Is it normal for long term relationships to go through lulls? (Page 2)
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Absolutely. Love is what you do with a relationship when the infatuation is gone. Love is not a feeling. Every successful couple goes through lulls. The idea is keep the union strong anyway and find ways to bring romance back into the equation.
Having lulls like that is quite normal and healthy for your relationship! Everyone experiences emotions in a different way and you don't need to get a tingly feeling in your stomach everytime you're around him. It's great to get comfortable. x
I've been in multiple long term relationships and to be honest. It's kind of true but at the same time it isn't; if you have connection with someone it never goes dull and the passion never goes away. Even when things get quiet it's still somehow fun
It doesn't exactly go dull, we still are best friends, I laugh at everything he says, and I'm more comfortable and close to him than anyone. The only thing is that the passion, intensity, excitement, fireworks are gone and I worry about that.
Ever tried new things in the bedroom?
of course it is, not your job is to maintain the magic with trust, compliments, some surprises and such. But aLL the spark will fade away, you are used to him and he is used to you, love is like that.
Yes very normal, what you are describing is lust, it does wear off then you enter a more settled and loving aspect of your relationship
Never been but i guess that's fine like in strong friendship. They don't talk daily but Nothing will change
No its not ok all, it seems like you are bored and he doesn't do anything to make you feel like that anymore, wait till Valentines and dump his ass. You ought to deserve your pleasures. Move on girl
Every relationship has a 3 month period call the honeymoon phase where you fuck like rabbits, constantly want to see each other and "in love", Then after 3 months that high decreases and level off.
That is the female equivalent of a one night stand for a man. A man just wants to have sex and get off. A woman just wants butterflies and tingles.
That's... not accurate.. at all
It is in this case and in many other cases because in this case this woman is going to look for that feeling elsewhere and say "she got bored" or felt like "she was missing out"
@RachelBrigs
That's a wild assumption based on your own personal insecurities
Then what do you see it as? @RachelBrigs
A girl who is new to relationships asking if losing the butterflies is normal. I cannot infer anything else since there is nothing else to go on. Your assumption that she'll cheat/dump him to chase the "tingles" is just petty and based in your own insecurities.
Your assertion that women just want butterflies and men just want a quick fuck is also beyond wrong.
Well, if she is asking whether or not it is normal that means that she believes that a relationship is suppose to have a constant feeling of happiness which is an idealistic expectation. She is much more likely to cheat. @RachelBrigs
Obviously if she believed it was supposed to be that way she wouldn't be on here asking this.
Regardless, a lack of butterflies doesn't mean she's unhappy and it sure as hell doesn't mean she's gonna cheat.
@RachelBrigs she asked another question maybe you should read that one as well to get a bigger picture
1. I'm very happy in my relationship. 2. I would never think to cheat on anyone in my lifetime.
You literally said you are losing passion for him in one of your last questions.
Yeah, normal.
It's called not being in the infatuation stage anymore.
It only gets that way if you let it. You have to find ways to keep it going and spice things up. If he's not prepared to do the same it's not much of a relationship is it.
All relationships have an ending to the honeymoon phase. Its up to you two to bring back that spark for each other.
You've obviously never been around a married couple
Yeah its normal, but if you feel unhappy about it you could try to find ways to make it exciting again. Try something new and romantic :)
Loving someone doesn't come by pure feeling. If you really like that someones personality it will be easy to keep "loving" that someone.
My economics teacher said that companies close because doing many things bad for a long time.
Of course, you got used to being around this person. Routine does reduce excitement, it is inevitable.
Aren't you the same girl that was saying you don't feel a spark for him anymore or something?
Posted this question before. Just dump his ass obviously he isn't doing it for you.
No, I don't believe it can happen like that.
wtf is lulls? ? lulz?