How do I deal with a spoiled girlfriend?

[ColdSilver]

I've been in a relationship for 1.5 years with this girl and I slowly started to see that she doesn't react well when we have different opinions about things.
She is not rich or anything, in fact, she works since she was 16 yo. However, every time I say something "unpleasant" to her she gets mad.
So now she wants me to be cool with her hanging out with guys she had sex with in the past and said that they will be invited to our wedding and stuff. Besides that, she not only wants to keep those friends as her best friends but she wants me to be friends with them too.
I said that it'll not be possible and she got mad saying that I am being jealous and she cannot play jealousy. The truth is that I am jealous of her sometimes and I tell her when it happens and why is it happening, I don't scream or fight about it... I just tell her what I am feeling because human beings have feelings, right?
I just would like to know what is the best approach to talking to her in a way that will make her realise what I feel about all this and that it is ok to have different opinions and vision, but she needs to respect me and stop looking for a fight whenever I don't say she is right.

[kaylaS91]

Tell her that you're not cool with her hanging out with guys she's had sex with in the past, on top of inviting them to your guys' wedding in the future. That she either respects that, or you might have to walk out of the relationship (assuming such behaviour on her end is a recurring thing.)

[ColdSilver]

I told her that I am fine that she had sex partners in the past, but I won't be ok with those that she still hang out with. That is why she said I was being jealous and then she got really mad at me.
She was not comfortable because I slept with a friend of her before she and I start dating, but she wants me to be comfortable and proud around those guys because I am the one who has her. I saw how it could affect the relationship and decided to end the friendship with that girl.
Am I wrong for not be willing to have former sex partners around or I am being chauvinist?

[kaylaS91]

no, there's nothing wrong or chauvinistic with having your own individual levels of comfort of who your s/o spend time around. Especially if it's involving past partners of theirs.

Don't let her try to prevent you from not setting down firm boundaries of what you're not okay with because of something you did in the past. That's manipulative af and sounds like she's the one who wants her cake and to eat it too.

[ColdSilver]

Is it weird to hang out and have ex-partners as best friends?

I really love her and I improved a lot with my social skills because of her, so sometimes I feel insecure about if what I am doing is socially acceptable or not

[kaylaS91]

Is it weird to hang out with exes?
Umm.. different strokes for different folks. Some people are able to make it work but that's beside the point. Whether it's weird or not, you're free to feel uncomfortable with it and, seeing as how a happy+healthy relationship is a TWO way street, there's nothing wrong at all with your laying down the law and telling her that you'd like her to not hang with her ex.

[ColdSilver]

I just wish I could find a way to have a decent conversation as adults. I'm sick of fights because I had problems with it during my childhood when I watched my parents fighting all the time.
Unfortunately, she keeps scores, and every time we have a disagreement she throws a fit on my face and if I say something bad that she did she gets sad/mad and I am considered a monster. Long story short, all my problems and all her problems and all our problems are my fault when we fight.

[kaylaS91]

she keeps scores? What in the fuck?
Dude. The more you tell me, the more mentally undeveloped this chick is beginning to sound. Keeping scores, wanting liberties she doesn't grant to you, to name a few, are all classic signs of a super toxic/unhealthy relationship.
Get out.

[ColdSilver]

When we are fighting she brings up bad things I did (like looking at her facebook without her knowing) and already apologized for.
However, if I do the same she gets crazy mad.
A friend of her told me that she is notoriously known as "spoiled" and that she does not react well when things do not come out the way she wanted.
This is the only thing I see as a problem between us, other than that she is super sweet.
I wish I could change that without being manipulative... This is making me super sad =(

[kaylaS91]

'This is the only thing I see as a problem between us, other than that she is super sweet.'
.. she's super sweet, yet you still felt the need to make a whole post about how you should deal with the 'only' issue she presents within the relationship, that's filled with nothing but justifications for her really shit-behaviour?

... right. Well, I suppose you don't need any assistance at all.

[ColdSilver]

Well, I mean as a major problem that is affecting me.
I like her, ok? Maybe I am in a fatal attraction but I wanna solve the problem instead of walk away from it.

Thanks for all advice you gave me, I really appreciate that.

[TragedyAndHope98]

She expects you to allow her to hang out with guys she had sex with in the past? Why are women so completely out of touch with reality and common sense these days? I would advise caution if you are planning on marrying this woman, think long and hard my friend.

[ColdSilver]

Yes, we didn't really talk about it and she expected that I would be totally fine and happy about it.
Whenever I meet a guy who is dating someone I had sex with I feel weird because I used to do nasty stuff with that girl and the new guy is right there looking at me.

I just don't know how to approach this or any other issue with her without fighting, but she's the one who gets mad... soo I don't know =(

[Walrus_au]

you need to establish and enforce your boundaries, there is no easy or painless way to do this. Good luck.

[ColdSilver]

Any advice on how should I do it?
She seems not to listen to me sometimes

[Walrus_au]

None of the advice of others would be valuable in that specific. You know the person, you have the best judgement.