I feel weird asking my boyfriend to borrow money. An I the only one?

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I feel weird asking my boyfriend for money even though he says that it's ok. He keeps saying stuff like, "I'm your daddy it ok baby" or "princess I can give you some if you ask." It's just awkward coming to him for money he's earned.

... am I weird?

WoodenS510 · Accepted Answer

Ugh, that's really weird he says he is a "daddy" or whatever. Look, I can't stress enough when I say "it depends on the situation" because I've been sooooo lucky, I've never had a girlfriend that was bad with money, they were all responsible, they all were in fact more careful with my money than I was. So, I have a really great experience, with all three long term relationships but it's weird because most of my guy friends say it's their #1 problem.
It all depends on the girls relationship with money itself and her own management skills and goals with money. Everyone has their own relationship with money, some of those relationships are healthy, unhealthy, spoiled and abusive. It all depends on what relationship you have, he has and both hVe together. Not whether you ask him and no two girls or situations are the same

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

You should never borrow money from a significant other. It can change the nature of your relationship and alter the balance of power. If you value the relationship, you shouldn't do it. . . even though he says it is okay.

lumos · Accepted Answer

No you're not weird. Asking anyone for money is awkward. I personally don't do that. If I'm having trouble I will ask my parents as a last resort. Never asking my friends or (future) boyfriend though. Introducing money to friendships is not a good idea. Like yeah, you can treat each other to snacks and buy gifts for one another, but lending/borrowing cash just makes things complicated in my opinion. I used to have a friend who always wanted to borrow money and would rarely give it back. When I borrowed money from her, she would constantly remind me of what I owed her and be straight up nasty about it (I never forgot once to pay her back, though, which she did multiple times). So in my experience it just makes things weird. I prefer to pay for my own shit and I prefer it if people don't come to me when they need money.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's kinda creepy if he says it in those exact words
"princess I can give you some money... if you just ask... in a certain way"
"now come to daddy"

Lol, I'm joking, but it's funny how man complain but they're the ones connecting money and material things with showing love and affection.
Anyway, I think it depends on the situation, your relationship status, what you need the money for, if your parents or family can't help, etc.
I also don't like, but when he proposed to live together, then the line became blurrier and I needed/ still need to learn to accept we won't be dividing everything 50/50. It's not that simple.

luvstoned4him · Accepted Answer

I understand what you are going through. I feel awkward too. Its like since I was young, I always had an independent spirit. Working on holidays and weekends since I was 15 just to make up for school trips, recess, assignments payments etc. My parents never ever gave me an allowance everin my life, I always had to work to buy the things that I desired. Nowadays, guys would promise to buy or beg to buy me gifts to show appreciation but I dont accept them, It feels so wrong or maybe I dont think a guy should be allowed to take care of me.

phil2 · Accepted Answer

I'm married so it's ok for us to share everything but when you are just dating, it is some different rules. My sister doesn't ask her boyfriend to pay off her debts even though she says he could, and he makes a lot of money. She says that he just helps pay the rent and her gas money.

ElissaDido · Answer

I would feel weird as-well unless it's my husband

Mesonfielde · Answer

I think it's weirder that he calls himself "daddy" He is not your father! What a weirdo.

Jager66 · Answer

"I'm your daddy it ok baby" or "princess I can give you some if you ask."  /BARF!!!  Why the fuck anyone would want to date someone with this mindset is bewildering to me.. Takes all kinds I guess.

SomeGuy37 · Answer

That's just creepy! He's dangling a 'hook' and when you take his money, you are his toy!! Be careful!! A real guy would never say creepy sht like that, and just give you whatever he could, without strings.

Avenuewriter · Answer

It's always a bit awkward to ask for money, at least I feel it always should be. It's better then just being completely nonchalant about it. It shows you're not just milking them for money, you care and feel a bit uneasy because money can be a big deal.

I consider some discomfort to be a courtesy.

Pampered · Answer

I borrow money sometimes from my boyfriend when I really need it. He's older and more established so he doesn't mind, and is aware that I'm working hard to earn more money in the future, so figures he'll help if he can. I feel guilty about it and pay him back whenever I can, but if you have a good partner they should be willing to help because they love you.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

This was some of the most cringeworthy stuff I read all day.

Sara413 · Answer

What is weird is him calling himself your 'daddy'...

BellePepper · Answer

I don't like asking for money from the SO either. Like I don't mind taking turns paying for things but him paying for them makes me cringe.

RedRobin · Answer

Why does he tell you he's your daddy? That's WAY more awkward then you asking him for money.

GingerBear · Answer

You're not weird. I feel the same, except not with the 'daddy' thing. My boyfriend currently earns more than me, and he's always happy to help me out, but I hate asking for help. It makes me feel so useless.

Prettygurl12 · Answer

Honey, unless his sperm contributed to creating you, he is NOT your daddy.

Cmasterson · Answer

Lol, it's not that weird but I can see why you may not want to because you don't want to have to depend on him, but in reality partners help each other out when in need.

oddwaffle · Answer

Well imagine you asking to borrow and he says no. It would be a disaster of epic proportions from the male point of view.

So yeah, if your girlfriend or wife is asking... you might as well agree but try to get something back.

matsi · Answer

You're not weird. By the way, if you don't want to borrow money, why don't you earn some yourself?

Carliexo7 · Answer

If this doesn't happen too often and just for a little amount of money then it's right, I mean he will probably be your husband and you'll both share money with each other eventually

Anonymous · Answer

Doent sound like you love him. Or care to want a future with him. So why not use his money. He seems to love the idea of u spending his money. In this scenario it Works out. Most women are in that kind of relationship. Financial prostitue.

Zendrya · Answer

I think he is weird for saying he is your daddy... But ya I wouldn't ask my boyfriend for money

user-2016 · Answer

No you are not. I am exactly like this. I would never ask a man for money, not even if he is my boyfriend.

9mfeo · Answer

I would never ask my boyfriend for money.  The whole incest fantasy thing is pretty fucking weird.

mooky06 · Answer

It sounds ok to ask him if your boyfriend is cool with it. Just find it strange how he tells you to ask him

rescuemyheart · Answer

That would make me very uncomfortable in that scenario. Just because it sounds more like a parent/child relationship than a partnership

PrettyBama · Answer

Yes you're weird! That's your man. If you need anything you ask him. "A wet p*ssy and a dry purse don't match" especially if you're dating someone 😂

TheBootyChest · Answer

Is it weird just cause of the fact that you need money or the way he says you have to ask for it?

ATPPC · Answer

No imagine the things you'll share when you get married. You must have a great caring guy.

WhatTheHellAmy · Answer

I understand, but letting him lend some money won't kill you.

SofiaWW · Answer

Hahahaha removing the daddy part I guess it's fine if you can return the money back to him

singlebee · Answer

You can ask him for money don't worry its ok to borrow some money from your spouse but do return it... :-)

Sabretooth · Answer

"I'm your daddy it ok baby" or "princess I can give you some if you ask." is.

selmo93 · Answer

I hate it too.. its gotten better the past few months but it is down to pride really

truthhammer · Answer

well most girls think its a mans job believe it or not but get super turned off seeing a man struggle. in my opinion, there's not right or wrong answer. this is where its all upto the 2 of them.

genericname85 · Answer

really depends on how much you ask for xD the "daddy" issue is strange though... sounds like an extreme asymetric relationship.

Krista7 · Answer

No you're not weird. I don't like asking anyone for money. But the daddy thing is a little weird to me...

Anonymous · Answer

Well it seems like he doesn't mind spoiling you xD and no I always kinda feel uncomfortable borrowing money.. I don't want to be a mooch

Avneo · Answer

No its not, helping each other unconditionally is part of true love.

MissMc3 · Answer

No but it seems like he thinks of you like you're only dating him for money which isn't the sounding of a good relationship

Anonymous · Answer

"I'm your daddy it ok baby" Sorry but that's just weird

jamesdegod · Answer

get your own job and make your own money then, otherwise deal with it but im 99% ur a troll anyway

james_mark · Answer

He should add ''Sugar'' before daddy. Don't overdo it.. else he thinks you're little goldie digga..

chrisbigman · Answer

I will admit I'd feel weird if I asked my girlfriend for some money.

TheHooptyMiata · Answer

Daddy issues detected

Anonymous · Answer

Clearly you have a sugardaddy, so it's your job to ask for money or gifts in exchange for gifts.

Queen_naki5 · Answer

Is he a sugar daddy?

lolatyou · Answer

Then stop borrowing money from him?

mutedaisy · Answer

No, you are not being weird. He makes it awkward.

theCatcherintheRye · Answer

Nope, I would never do that.

Walls_and_Doors · Answer

You is.

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