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How can I get my boyfriend to be ok with my body goal? (Page 2)
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Well when I look at your pic there's still some feminity left in you... maybe that's enough for your boyfriend to feel aroused... The lower pic of your goal is totally manly ( according to me) , that's a turnoff for many guys...
Talk to your boyfriend and ask him the reason... It maybe this or maybe u r giving too much of your time in this workout n gym thing and he feels you are getting obsessed over it...
Could be anything..
Now the point is that you have to prioritise your choices... n go for the ones more important...
Good luck to you ✌
That look isn't really what's considered attractive in a conventional sense, but if that's what you want then you really need to do what makes you happy. As for your boyfriend, I don't really want to say he's displaying caveman mentality, but he's intimidated (which a lot of guys would be). I get the same attitude from men because I was in the military for five years and I want to be a cop, even though I act very feminine. My chosen career path negates that in their eyes.
I'm not saying I blame the men for feeling that way. They're entitled to like what they like. If a man doesn't want to date you because of your body, he's not the guy for you. 😊
It is your body and you should do with it as you like but as you are still young you might also want to know the side effects of getting this much muscle. For instance, the more musclemass you get the higher you testosterone levels will get this could have negative side effects if you try to get pregnant. Now thats one of many positive and negative effects of enlarged musclemass but know that what ever you do, you do it for you. So take every thing you want in live in consideration, since stretching the skin is no problem but if your body/musclesmass decreases for some reason the skin does not slink aswell. Just something to might take in consideration aswell. As long as you are happy with the decision you have made, your boyfriend should also be. After all: happy wife, happy life😉. Maybe even encourge him to join in, if your decision is to grow more musclemass.
I really like your passion and I can totally understand why your boyfriend doesn't find it okay. Personally, I find it very scary and if in future I have a girlfriend like these girls in photos, I won't be able to sleep and live in constant fear when some punch is going to come at me and if my bones are going to be broken. I know things are not like this.
The only way you can make him feel comfortable is that you try to make himself a body builder himself so he can at least defend himself haha just kidding. I am really sorry I cannot help much but do not kidnap me and torture🙏
Sorry for my poor language skills. I am still working on it
Hey! Can you suggest me some health or fitness blogs if you know any? I want to be muscular too. I dont know where to start or to trust.
I... um... well.. yeah, I dont know what to say. If you wanna look like a man then keep it up and you will get there. Im sure its just your boyfriend wanting to date someone who has some semblence of feminity and not someone who looks like a guy from the gym. Not really sure how to put that in a way that sounds unoffensive. Ibdont mean it in a mean way, nor am I being cruel, but the mote muscle you gain the less you will look like a woman. I would probably be having thebsame problem he is having to be fair. Im happy to talk in private if you need me to elaborate or talk more in depth or spitball ideas.
First of all, you need to ask yourself if this is a good idea. You mentioned the word “addicted” in reference to exercise. Exercise addiction is a real thing. If you are going to pursue this goal, make sure you do so for the right reasons and consider the possible long-term health consequences. The blonde woman in the picture looks like she may have used steroids to get that physique.
Achieving the body type you want and keeping the boyfriend you have may be incompatible goals. If you want him to stick around, I’d suggest encouraging him to do some (more?) weight lifting. Sedentary people usually date sedentary people. Fitness fanatics usually date fitness fanatics. The more extreme the difference in physical activity, the less likely you are to be compatible with each other.
I’m not going to tell you what to do with your own body. But it looks to me like you’ve already achieved perfection. And I’ve heard that you can’t improve on perfection.
I feel like doing something for your benefit is totally fine. For example it can be gym, gardening, biking, driving, gaming, cooking, etc. In a relationship its important to keep the other person in mind that whatever thing it is you will be doing isn't going to suffocate the relationship. Some hobbies can completely take over because they become an addiction. I feel like overly pursuing the gym will indeed change a lot of things. But if it's something you can maybe convince him is worth doing at least for a while. and if he still isn't open to the idea, then you can have another discussion with him at that point.
In the long run do what makes you happy because who says your going to be with him in the future. If he cannot accept it then there is someone out there who will. Convincing or forcing him to get on the same wagon could be potentially dangerous if he is not comfortable with it. He could reject the idea immediately if he is not somehow coaxed into it. Maybe if you worked out WITH him? Make him feel like the dominant one. Friends are powerful and they could tease him by saying stuff like you wear the pants and skirt and where does that leave him? Bottom line: do not force it but if you want it to work just guide him or go HIS speed.
First of, it's YOUR body and you have the right to choose what you want to do with it.
But look at it from his POV, maybe he wants his girl to look like a girl. If you go that route... you'll basically be a freakin she-hulk. What in my opinion looks... weird (again, my opinion). Maybe he wants a "soft, feminine woman." Not someone with bigger muscles than him.
I say compromise with him. Still go to the gym and get your workout on... but don't turn into a woman who can squish his head with your thighs...
I can't tell you how to keep him cause... I don't find that kind of muscular even remotely attractive. :/ I don't find that level of muscular attractive on guys and I find it worse on women. It just kind of looks gross and unnatural. I can't help your guy be okay with it cause I wouldn't find myself okay with it. So... yeah sorry friend :/
firstly, you look great! and proud of yourself, which is even better.
important to realise that regardless of whether or not he personally agrees - which is another argument, i think he should as long as you aren't harming yourself - that he should support you with your life choices. he doesn't own a single organ or muscle on your body, and if he has a problem with the way it looks, then that is his problem alone.
if he feels emasculated, then your body's done your job and he isn't worth your time.
Why do the questions with the most obvious answers get the most answerers? Personally, I think you got so ripped and cut that you ripped and cut part of your brain! But let's suck the subjectivity out of my answer hereforth.
by the way, Don't get me wrong do what you want, yo! But you have to make decisions at they suit you ~ And since changing a persons harbors resentment and the like , sometime for decades that can destroy your relationship, that should be considered a non option... it's an A or B (or neither) question... no-hybrid answers, no ifs, ands or butts, and you must decide... PERIOD! Best wishes!
Hi everybody.
Miss, listen, it is well known that men are visual, a lot much more than women. Something so simple simple can drive us crazy, losing all reason, just by what we see.
For women that is something really hard to understand (not optional, just like how we will never understand giving birth, or menstruation.)
That said, Love is a must. If he Loves you, he will accept you no matter what, not because he has to, but because he chooses to.
That doesn't mean he has to like what you like. If you love him, you'll understand that in a relation, you live for the other (opposite to what many will say.) And this is the compromise of Love.
Don't give up you dreams, but you will have to make choices.
In fact, you already know what to do, but you are here wanted to justify why not to do it.
The truth is that he might not like what he sees, even if he loves you with all his heart. That's how our brains work.
P. S. Learn to be satisfied.
I don't know, I think the first girl is very attractive but sometimes when you build as much muscle as the second you lose the shapes that a guy expects to find in a women. We like curvy hips and legs and whatever and it's just very different. I would talk to him but I think that the first girl is great it's healthy it's amazing but there's a point where with the second girl it gets too much and if it's really an addiction too much bodybuilding can be unhealthy too.. just be careful of how much muscle you're building, the way you are I'd say you're perfectly fine, but don't overwork your body
Life is a set of compromises...
Personally, I'd tell you to not go any further and use your gained potential in Kickboxing, Karate, or just Mixed Martial Arts.
Trust me, when a good coach sees you and tests you, he won't think twice, plus you'll get your daily dose of venting and stamina, and get to stay at that level.
That level of body fitness is perfect for it girl! If you become as dedicated to MMA as you are to the gym, just imagine in 4-5 years time how you will look online after many fights and trophies!
I mean, muscles on all people are hot, but girl, thats body buliding muscle. That is, in my opinion, the biggest turn off. Just saying. I like a girl that has the abs shape, fit, gym ass, and trust me, when your boyfriend says he likes muscles on a girl, he prolly means the muscles on the hips. Just stop trying to get buffier than ur boyfriend... it seriously makes a guy feel bad, dominated and insecure on the fact that his girl has more muscles than him and can bench more lol... i think you shouldn't lose ur boyfriend so just go back to doing normal girl exercise, wich are mostly squats. sorry if you find this harsh, but its the truth
Well, if you love each other, I feel a good conversation should be had about both of your goals. Does he go to the gym, and if so as much as you?
I have a friend that is a competitive body builder, and she's in, to my knowledge, a happy relationship. Tell him how important it is to you. And ask him why he doesn't want you to do this. As one of the other responses said, he might feel emasculated. He might also start to feel inadequate in the relationship. Is it a time thing? (Do you spend more time at the gym than with him?) It could be an attraction thing, but these are things that the two of you would have to discuss and figure out. I say go for it, and good for you having strong goals, but you'll need to have an open and nonjudgmental conversation with your boyfriend to try to find a better perspective of how he feels and maybe even common ground. Good luck with the two of you and your own goals!
It depends on which you care about more. As much as it sounds awful, physical attraction has a lot to do with how well relationships work. It's just a fact. So it makes sense that a drastic change like that would have an effect on your relationship. Basically you'll have to decide which matters more to you, your boyfriends support or getting mad swole. There's no right answer, but remember, exercise / body sculpting can become an addiction. In the immortal words of Jackie Q 'You can turn anything into heroin', just watch out for that.
I, personally, am, frankly, repulsed by such bodies. I'll be upfront about it. I absolutely don't think such bodies are attractive at all. If my partner were to go for such a body I would consider braking up. If anyone is going to say that I am shallow for that - it's quite difficult to appreciate some inner beauty if I can't stand looking at the person.
totally agree. I broke up with a girl over body issues... not going to be with someone who's going to look horrid by the time they are 30.
It's not to everyone's taste, and if you love the guy it'll suck if he's not as into you, but ultimately it's your happiness and comfort over his, and you're the one who spends the most time with you. I'd suggest a compromise along the lines of you gaining x amount of mass or something so you can still be well defined and muscly but he can live with it, but I dunno if you should have to. That said relationships are all about compromise. In the end you can't force him to be ok with it, and he has no right to force you to not pursue your goals.
Do you want to be that muscly for any reason, any intention of competing or whatnot, or do you just like how it feels to be muscular and strong? Do you need to get so developed to feel that way?