopped sending me cute morning and i love you texts all of a sudden. And he never calls me anymore like he used to:( I guess he's just busy but it makes me feel unappreciated and ignored that he won't even give me a Hi text all throughout the day and only responds mediocorly when i text him first. I told him how i felt about this a few times this week, but he still continues to do it and insures he will make it up to me. I told him what i needed to see from him, yet he hasn't changed so i just decided today i will not reach out to him at all. The only thing i got from him was "im sorry im working 😥" around 4pm but i never responded. Do you think if I just stop reaching out or responding to him, it will make him realize that he needs to put more effort in communication and go back to how he was before when he used to call and text me every single day?

Yes, it will work

No, it will make things worse

[xHoneyxBeex]

Okay well here are my thoughts.

1. This is very common, especially in long-term relationships. Once a couple has been together for a while, some of the cute little things (such as daily morning texts) sometimes stops. People get comfortable in relationships so sometimes they stop putting in as much effort. In all honesty, it's very unlikely things will ever go back to the way it was "before." However, that does NOT mean that he cares less about you.

2. If he's working then you can't realistically expect him to text you all throughout the day. He's busy and he most likely can't stop doing his job to pick up his phone and contact you.

All of this being said, he should still be trying to put in some effort so if he doesn't put in any effort at all, then that's a problem. If you've already talked to him about it though then there isn't much you can do. I don't think you should stop responding to him because what good will that do? You won't be talking to him at all in that case. I would just talk to him again and try to come to some sort of compromise. He shouldn't have to text you all day, every day. But maybe during his lunch break he can text you and I'm sure he isn't at work ALL the time so when he's not at work or busy with other things, he should make time for you.

[Hannah591]

He's busy. If you respect your boyfriend, you'll respect that. In mature relationships, you can go the whole day without talking because that's what happens when you work. I'm talking to a guy now and he can take up to 10 hours to reply to me because he's so busy. I can take up to 5 hours to reply. It's life. Surely you don't need his good morning texts and calls every day to function. Not replying will not help the situation and is an immature way of dealing with it. If you have an issue, communicate with him about it when you see him next.