What's your opinion on very intelligent guys?

[Sal_202]

I personally love them, and the bonus is that they are more faithful ❤

I'm in deep love with them

I like them

Ah they are okay

I hate them

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[Anonymous]

People are always talking about "intelligence" like it's some superior thing in the dating world. But all throughout history, everyone with actual intelligence was mocked and ridiculed, if not actively stoned or shot to death. And, often, the higher the intelligence, the more disabilities come with it. People with higher IQ's are more susceptible to mental illness and addiction. Instability is often a consequence of a high intelligence. "Intelligence" is a really vague term, and it can be defined and perceived in many ways.

More, it's impossible for an unintelligent person to gauge what is and is not intelligent--so, what is intelligent to them is not going to be intelligent to an actually intelligent person. We have no way of measuring "intelligence." We can vaguely measure *academic* potential via IQ. The vast majority of people cannot understand what intelligence is. They would view it as stupidity.

"Intelligence" is way too vague a characteristic, for this question.

Your question--not saying you are--is stupid; and, what you see as "intelligence" is most likely "charming charisma with a bit of knowledge": or some other characteristic other than intelligence.

[Bandit74]

This ^^

[Sal_202]

I can understand your statement and I can agree with you in some aspects. Generally speaking when I say "intelligence" I don't quite refer to academic. A combination of intellect with emotions will result in a man who is wise intellectually. Everyone has their own definition of what's considered to be intellectual. A person who can relate to others and speak in human terms as well as having experience with life is what's intellectual, not a man who hacks computers, keep arguing a point, talk about physics.. etc etc. A materialistic mindset like CEO's aren't viewed intellectual to me as much as the man who is at peace with himself and has a sense of spiritualism by not clinging himself towards objects... that is true intelligence in my opinion.

[Sal_202]

If you take notice you'll realise having the sense of intellectual wisdom doesn't cause mental illness as materialistic intelligence.

[Opinion Owner]

Like I said. Charisma with a bit of knowledge--not intelligence. See, but that's not what you said. And that would be emotional intelligence.

At "peace" with himself. You're talking about interpersonal intelligence: which pretty much goes hand in hand with charisma. Quite a bit different from just "intelligence". Completely different, one could say, if one plays Fallout. And existential intelligence, which could otherwise be called "spiritual" intelligence, is pretty close to charisma, as well. Something that not a lot of peoplebthink about when you just default say "intelligence".

You're not attracted to intelligence. You're attracted to charisma.

I have no idea what you mean by "materialistic intelligence".

Thank you for the extrapolation, but my point was: your question was excessively vague--so, next time, maybe you should be more precise in what you are asking about peoples' preferences.

[rayoki]

I like intelligent people who don't try to show how smart they are to everyone else, the ones that are intelligent and you only see it when you are in conversation with them, or if they are doing some activity. People that go out of their way to prove how smart they are, sch as arguing with a teacher in front of a class, I find very very annoying. Real conservative intelligent people gain my utmost respect.

[udolipixie]

What's your opinion on very intelligent guys?
F. I'm not interested

I don't hate them. I just generally don't find it an appealing trait as I find most intelligent guys tend to be:
- arrogant
- have highly inflated egos
- condescending
- assumptive that they know it all/know more than you
- assumptive they are better
- argumentative always looking for something to nitpick or argue to show how they're right
- incapable of admitting they are wrong
- mansplainers (ie they will explain shit to me as a gal as if I couldn't possibly know such as explaining how my period works -high school dude-)

In my experiences/observations the negatives just goes on and on.

[ElissaDido]

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I love smart men, and Educated men <3
Smart + Educated + Experience - Pseudo- intellectualism = Perfection (my Dad is like this and always admired him for that).
Even better if he grew up around different people or traveled and is interested in knowing them truly without having any apprehension.

[MaelaK]

Well, that depends on what kind of intelligence they have and how they express it. I don't have one specific vision of what intelligence is. I'd just say that if I can feel any sort of intellectual depth, I'm intrigued.

[Azgeda]

They're okay but self-identified intelligent people rustle my jimmies.
Quoting Bruce Lee here -
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[Sal_202]

I can understand that, I can be a bit skeptic of people who label themselves intelligent. Once a person begins to talk, you'll be able to identify their level of intellect. As a question it's hard for others to show their abilities, so they just say if they are or not intellectual as a straight forward answer. I'm sure in person they won't especially if they truly are bright.

[TiffyPuff]

In theory, I love intelligent guys. In practice, they usually don't know to talk to girls or other people. I'll take a socially savvy guy with a good brain over a genius with crippled social skills any day.

[Sal_202]

If you're the outgoing social type, it might be hard. Those you claim as being unable to talk with females only happens when it's someone new or they are in public. I've spoken to a few guys behind doors because of their level of anxiousness and honestly, they are quite social and have the ability to communicate about many things that will interest you. I have a problem with guys who are very savvy, outgoing and talkative... it shows he is charismatic not certainly intellectual.

[TiffyPuff]

I get where you're coming from, but in my experience, the "intelligent" guys tend to be a bit haughty and look down on people. So they end up not seeing people's good qualities, and they miss out on getting socially skilled because they think it's beneath them to talk to people. Hard to fall in love with someone when you're busy judging them (and hard to fall in love with someone who is judging you).

And I've also experienced "intelligent" guys to be more misogynistic. They don't have experience with women, so they tend to fill in the blanks with Bullshit... and then justify it with their inflated sense of intellectual superiority and importance. Or if they're not misogynistic, they're also usually wildly unrealistic with their expectations about dating and romance, and that gets uncomfortable really fast.

I value their intelligence, but being good at math doesn't make them a worthwhile romantic option.

[CisScum]

Thanks OP... I am pretty intelligent :$
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[Sal_202]

oh really? how about you prove to me ☺

[CisScum]

Ummm... I know history and can totally proof read any university papers for you. Also I know basic English, that is a big one. Test me right now OP, I promise I won't use google.

[Sal_202]

I don't need to ask because from the way you type it shows you have a way with your words ☝

[CisScum]

You know it ;)

[Sal_202]

I sure do sweet face 😉

[Seneya]

Too much of everything is bad in my opinion. I do like intelligent guys but I like smart guys more. People who knows what to do in a tricky situation is my type of guy.

[Sal_202]

If you mean smart by street smart and intellectual by book wise then that makes sense, but having both combined can be a true asset. Intelligent guys are known not to break trusts, and besides feeling safe with them, you also feel a sense of communication exchange that is very interesting 👏

[Seneya]

I don't really believe with some facts like intelligent guys don't break trust and everything. I've have known some guys who broke trust in spite of being intelligent. Being intelligent doesn't give them a certificate that they wouldn't break trust. It mostly depends on a person's mind, moral and the ability to justify with others. That's why I prefer smart guys with a good IQ.

[Sal_202]

Oh I hope you aren't confusing true intelligence with superficial intelligence. They can come off the same, but one relies on true knowledge while the other is shallow. Someone can be clever as a devil or clever as an angel. If you seek the intellect with emotions, you'll get a guy who has wisdom and he will never break your trust.

[Seneya]

Intelligence and smartness go hand in hands. I like smart guys because smartness is something that time, circumstances and experience teach us. We are not born with, we grow it in ourselves. So this type of intelligence is something that I vote more for.

[Tomsta]

I regard myself as farily intelligent; obviously there are people more intelligent than me, but i haven't noticed any increased female attention. Especially when i mention what my degree was is i always get the same look

[Sal_202]

Nowadays everybody just cares for the confident person who'll sweep them off their feet with a sweet tongue. If you're the intelligent guy who is arrogant then yeah I'm sure you won't get any attention with females.

[Tomsta]

I'm defiunatley not arrogant, i'm far from it actually, i'm quite humble i do have a sweet tounge. Although i'm not really that confident

[RedVulcan]

I love intelligent girls, and the way I act basically means the girl has to love my intelligence back

[Sal_202]

Honestly the fact that I keep hearing guys being intimidated by intelligent girls gives me no hope in the love domain because I care about knowledge and expanding it a lot. Generally speaking, I don't find myself as a genius, but I am aiming high to improve and have a growth mindset. At least you gave me hope.

[RedVulcan]

Oh man, you're giving me some hope too. I keep hearing girls going on and on about physical attraction when really the relationship won't work too well if one person doesn't pay attention to what's inside of the other's head. Now I just need to find more people like you in real life.

[Sal_202]

Every girl is different, some find it important to be physically attracted while others find it important to be mentally attracted. I go with mentally, but obviously that doesn't mean I don't care about physical attraction, and I am sure you're just the same. The only problem is the fact that others put priority on something that doesn't last nor guarantees a successful relationship.

[RedVulcan]

You've summed up my thoughts on the matter perfectly. So many people go for physical attraction and then wonder why they don't love the person they married later, or they come across a problem the two of them can't figure out. It's so much more important and satisfying to go for mental attraction.
Follow up question. I'm still in high school, but after you graduate where do you find other people with this mindset in the physical world?

[Razzle-Dazzle]

I don't agree with your statemt at all. I'd never judge a person's loyalty based on their intelligence. People who are very intelligent are more likely to be more calculating and deceitful , and hide it well.

[Anonymous]

As someone who has a pretty big rep for intellect at my school, I've never been approached by a girl, so I assume it doesn't really matter to them.

[Sal_202]

Hmm well it depends because some intelligent guys can come off very arrogant and self centered. I have a guy friend who is intelligent, and honest to god the only thing that made his level of attraction hit bottom hard was his arrogance about the knowledge he has obtained. Generally, guys who have high intelligence with humility and spirituality are true gifts ❤

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think I come off as arrogant. I have a sarcastic sense of humor where I border narcissism to make fun of people with high egos, so sometimes I can appear a bit egotistical lol. I should probably change that

[Opinion Owner]

But once people get to know me, they understand that it's all a joke and I actually legitimately care for my friends

[Sal_202]

Yeah, it's definitely the egotistic trait you're giving off... once you begin to humble yourself it gets better. Sarcasm is a good quality, but it has its place and time.. often people say it in inappropriate times as well as unsuitable areas. A person's sarcasm can also come off as if you're degrading them, so you'll need to be careful.

[Elarra]

They don't exist.

Lol, just kidding, I love intelligent guys. Intelligence is very attractive. I can't date someone I perceive to be an ignoramus.

[SteelerNation50]

I'm 6' 4" and test at around a 138 IQ that doesn't seem to help me at all lol.

[Chico_brah]

My IQ ise aboute 12 lmao. I wouldn't no anything about be smart. baha.

[SunsetLover]

Lately this is becoming very high on the list of things to have. Third place after sense of humor and nice arms.

[JoyGirl]

Of course I like intelligent guys. ❤
Nerds get along with other nerds. 😎

[akadatank44]

I love intelligent women but know when to be silly and joke around.

[Anonymous]

I am definitely attracted to intelligent guys. But I find them intimidating sometimes

[DarIing]

I'm very fond of them.

[mmbrownie]

Depends on the mentality.

[MaLifeBeLikeOooAaah]

I'd say I'm intelligent ^^

[Sal_202]

In that case, you're boo 👏

[This_is_my_username]

😍😍 men who Are intelligent are amazing

[akadatank44]

We know 😏😏

[reixun]

Deep love, my favorite type.