Ladies, how would you feel if another woman cooked for your boyfriend on a consistent basis?

[Anonymous]

Explain your answers

That's great

I don't like it

[btbc92]

Depends on what kind of relationship do they have. If she knows how to cook, at least share some with me and be engaged. If she acts and treats him more special like you don't matter, you KNOW something is up. And that is when you tell her goodbye and let him know that if he goes see her KNOWING that she has a thing for him and he's involved with you, it's goodbye to that relationship. Other than that, never assume, and always be civil. Some women just love to cook and be family oriented. Nothing wrong with that. But don't treat the guy with special attention knowing he is taken. Just, no.

[Asker]

Wow cooking for someone is now cheating

[btbc92]

It's not about it being cheating. But the INTENTIONS behind them. That is what we don't trust. Why can't she invite the girl too? Is there something wrong with her being around? Like I said. It depends on what kind of relationship do they have? Women are territorial. Always. Especially now where the tables turn about not being married when having sex. That means anybody is up for grabs. Because... YOUR. NOT. MARRIED. Outside of marriage the woman loses. In marriage, if divorce happens, it's usually always against the man. But it does effect women too. That's why if the girl is not setting boundaries, the guy usually isn't. Thus a breakdown in communication and the relationship becomes reality.

[Asker]

So us men are just idiots who can't control our desires and we need the woman to save us

[Alizpatch14]

if they're having dinner together regularly, thats hanging out with another woman, alone, with none of his guy friends, or his partner, which is something to be worried about. It really feels awful when your partner would rather hang out with some other person rather than you, with the intent of them being a possible significant other.

[btbc92]

No. It's you men not taking consideration how the other feels and you write it off as insecurity. Then when the girl really do leave you for the other guy who WILL listen to her, you swear up and down you did everything you could to protected it. And say how she's just unreasonable. It doesn't matter. She wanted you to listen to her personal convictions, and you writing it off is telling her 'I don't care about your feelings'. So you know what? That's fine. She will find somebody who does.

[LadyVet]

I have to agree with you but to be honest no self ritighteous woman will cook for a man knowing he has a partner.

[LadyVet]

No, but you have some scandalous women out there.

[Nukina]

Is she a cook? If that's her job, nice.
Sometimes people don't have time to cook but want to eat home made food, so they hire that kind of services.
But if she had another intentions then I wouldn't like it.
I just read she is a friend and she cooks a specific food he likes, well... I would like to taste that food too (I like food!). If she is a friend I don't see intentions that could mean a menace. I also like to bake for friends and family.

[Wonderer89]

Unless it's a relative I'd actually be incredibly uncomfortable if another woman cooked for him on a regular basis.
Cooking for people is a huge way of how I provide love and care for them. To have him accept that from someone else would put a huge strain on my trust and validity as a partner

[Asker]

What if they are long time friends?

[Wonderer89]

So she's close friends with me as much as with him and we spend a lot of time together? I can visibly see at all times it's 100% platonic?

[daviceroy]

Food is often the way to a man's heart. Not saying it always happens this way, but usually a woman won't cook for another woman's boyfriend without knowing she is okay with it and or making enough for all UNLESS her intentions aren't good. In my personal experience, the ill intended have outweighed the good.

[DodgersGM]

Call me crazy, but I'd LOVE a woman who disapproved of such a thing. lol

[Lucyj23]

No , my boyfriend unfortunately lives in a house where his ex lives and when her mom cooks she offers food and calls his name. When he went to check what she wanted she offered food and came by the room and I was waiting outside ready to say something bc no one called me. She then said she didn’t know I was home and said sorry for bothering him bc she didn’t know I was there. Hmmmmmm that’s odd. She likes to bug my boyfriend when I’m not around. I made it clear that he’s mine and I’m the one that cooks for him if he’s hungry. That’s one way I show my love. I made it clear he isn’t going to accept food from her especially bc she’s an ex and there’s some comfort there. Nope.

[samhradh_leannan]

Who is this woman? A chef? His mom? Or a friend/acquaintance who is trying to woo him? Who the person is matters a lot.

[Alizpatch14]

unless the woman is a close relative, you should be concerned. He should want you to cook for him, or he should cook a meal for himself and you.

[Asker]

What if she cooks something from her culture that he really likes

[Alizpatch14]

regularly?

[Asker]

Like once or twice a week

[Alizpatch14]

unless it was his mother or grandmother, if that was my boyfriend, i would be concerned.

[LonelyBird5]

If she doesn't cook for me too ima be like naw. The bitch gotta go. Not bc she cooked for him. Because she ONLY cooked for him

[Asker]

How selfish and self centered

[LonelyBird5]

Naw acting like I don't get hungry is selfish

[LonelyBird5]

if you're going to try to get to my man feed me

[devoted2moore]

he is my man I am supposed to take care of him not someone else. occasional is fine if he is visiting a friend or we are but no not all the time

[Asker]

What if she can cook some things very specific to her culture?

[devoted2moore]

once in a while. not all the time. and who is she? family? friend?

[Asker]

Friend

[devoted2moore]

I still wouldn't like it

[LadyVet]

It's funny, this actually happen to me. My partner had surgery and a woman he knows at a gym offered to bring him some food. He told her his partner is cooking for him. She responded with we are friends. I thinks it's bold, would she cook if he was married. If she had a specialty it might be different or if she was bringing enough for 2. Brazen on her part.

[mooky06]

It depends who she is and what her exact intentions are. I'd assume if she was an immediate family member, I wouldn't be concerned. Anything other then that, doesn't sound ideal

[curlsNcolors]

I'd feel like he's going to her for more than just food.

[Asker]

What if she just makes awesome food?

[curlsNcolors]

then it shouldn't be a problem for me to be included or for my boyfriend to ask me to cook those dishes for him. but I can cook well so..

[Asker]

Why can't both you and her do it?

[curlsNcolors]

I dont understand why she has to be present? Im not the type to need a kitchen helper and have cooked for large groups of people. honestly speaking I could probably out cook her. so my question is why does my guy need her cooking if I'm fully capable and what does she want from my guy?

[Asker]

What if they're friends? And he likes some of her things better?

[curlsNcolors]

this is very unlike my guy 1. to have any female friends as most of them make him feel uncomfortable and having not as much in common. 2. in 10 years I've never known him to like another females anything over mine not even his own mother sadly. so I can't help sorry

[Asker]

If she is from a certain culture that she is an expert in?

[curlsNcolors]

hypothetically my guy would most likely ask me to learn how as he has done before just to cut out the middle man. but if she's somehow a friend of his and he really likes the dish I wouldn't mind him picking up the dish and having it. but him sitting alone with her while she cooks and feeds him... I'd be bothered she didn't invite me and nor did he

[RJGraveyTrain]

I would wonder why the fuck he needed another woman to cook for him lol. I can do it myself.

[Meggg_]

I think it's a bit weird unless their related some how, makes it seem like she's into him.

[HeatNation1]

or maybe that he's into her ;)

[Poppykate]

I am a very good cook. I would take her down! 😡 Good thing I don't have a boyfriend! Lol 😂

[Megalyssa]

I hope dome day I will be able to afford such help. And house cleaning please

[FashionKiller]

That's weird why is she doing that and not himself?

[Asker]

Because she is better at cooking

[FashionKiller]

Who is she?

[Asker]

A friend

[FashionKiller]

Nah I wouldn't like it

[None11am]

I think we should be worried about her trying to steal your man

[TacosRAwesome]

I'd rather she does the cleaning. I love cooking. And I've claimed it first.

[Nwozirimary1997]

What if the boyfriend is not the one who permitted her to cook and she cook in her place to serve him

[Anonymous]

I have a girlfriend and I 'eat' at another woman's house. Hehehe

[WizardOfWar]

Lol. Like his mother?

[RachelleDraws]

I don't have or want a boyfriend. So, I don't care

[Asker]

Gee, then maybe don't answer the question? Dur hur

[Blonde401]

Why would she do that?

[Asker]

They're long time friends, and she makes some specific food from her culture that he likes a lot

[Blonde401]

How consistent? Daily? Weekly?

[Asker]

Weekly, but sometimes periods of time less or more

[Blonde401]

Then eh, not really too big of a deal

[Asker]

Wow someone who isn't super insecure

[Blonde401]

Yeah I'm not easily made jealous. I mean if she was cooking for him everyday I'd be a bit like... this is odd. Why can't we eat together, etc. But if it's like once a week with a friend or whatever then no biggie.