Lied to my boyfriend about my job. What do I do?

[Anonymous]

I got a job finally after a year in the same city as my boyfriend. Problem is we kinda broke up and two weeks into my new job I quit. We reconnected since then and now he wants to pick me up from work. I lied and told him I still work there. The other day I faked it and showed up so he could pick me up. I am terrified he will catch me lying. He lives really close by to the workplace. I even lied about working on the 4th of july! I feel so horrible and things are going great with him but I'm afraid if I tell him that I quit he will think that I never worked there or that he will think lower of me because I quit so easily. I am really nervous to tell him the truth.

[OlderAndWiser]

Things are not going very well. You lied to him and you cannot undo all the damage that has been done by your lie. You never explained why you felt the need to lie instead of telling the truth but if you prefer to lie, this relationship has a very limited future.

The bext plan is for you to determine why you felt the need to lie, then confess your lie and explain why and beg for his forgiveness. Whatever happens, learn a lesson from this experience: the little lie that makes you comfortable today causes major problems tomorrow.

How will he ever again feel confident trusting you?

[waterlaz]

Just tell him. You can do that in a joking manner like "Do you want to know something funny? I don't actually work there any more :D :D :D".
The thing is that the longer you keep lying to him the harder it will be to tell the truth. And eventually you will have to tell him.

[EllieLexis513]

Just tell him you quit now... like, today. It's not rocket science, though, you SHOULD just be honest and tell him you haven't worked there for a while and that you were too embarrassed to tell him.

[CHARismatic110]

The more you lie, the deeper you dig the hole for yourself. Why did you quit in the first place? Whatever the reason is, I think you should tell him.

[Asker]

Job was too physically demanding and stressful, he broke up with me so I felt like giving up in general so I quit

[CHARismatic110]

So then that's what you tell him. Just be honest.

[CHARismatic110]

Thanks for MHO. I hope things work out for you!

[Kaylyne]

You've simply got to come clean and tell him the truth.
And do it now, before he finds out

[GingerGuy]

Just like others have said, just be honest and tell him now. He's not going to think lower of you because you quit, he might because you've lied to him though. Just come clean now. "I have a confession to make, I'm not working at..., I quit a while ago but was afraid to tell you because of what you'd think"

I dated a woman like this. First date, told me she worked at this place etc. Second date she was thinking about quitting because she hated it (my thoughts in my head about this honestly, I wouldn't just quit without something else lined up but I wasn't one to judge, I've done it before as well and I believe it's important to like what you do). Third date she had quit and was unemployed. I still dated her. Lying about it is a bigger deal breaker but you can fix this easily by just coming clean now.

[oldanddecrepid]

I can see how a lie like that could keep snowballing.

I am not one for telling people to lie, but I see a relatively painless way out for you.

Perhaps tell him soon that job security is not so great and that you plan on looking elsewhere. Make an effort to find another job and let him know you transferred once you get it.

[NotTheFBI]

Oh for the love of God just tell him you don't work there anymore.
What's the big deal... is telling the truth unpopular these days?
*Shakes walking stick* You little river snappers... when I was your age... :v
Come on now... just tell him... geez...

[zorro8888]

Well that was a stupid thing to lie about. Either tell him the truth or tell you quit today.
Not something worth lying about.

[TonyRyanAgain]

Holy crap, just ignore him and let him find someone who won't constantly lie to his face, he'll be better off that way, trust me.

[Asker]

It's only been a few days and trust me I feel horrible lying to him. I have been avoiding him so he doesn't pick me up. I am garbage

[TonyRyanAgain]

At least you know it, was stupid to lie about something so inconsequential.

[wankiam]

it ain't going that great, being in a relationship based on lies. tell him the truth and if he doesn't understand then he ain't the one for you

[MrAssHat]

ok so why are u lying? what did you do that you needed to lie bout working on the 4th?

[Asker]

I don't know why I'm lying. I guess I've made a big deal about this job (don't text him during work, always tired ). I used up my fake days off. It wouldn't add up if I didn't work on the 4th

[MrAssHat]

holy crap what is wrong with you lol... you are making this fake job actually more stressful then work.. So what is it you do during you "work" hours lol

[Asker]

I know this is getting very out of hand. It was a job at a hotel and it was too stressful for me but I only worked for 2 weeks

[MrAssHat]

ahh lordy i think you should be fired from your fake job damnit... but seriously u need to end this bullshit if you want to keep the relationship going

[doobie345621]

There's no point being in a relationship if you can't be open and honest.

[sp33d]

Tell him the truth, it's not that big a deal plus the longer you let this lie stand, the less chance you have at.."redeeming" yourself. Begs the question, why you are lying in the first place.

[Sexualchrist]

My advice is keep making the lie more and more elaborate for fun

[ryanfyfe]

Tell him they had a cut back and all new staff were let go first due to less experience then the senior staff. Bullet proof.

[SleepingSnorlax]

Sounds like you fucked up
The sooner you tell him the easier itll be for everyone

[Fuel24]

Just be honest with him regardless of what you think he might think about you, and put your mind at ease

[selmo93]

You have to as he'll find out himself

[Anonymous]

Can you get the job back?

[Asker]

I seriously doubt it. I quit I doubt they will give it back to me

[Anonymous]

Women are such sloots

[SatyricLord]

Tell the truth.