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How can I get my boyfriend to be ok with my body goal? (Page 3)
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It's not about you being strong or muscular, it's about you loving him enough to not be selfish worrying him, if i was gay i wouldn't mind that to a guy and the fucking same with women, but there's a line and you know it.
You don't want to be obsessed do you? comprehend that this isn't only about you, nobody likes someone who doesn't even mind their health to be muscular, you have your goals, just let him know that your going to take care and you're not going to go overboard.
Anybody can be muscular, and it's alright, but you have to show your judgement to not hurt him.
The thing is.. With a body like the one you are working to get.. It will make him feel like he is sleeping with another man and i mean no offense.. And if you get muscles bigger than his then im gonna be honest with you, there isn't much that you can do to convince him.. unless if he decides to finally accept you the way you wanna be and bare it... I hope things turn for the best between you 2.. Best of luck 👍
Just explain to him that this truly is your passion that you wish to follow. Explain to him that this is what makes you happy. If he relents and is understanding then all is well, but if not then while of course you should keep trying, you should also think about which is more important to you, because if worse comes to worse you might need to decide between your man and your muscle. I can’t tell you which to choose, but I can suggest that you think about it beforehand in case he refuses to understand.
Btw: I wish my girlfriend and I were both as motivated as you are to get in shape. I need to lose weight and she needs to eat more, and neither of us can stay focused long enough to do either. Your progress is impressive, to say the least.
I believe you have already achieved your goal back in 2015 and now you want more which he have a reason to be concerned because according to the first picture, that woman size on picture is awesome (which is still a feminine shape figure), the second picture is great to but at the same time, you dont really see the feminine features meaning I believe what your boyfriend want is the feminine bodily type shape like in the first picture because Men wants their women to still look feminine. More muscular shape can (no offense) be close to male bodily shape figures. I would tell your boyfriend (If you really love and dont want to lose him) can you try it just once in then go back to the original size like in the first picture.
Well... I'm also a gym freak... And no one can understand our goals and dedication unless the other one is also a gym lover.. even my girlfriend was always against my gym...
But i explained her that is she likes to do something, i won't stop her, i will motivate her to pursue her goals...
Same way i asked her not to stop me from doing anything... She can stop me if I'm doing something wrong.. but i don't think putting on muscles is wrong for any gender (unless u r on steroids)😜
So she stopped nagging me again n again about gym... Secondly i convinced her to join gym... So when she started seeing results in herself, she also became addicted to the and became a gym freak...
So i think u should have a talk with him about ur dreams, ur feelings, ur passion and that u expect him to support u, not stop u
First of all if you really look like her, and aim to look like her second one, CONGRATULATIONS. I will NOT be the one to discourage you, you kick ass.
That said, most guys don't like the overly shredded look, even if they subconsciously like some muscle. If he can't accept that, you can't change that.
Maybe a middle ground would be to stick to your goals in terms of muscle, but accept a higher body fat percentage? Maybe a girl that is 'too fit' is more palatable to him than 'too shredded'. Also since you can cut fat much faster than you can gain muscle, you would still be able to do an occasional cut to reveal what you have worked for.
So here's the thing...
A lot of people will tell you that your body goal is "a turn off" or that it would make you look "too manly" and that it will be a problem for you relationship.
If it becomes a problem for your relationship, you'd know. If it's a turnoff for your boyfriend, I'd hope he'd say something. If he doesn't, then that's his fault, and even if he does, that shouldn't stop you from being who you want to be.
If you want muscle, get muscle. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't or shouldn't. The only person who can make that decision is you.
I like a toned fit woman, but just as too much muscle on a guy looks extreme, to much muscle on a girl is also extreme. There is the old adage everything in moderation. I would ask if you are looking to be extremely muscular, is there a particular reason why? Is it simply for the high of being that muscular and fit? Is it a confidence reason?
If you simply want to be extremely muscular for the muscles themselves, than be careful, because you may find you are never satisfied and become obsessed with it. As I said, everything in moderation. All I'm saying is be careful with your health.
I know the question was more regarding how to get your boyfriend to be alright with your body goal. But if you already look similar to the pictures you posted, then I would say, you need to be cautious of your health first off. Perhaps that is partly why he is hesitant about you becoming any more muscular, he might be subconsciously concerned about your health.
My wife and I talked about this also. I am not bothered by it. Love my girl to be fit. Best way is to get him on this journey with you. It is a problem for guys though. Most men feel immasculated as you can see with all the comments here, but don't let that stop you. Your boyfriend needs to understand that this is important to you and you want to carry it on. You don't want to come to the end of your life and think "if only I could have done more". You won't always have this body so don't stop now.
There's nothing intrinsicly wrong wrong with bodybuilding so long as you add body mass and maintain a bit of balance. You have to think about stuff like fat/muscle ratio; BMI, nutrition and stress on your bones and joints. Look at WWE wrestlers. Charlotte Flair, Chyna, Debra at al. Either they're skinny but toned rather than ripped, or a bit fuller and have muscles to rival the men. At the end of the day go what you feel is best for you but don't put strain on yourself to get there. If you're worried about your boyfriends opinion, try changing bit by bit.
A lot of the comments here annoy me. Obviously he doesn't find that attractive, in my opinion, you should pursue with what you want to do. If that's not his thing, there's nothing either of you can do to change that. Everyone has their types and you can find someone who also likes how you want to look and if you don't want to find someone else, you just have to find a compromise you and your boyfriend can both agree with
I would agree with this. If he doesn't like really defined women. You can't change that. If you can't live without the gym and continuing to grow your muscles and definition he might grow less attracted to you.
I find your comment annoying too, especially if you you're not able to respect other's opinions. So we're even now. Both women look like a man, there's no way around it.
It's because a lot of people were saying that muscles on girls is ugly as if it were a definitive fact. If they said that they don't like it, fair enough, that is their opinion. But you can't dismiss others and call it repulsive
It's our opinion anyways. It's not like we're attacking anybody.
And as I said, if your opinion is that you don't like it and you find it disgusting, that's fine. However, you cannot state that muscles are ugly as if it were a fact and that no guys like that
Comments here clearly show men don't like it, to say the least.
Very few men use this app. If you look at all men, at least a few million out of the billions on this planet are bound to like it
I see heaps of comments from regarding this question. But even if you were right, a few million out of 7 billion, you will agree with me, makes it, statistically speaking, a very low percentage.
*from men
Firstly it'd be like 4 billion since it's just men we're talking about and secondly, that's my point. You cannot definitively say that muscles are disgusting. It's all down to preference and some people prefer that
The fact that you are stating that "I can't say that", you are basically blowing up what is anybody's essential right: to express an opinion and to stick with it. I respect your say about this matter, you should respect other's.
I don't think you understand what I'm saying so I'm just gonna give up explaining it to you
I do understand. Muscles in a woman, FOR ME, and using your words, are disgusting.
Opinions are fine. I said that's fine so many times. It's stating an opinion as fact that isn't
There's no other way to express an opinion than as a fact. I can include "I think" or "I believe" in front if that helps clarify what I'm trying to say.
Good lord will you two just agree to disagree.
I would suggest talking to him, since that's the only way, you can't really do anything about it nor force him to be okay with or like your body goals.
In my opinion, there's women out there with muscles so huge that they're bigger than an average man's, and I wouldn't want to be like that. If i were a boy, id prefer someone who's soft and graceful, no offense though, tbh I'm really impressed with your body.
I feel like if your boyfriend is not okay with your body, it's either he feels like he's not "manly" enough comparing to you since you have the muscles, or he just plainly doesn't like muscles on females. There's also many other possible reasons like maybe you're not spending enough time with him, etc.
Find out why he's not happy and talk to him.
Personally I like women who can be muscular and still be able to maintain their female assets like those above.
There are some others where they don't look attractive at all.
Depends on who your audience is and how comfortable you are in the body you have.
Hmmm... I believe women that achieve a certain amount of muscle the natty way don't end up looking like they have man hands and that man chin.
I don't know how you look... but I suggest to use hard work and let nature take you to where genetics feels is your ideal... don't pump D-bol or something which is something we used to beef up beef for more meat at first. Chemical interference wreaks havoc over the long term.
Well done on the amount of work and effort needed to get yourself looking like that. It's a personal choice if your man doesn't like the way you look. Maybe he's jelouse as you have more muscles than him.. but personally I don't find it attractive.. sorry.
You have to talk with him and understand why he doesn't like it or what he expects. If you can't get to a middle point or something that makes both happy, then consider what's more important.
People will tell you to follow your dream and how important that is, and they are right but you might love him as much, and you will have to decide , just be sure to follow that decision and never look back.
he didn't said he don't like it right!! you have to think that you cannot make other to like or dislike your like same way he is not imposing his personal interests on you.. this will create conflicts between you... yes it is your body do whatever you want to do it. if he dosnt like it it would be your decision to choose between your boyfriend or body same way he had to make decision he likes you more or dislike more your like..
me also like little muscles but not like the picture you posted excessive exercise gives a women a male look look at those faces all cuteness gone.. may be others like it but for me i cannot be in love with a girl who looks like a male...
Never liked a girl with big muscles, no matter how much you would say to me i wouldn’t like it, but i admire your goals but you need to realize it’s a matter of sexual attraction you can’t talk someone to change it.
You should really think a lot more about this whole situation
My honest advice is that... when girls get to much muscular then they aren’t girls any more they are trying to become more like guys..! And god has naturally given them body fat... if it is less than a specific amount the reproductive system doesn’t work well for female than... so no need to get too much carried away... is just about letting go of give some to gym and your boyfriend both..! Let the thinking about the idea of getting muscular to your boyfriend you guys will be happy 😊
Follow your dream but be ware that muscles are attractive on a woman too much muscle on a woman can be in attractive as well its like sleeping with a ripped dude I would believe and it can seriously put someone off your boyfriend may leave you because he's no longer attracted some soft spots on a woman are loved not everything so rock hard in my opinion but more power to you for sticking to your new years resolution for so long now you should take it easy because anything out of moderation is bad even exercise