So is it an outdated social convention. Or is it still the best part of romance, and a way to show permanent Undying love to the world.
Personally I believe in Undying love and I think that marriage is the ultimate way of showing that to the world. The only thing I consider few more permanent than marriage is a tattoo. Haha. But somehow I believe that I am strangely Outnumbered these days.
Many people these days view marriage has more of a sort of 10 maybe 15 year arrangement. And the question there is why enter into a permanent Bond with an exit strategy. Others are choosing to skip the convention all together seeing it is only an unnecessary legal tax break and a way to appease one's family and simplify the answer to questions about your love life.
A lot of my friends are getting married and it seems like every wedding there will be guys sitting at the bar betting on how long this one will last. It's said jokingly but it seems that people don't see marriage as a permanent thing anymore. Therefore if it's not permanent then what is it?
Note. If you reply with a textbook or dictionary response/ definition to the word marriage. Then you're a bloody moron! I am asking about the convention of marriage and it's role within Society within Society. Everybody knows what marriage is!!!
Social convention only but I still believe and want it
Social convention only and no longer required or should not be seen as permanent
I can't honestly go with any of the above answers, although I did pick one. Marriage is nothing more or less than a promise. You swear an oath, before witnesses that you will stay with that person and love and cherish them. It's not an easy oath to give and it shouldn't be done lightly. But in the end, it's merely a symbolic act. It has as much meaning as you give it. I've known couples who have spent their entire lives together, and had a stronger relationship than most, and they never once stood in front of a judge or a minister. I've known couples that married for so the wrong reasons and could not abide by their vows for longer than 6 months.
The point that it's missed here is not whether marriage has changed because it's still exactly what it has been, an exchanging of promises, but what happened to society.
Some here will blame feminism but marriage was failing before women were even allowed the right to own property. So what is it then? I suggest you look up anything about the lie of romance. Adam Ruins Everything gives a great introductory piece on it. But in short, European Romanticism killed marriage the same way that it killed love. It also provided the foundation for many of the misconceptions that people hold about relationships and gender roles. The West may have conquered the world and advanced technology far past the other cultures, but they/we have been pretty dumb when it comes to anything involving matters if the mind and spirit, and especially the heart.
Why is it inappropriate for a woman to propose to a man? Because that makes him not manly? If only our ancestors knew how fragile our egos would be, they would've committed mass suicide. No, it's wrong because European society, back during the Renaissance, decided that it was the man's job to woo the lady. It was his obligation to do all the work. He made the first move, he proposed. He was always on top. Because... romance. The tradition of spending incredible amounts of money and buying gifts and jewelery- all started by the romantic movement. Courting? Romanticism. Unrealistic ideas about long term relationships, and hiding all your flaws until after you've committed? You guessed it.
Well. It might be vestigial but clearly most people want to go through the process at some point and more importantly I think its bout haveing the same rights as everybody else. I personally couldnt give a crap about say hula hooping but if someone tould me I couldn't do its because I was say a (insert any other factor I have no control over) And it was illegal for me to do it becasue it. I'd be pissed. I'd fight for the same rights as everyone else. It's about equality. I have a lot of guys freind and they are frankly more normal then me. So I guess it would be like saying that all people with spectrum disorders can't drive. That wouldn't go down very well would it.
Sadly the majority see it as a social convention. For me personally, i mean yes i want to marry but mostly for religious reasons. I want to marry before having sex and kids with my boyfriend. I also always wanted to have my dream wedding. Gosh i sound bad saying this, but its true. I also want to marry so that we can prove just how commited we are to one another. And i want us to both have rings to flash in the faces of any hoes who try to hit on us.
Yes I knew rings would come out eventually. That's actully not really that old a tradition at all. And your story asside do other people need a marriage to wear a ring? I think people forget to see conventions for what they are. Take engagement rings look into there history especially the but about advertising and diamond! It's crazy stuff.
Well i dont need a diamond. My boyfriend and i have been together for 9 months. On month 4, i bought us rings (i guess you can say promise rings) and we got our names and all engraved into them. He has worn his 24/7 except for in the shower and i wear mine not at home but whenever i go out in public
Well, marriage is still important to some people. But, it's also true that it's becoming less and less common. Maybe it's because some people don't believe it's going to last or because they prefer to be in a relationship. But, I don't think it's outdated, even though I don't want to get married.
To some people, like me, marriage is sacred, in a religious aspect. I am Catholic, in my religion marriage isn't only a convention or part of romance, it is a holy sacrament. It is spiritual. I do agree to most people nowadays, marriage is on the same level as what exclusive dating use to be. 💖
Mariage is creating a new family into society a lot of people don't believe in what they call just a paper but it's what gives you a sense of commitment and responsibility
I am Christian and to us it is coming before God with our relationship and getting His blessing, It is two people from two different families coming together to make one whole new family, To me it is the night we also lose our virginities and marriage being the highest step in a relationship.
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