I feel like I'm always annoying my girlfriend, need girls opinions?

[Anonymous]

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost 9 months and it has been great. Lately we have been arguing over dumb things. I always try to let her know that if she's busy she can talk to me later in the day when she's not and she insists that she's never busy and so when I talk to her she never replies unless I let her know once again if she's busy to just not worry and talk to me later when she's not. Then if I text her an hour later like she usually does with me she responds immediately and always asks why I disappeared on her. Another thing is she's only been in one relationship before me and her boyfriend was very bad and manipulative to her and I am already 100% open with her and write her essays sometimes like love letters and she's usually responds like a couple words but says she loves it and she says she doesn't feel comfortable yet being super affectionate and open because of her last relationship but it's been 9 months? So when I try to cool down my affection she gets upset. I don't understand her that much anymore. I feel like I smother her with affection and attention and she gets annoyed but doesn't want to admit it

[Cmasterson]

Perhaps stop mentioning it, texts aren't instant messaging like "msn" people can text when they're free and such so by you constantly reiterating that may make her feel that you feel she has no time for you which isn't always the case. I get it she's hot and cold, perhaps meet in the middle if she means a lot to you, it can be really frustrating when you do something you don't get the same attention back-- however she wants you to but you feel like a bother. Just ask her what she wants.