Can friends ever really be just friends after they've had lots of sex?

[Anonymous]

Is it possible for this to happen, or is the friendship doomed? Would you be okay with your SO keeping a close friend around who they've had lots of sex with? This wasn't a one time drunken thing it happened a lot.

Yes

No

[MarriedMale43]

I have two long-term relationships from before my wife:

The first amounted to the what-not-to-wear of "polygamy", and taught me everything there was to know about screwing up a polygamous relationship, while also breaking my heart and triggering major depression.

The second demonstrated how a strong, self-confident, honest woman handles herself, and did more to heal my wounded psyche than any therapist. She also taught me how to make a polygamous relationship work for both parties. We went our separate ways after a while, and are each married with children.

You'll be utterly surprised to know that I'll be happiest if I never see the first ever again - and that the second and I remain friends to this day.

Though what may be shocking is that she and my wife are better friends :)

[ak666]

>> Would you be okay with your SO keeping a close friend around who they've had lots of sex with?

I answered this second question, not the first, and in my case it'd be "hell no". It matters little to me whether or not they are capable of just being friends.

It's not even necessarily an insecurity on my part. I just don't like the idea of having to hear or meet or hang out with some guy who had a passionate sexual relationship with my SO. I don't want to hear about him all the time as they hang out together, or even if I'm involved and we all hang out together.

That's just awkward and goofy in ways that would annoy the hell out of me.

[Anonymous]

Yes. If both people have a grip on their emotions, it's entirely possible. Sex is fantastic, and it can be a great stress reliever. Maybe you have a friend that serves that purpose for you, and you for them. The only problem I have with those sorts of friends is that it gets to the point where the two of you don't want to do anything else together. Maybe you used to hike or go to the movies together. But once you realize how great sex is with them, that's pretty much all the two of you ever do anymore. Which I guess is great in and of itself. You just catch a lot less movies!

[hiimisla]

Yes it is possible but there has to be boundaries. I have two friends that I have had a sexual relationship with. One of them is engaged so we do our best to respect each others boundaries. For example, we don't spend excessive amounts of time alone together. Our families are really close so we see each other all the time. Sometimes he says or does things that remind me of our moments together but I know that he's in a happy relationship and we could never happen again. We both accept that and we are able to be very close friends.

[sundressgal]

Honestly I'd say no. How can you possibly be just friends with someone with no sexual chemistry anymore once you've seen them naked - not once but a ton of times - I honestly believe it's not possible. You can pretend. But there will always be chemistry there.

[Powercore122]

I would disagree with you had similar experience and we remained good friends for years after I we did have a falling out but that was due to unrelated reasons

[sweetlivy]

You'll probably still be friends, but just friends with benefits. :)

[spoonman2014]

I don't think anyone wants to put a face to their partners past unless it is a baby mom/dad. Also if it was just pure sex, not the relationship without the title so many people want it would be possible. I don't get how people go on these lavis adventures and buy things for their friends they peg. The last thing I got my friends with benefits was two hot dogs, one from the gas station the other my own lol!

[Anonymous]

Nope, not really which is why it's a super dumb decision to sleep with someone casually that you want in your life down the road.

I think you guys could want to be friends but I can't see anyone you guys dating being okay with that and it could cause other problems as well... like jealousy or resentment... not smart, not smart at all.

[es20490446e]

https://youtu.be/DtohZG818ZQ

[Sapioit]

Just a question: Why do you answer with videos, every single time you answer?

[es20490446e]

@Sapioit That's a recurrent question:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tFi-jxr0LNY

[Sapioit]

Alright, I understand. Thanks!

That scretching thou'...

[Powercore122]

In my experience it's worked out a girl I grew up with ended up haveing sex and we ended up haveing sex for a while and then kinda just stopped but remained good friends but we unfortunately had a falling out due to unrelated reasons

[Anonymous]

It's possible. One of my friends used to be in a very sexual relationship but due to circumstances I will not disclose things ended, but they're still close friends. In fact, sometimes she sleeps over there and they never do a thing.

[clampfan101]

It would be extremely hard and/or awkward at first, but be very possible and become less difficult as they continued to try.
Anything is possible!

[Doriva]

It all dependes on the relationship you have with the person.

[PrincessPie]

From a personal point of view i think yes..

[existing_not_living]

I think it's possible.

[jacquesvol]

It should be possible.

[Tharsha]

Friends with Benefit

[lord_chilled]

Nope

[Anonymous]

it is difficult