How can I get my boyfriend to be ok with my body goal? (Page 3)

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Hi everyone!  My boyfriend and I are together since 2013. I started going to the gym as my 2015 new year resolution and I got addicted after I saw how my muscle grew and how hard they become lol I took it more seriously for the past two years and I grew a lot. I talked to my boyfriend and I told him I want to grow bigger and more defined. He wasn't as thrilled as I hoped (he loves muscle on women). I'll post pictures to get a better idea: I am like her in terms of muscle amount and definition And I want to be bigger and more muscular like this girl ore more: How can I convince him, I don't want to lose him neither to stop myself from doing what I like?

PillowThief · Answer

Remind me not to get in a fight with you. xP It's your body, not his. Do what makes you happy and fuck everything else! :)

paulster95 · Answer

Honestly your physique looks like it could place well in a competition. Also the thing about bodybuilding is there will always be someone that you will think has a better physique than you. Thats just how it goes. All you can really do is keep training hope for the best and maybe you will get more shredded and bigger.

booda199 · Answer

Why dont you talk with him that you wanna be like this for him and to make him more interested in your body?
And if he wasn't okay with that you can tell him to go with you to the gym and train with you and give him some motivation..
Or you can just tell him you will go to gym to keep your body the way it is..

Nawaz007 · Answer

Well, first of all. You look wonderful.

And the important thing is that you're okay and thrilled with your own body which is wonderful.

Your boyfriend is probably unused to the idea of a girl gaining that much muscle. He might like them on other women but maybe he never imagined you with them.

Give him time and he'll probably get used to it.

Be happy with what you do.

Megab · Answer

I'm seeing a lot of people saying it isn't attractive or natural to be a muscular woman, but let me just say this: you do what you want to your body as long as it's not harmful. If he can't like you for who you are, regardless of your appearance, he doesn't deserve you.

I also applaud you for being able to accomplish this look. 👏

michellebrown48 · Answer

honestly most people don't find that attractive. personally it scares me. please dont ruin your body like this...

laxus7 · Answer

I like girls who is fit and workout but I don't prefer her building muscles I want my girl to be soft. u said ur boyfriend wasn't thrilled hah can't blame him he loved u before u got muscles right ur his choice. U changed for you not for him it's not his fault. if he ain't happy I would say u can put down ur resolution for a while.

Viranda · Answer

You can't. You won't be the same person you used to be. You won't be the same person he fell in love with.

People changes, and relationships are a bet where both hope those changes are monimum. However, this was no the case.

It's time to find another partner.

johnhunter15 · Answer

Talk to him.
If he doesn't except what you want then maybe he is just not meant for you.
Love is about acceptance
Try to see that for yourself and then talk to him about it.
And maybe don't draw conclusions before being sure that he doesn't like your goal.
Hope I helped. Let me know

max306 · Answer

I don't know the first one is ehh but the second is bad. I see where your boyfriend is coming from like it also a masculinity thing he wants to be the strong buff guy in the relationship and i don't blame him I'm the same way. if u have any other questions feel free to ask

BagoFit · Answer

If you get any bigger and more defined you're definitely gonna convince your boyfriend to pack his shit and jump straight out of a window and run away from you 😂😂 No way on earth hun i think you should double check what you're doing as a woman, you have a beauty that needs to be respected yes it can be pushed a little towards masculinity but you're definitely going to ruin it.

GameXpert · Answer

Personally I feel like it is too much muscle. Muscle is nice and it is very good that you are fit and all. I do not know if he might have a mental limil of muscle on women. Maybe talk to him and see why he is acting like that. I believe he has the actual answer why. Sorry if it not answering you question properly.

GracefulCharm · Answer

That girl in the second picture is definitely on steroids.

It's impossible for a girl to put on the same amount of muscle as a man naturally. If you are a natural athlete. Then push yourself to the peak of your capabilities. If you aren't natural. Then you have already gone down that road. And I have no advice that can help you. But I will suggest you stop caring so much about your appearance and focus on your health and performance.

pickofdestiny89 · Answer

For me, you're borderline now. Any more would be a total turnoff and not attractive to me at all. I think even if he agrees that he's fine with it, if something turns you off, it'll be a problem in the long run.

workoutbug · Answer

I understand u want to be in tip top physical shape. But in my opinion girls are more attractive when there muscles arnt as noticeable. Go for like a toned build. Your at the max or to much right now. But once again this is my opinion. If u wanna go hard at the gym and it makes u feel good do it! Your butt is gonna look real good at the end of the day and whats nicer than a nice toned/cut ass on a girl?

crazy8000 · Answer

Maybe it is that you give signals your not happy with what you got (insecure with your body).
Or that you are going little to far, unhealthy obsession in the long run (orthorexia).
It can also be "give me a break" "are you serious" "isn't it great is it is" look.

adamsshadow · Answer

I don't know how you can, if you shave the hair off the second pic, what gender would you think you were starting at? not hating tho, follow your dreams and goals, just know their yours alone and some people may not be willing to pursue them with you.

Alistayr · Answer

In all honesty, I don't like to see that level of muscle on man or woman. It is an obsession with people, and I can see that it can have severe health risks. I would not want to date someone who does that.

ImAjoke · Answer

If you want to look like this then more power to you if he's against it don't fight to make him accept just find a guy who loves you for you. Or a guy whom is into you being big and strong. Or try to work it out with him... a conversation can be one of the greatest healing points in relationships

deadpool1992 · Answer

Honestly I think there getting a to S point where your boyfriend won't find you attractive anymore that's why he's not happy about it... even if you love someone you can't be with something your not attractive too anymore. However much respected it takes a lot to get a body like that

yeahyeah26 · Answer

It's so hard for girls to become like that without using steroids or some kind of helpful agents... to me I understand u wanting to be in the best shape but u also need to be healthy about it... but ur partner needs to see the views u have and he should support you but also y'all need to be able to do it together have some of the same goals...

anon08 · Answer

If he's into it you should be good, I'd try to sell him on the power couple aspect. If you want to be that defined you will lose the aspects that make you a woman i. e your breasts and it will be 90x easier for guys to immediately tell you have implants like the first pic.

walida · Answer

Are hou trying to say what is it with you? Well thank you for asking. I was fine until i saw your comment. The pics she uploaded are not boys just cause they look like that. Take your opinion somewhere roze.

JustAnotherGirlie · Answer

I say do what you like. If he cares for you, he will love you no matter what. People change, get hairy and get old. If the guy can’t accept these changes then he’s not for you and it means you’re growing apart

chris1984 · Answer

i think you might scare him by being more cut than him. but it depends on what he likes. at the end of the day though, be you. if this is you, he needs to figure out what he wants in the relationship.

hasrett · Answer

You really can't. If he's not attracted to such kind of body he isn't. And you both just need to decide if it bothers you or not.

Anonymous · Answer

I like toned women not muscular like that, it just doesn’t look feminine anymore when it’s to that extreme and starts to look more like a guy would. You probably loss those feminine curves you use to have. Maybe just maintain where you got to, it seems like an addiction for you now

phoenix5142832 · Answer

Don't hold yourself back for what at first seems like Love because if he does, he'll stick with you, and if he doesn't, he doesn't matter. Do your thing.

ChronicThinker · Answer

Gross. You can't. People have physical preferences and you can't stop him from being unattracted to you.

kitjo · Answer

I can understand why your boyfriend doesn't want you to look like the man in the red bikini. Presumably he's heterosexual and feels attracted to women who still look like women.

Anonymous · Answer

Reverse it and see it from his point of view. Your boyfriend has a body goal of increasing his body fat, hip to thigh ratio, more chest fat (moobs), and an overall more feminine physique... you wouldn't be as attracted either.

More muscle = more masculine, for the most part it's as simple as that. The woman in the last pic looks very masculine and if you gave her some Y fronts and a hat, you might not even know the difference.

parttimelover · Answer

Looking at your pictures it looks like you can just beat him into being okay with it

Anonymous · Answer

The first one is like the max, and even then it's not that attractive to most men. The second one is beyond what even the few men that like muscly women are into. Hell, even my friend who is a body builder who is into muscly women finds both of them to be too much.

So, you can't convince him. You have to do what you want to do. If thats the body you want, you will have to make a compromise. Go for it and risk your relationship or keep your relationship and sacrifice your body goal.

cmann · Answer

I’m a top level powerlifter, and most guys I know like a woman who wants to be jacked to the max. As long as your voice doesn’t change, if you know what I’m saying, then you’re good. If your man doesn’t like your goals... might want to find a new (stronger) man lol

art84 · Answer

Not a fan of muscles on a women. That second pic of the girl looks so much like a man with those huge muscles on her arms though. I feel a women should take care of her body but just get fit and not ripped. it would be kinda intimidating if I had a girlfriend like you who was ripped and toned and shredded.

Mek-k0vu · Answer

Well that's his problem if you want to better yourself by becoming more fit you shouldn't have to stop that because of someone else's opinion kinda how some of these comments are don't listen to anyone commenting negatively on hard work because more than likely they dislike it so much because they aren't dedicated enough to put in the work for anything at all

IMainHanzo · Answer

This is a little complicated because you mentioned he loves muscles on women on your comment. I'm not sure what you're saying here since you're also saying he doesn't like it. So is it that he likes it but not too much And your goal is to get more? Or that he doesn't like muscles on women?

Paul09 · Answer

Most guys are not attracted to women with dude muscles. I'm not even why anyone would want to be a meat head. No offense. Hours and days spend at the gym, for looks? Is it even healthy? Too much of anything isn't good for you. But it's your life you do what you want, he doesn't want, so be prepared to face the consequences.

lovelylia · Answer

This might be hard to hear (or I guess read) but if you do this it would be seen as if you were losing all your femininity and since most guys anyways like feminine girls I think your guy or most guys you meet won’t want you to do this.

lendula · Answer

Well. I will surely not like my partner to look muscular and manly.. just like it will be odd for the man to look and act like a girl. Same goes the other way.. its just opposite to nature. And our brains are hard wired in a certain way.

Too much muscle will nit look good on a female body...

I agree that one should follow her passion and goals.. but takin a moment to analyse whether it is actually a good decision?

Feels · Answer

Listen..
Don't listen to the people telling you what to do and what not to do.
Do whatever the fuck you want if he doesn't like it then that's on him.

It's your life not his... sounds a little bit far fetched but it's the way it is.
A lot of peoples big mistakes are changing for others.

guydudemanmale · Answer

I think you look very beautiful the way you are now but if you get much bigger (as big as the girl in the photos) It would be a bit much I'm not saying you can't make it work but I don't really think you can change something to make him like it I don't know if it works for girls this way but for guys you just kind of like what you like that is not to say this a deal breaker but it's gonna be an issue that needs to be overcome.

mac_daddy416 · Answer

Ewwwww I want a woman not a man. Muscles are for men not woman. You look disgusting. Let me show what a sexy supposed to look.

Akilies2401 · Answer

If ge doesn't like what you're doing and doesn't support you. You dont need him. You need someone who will support you. Its either he takes you as you are or not there zhould not be any in between in my opinion. Especially since its bot like you're trying to be a slob.

SketchForger · Answer

You're fine, if your boyfriend wants to leave then he can leave. If he's afraid that you'll look muscular I don't understand it. Guys who don't like girls who are fit puzzle me, it's not like you're putting on a lot of weight. If you have a goal for your body than you should try to achieve it. If he gets in the way of your health that's weird.

lucy1003 · Answer

That's not for me but if that's what you want to look like you go for your goal girl! Your boyfriend will have to accept it and if not show him the door. Your body your business

Anonymous · Answer

I'm confused, you said he loves muscles on women, so... what's his issue? Did you mean to say he doesn't? If so, as someone that agrees with this, for me personally it's a turn off. I don't find it attractive. It would be like if he gained 500 lbs because he just liked to eat. Would you be ok with that? Kind of the same idea. You two have to talk about it more and work it out, compromise maybe even.

RedHigHeels · Answer

If he doesn't want to support you that's his prerogative but you also need to realize this may be the turning point in your life and if he's not willing to move forward with you then let him go. Best wishes xoxo

windluv3r · Answer

You can't convince someone to like something they don't. Can he convince you to stop being muscular? I personally don't like women who are that muscular. So, if my girl started looking like that, I'd be turned off and no longer attracted.

characterJoe · Answer

I like muscular women. Work out as much as you want! More than half the women I know have gotten FAT. 🤢I rather see over muscular women, who have higher sex drives, than fat women.

fpmsn · Answer

Convince him? When did you need to convince anyone liking you? Wtf... It's like you trying to convince me liking girls with small hair, is useless. If you really want that and he doesn't find someone who want

bexipanda · Answer

Do what makes you happy. I know the idea of being someone is impress them and stuff but... your doing it for you at the end of the day (:

nickyBBB · Answer

You can't convince anyone to be attracted to monster looking "ladies". I'm sorry

AudreyGillz · Answer

At the end of the day, just do what makes you happy. Another person's happiness is voided when it comes to how you want to feel.

bigbang101 · Answer

There's nothing wrong with you. You look amazing. In fact all guys must wish for someone as hardworking as yourself. Your boyfriend needs to be tolerant and cooperative. (As long as your "inside" is soft, being hard on the outside doesn't matter)

adventerouslight · Answer

I think this would make your boyfriend insecure. He probably loves that your toned, but the muscles, like everyone else has said sometimes scares a man off. Don’t be a hulk woman, but having all the tone and definition i find personally sexy.

Duke1985 · Answer

It's normal to not find that very attractive. While i kinda think it's cool to look at, i think i would disrespect my girl for being like this or wanting this. It's not so hard to do compared to what you get oit of it: nothing. It's better to set goals for things that are relevant

sexymonkeybanana · Answer

You can't change biology. Those calling him a bad person are cucks. Its literally biochemical and unchangeable. Youd have more luck just cutting. Men are drawn to estrogen... simple as that. You doing this is against the grain of biology. So. Try to find a compromise.
Dont get bigger please. U do look hot. Maybe he's intimidated that he isn't bigger... you know... a man.

abdelrahmanhelmy56 · Answer

Girls with such look r using men hormones which make her less of a woman and if a girl played gym or fitness for the rest of her life she will never look like a man but a ripped sexy female looking not like this unusual look but u do whatever u want to it's just an opinion

screwup32 · Answer

Psychologically, Men are the hunter gatherers, protectors and providers. Looking like Anita Schwarzenegger could be hugely intimidating to a guy. it's not a power trip for us, its just our psychology.

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