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How can I get my boyfriend to be ok with my body goal? (Page 4)
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Pretty sure the majority of guys wouldn't like it since they like feminine features by nature. That is just ugly for a woman and it absolutely looks manly. If that's not what he likes, you can't do anything about it really. He will just lose his interest. I think you should talk with him about this.
He really likes muscular women it's just the way he looked at me when I told him, I thought he will be totally down for it since he is in to female bodybuilders that is why I'm scared of his reaction
I really think you should bring up the subject again. To me it seems really vague and perhaps he just said that in order to avoid making you feel bad.
Well, she's got some pretty nice tits and a nice girly face, sooo...
It's not her in the pic and those tits are fake
I would tone it down (pun intended). You dont wanna (trigger warning for trannies) lose any distinguished traits of a female figure and if you get bigger then the pic you will look like a she-hulk. If he likes that he may be a closet homosexual lol... dont be wimpy but dont be bulky either id say.
Sorry but it's just ugly, not only on women but men as well. If you want to be an unatural freak, then date another unatural. Don't expect "normal" physical specimens to appreciate your abnormal bodies. You are not the mental/physical person he fell for, as far as I can tell he is now dating a deformed freak of normality and I don't blame him. Sorry, no prejudice intended.
that’s an opinion. you can’t just go around saying something is ugly like it’s a fact! go home dude
OK I hold my hand up, it's my opinion but the pictures look like over done Photoshop. Absolutely nothing in there soft, feminine or sexy. But if you want to fuck a tree trunk, good luck. I think you'll find opinions are what this site is about, I gave mine, have a little respect for people who don't like just what you do. Just sayin', no offence taken or intended.
To be honest you may need to have a serious talk with him. It soundd like he not comfortable with the whole idea. Its most likely going to be a breakup If you two can not come an understanding. (happens more than you think) if he is fully supportive of you that will not happen.
However encourage him to follow your dream. Show him why you love it. Envolve him in that aspect of your life. Ask him why he doesn't want you to do so. (Best advice). Communicate how body building makes you feel.
1. you have to do what makes you feel best, and in a healthy way only! Sounds like you're pushing yourself a little too hard. 2. What someone else finds attractive should not govern your life or decisions. 3. If he is attracted to muscle in the way you have it now, he must feel that being larger would make him feel emasculated, that is his issue not yours but you could try building up his ego, doing some damsel style role play, or situations that make him feel like he's the man and he's taking care of you. Well you're abit ill or tired, get him to help you and comment on how glad you are to have a man like him looking after you, squeeze his muscles and be like you're shoulders look so big it's such a turn on or something that suits you. Or things like" look how tiny my hands /feet/whatever are compared to yours haha "Also you can encourage him to work out and build up too so you two stay in proportion.
Sit down and have a heart to heart really tell him what you want and want to achieve but also express to him how much he really means to you and that you don't wanna lose him maybe he will except you for who you are if he can after all love is transcendent try to see if you too can find a middle ground and if not you will always find someone who will love and appreciate your body and all the hard work you put into it hope i was able to help good luck and don't give up😉
Boyfriends come and go but your body is for life. You should take pride in yourself and shape yourself what ever way you want. Look whatever way you want. you shouldn't be out here to impress anyone else. do it for you. if he loves you, he will support that.
You are in great shape but a guy doesn't want to date/fuck. Women who looks like a man... Women are supposed to be soft and curvey. Now it's perfectly ok to be fit and in shape, even 6 pack abs but definitely not bulky and muscular... Im willing to bet you have fake tits because you have 0% body fat... That's not sexually attractive I'm sorry. Please understand I am not being negative in any way I am just being honest it's too much...
You should have added a vote to this one so you could see how many people agree/disagree with a manly looking women.
Personally the top picture is my limit. You have to prioritize what makes you happiest, your boyfriend or Gainz. If I was him I would of told you follow what you want to do. And then I would of broken up with you because I wouldn't be happy in the relationship.
I don't think it has anything to do with your body I think he's just less excited about the lifestyle changes, after the point of a relationship is to share your life with someone and maybe he likes muscular women but that doesn't mean he wants to date a gym rat. Working out to look like that is a huge dedication and lifestyle that he may not be excited about and rather y'all spend that time together instead of you being at the gym try to get him into the same lifestyle you're choosing
It's your body and your body goal (s). If you really want that, you should go for it. Maybe you could try to get him to hit the gym too. If not, ask him and yourself what the most important thing in your relationship is. There is someone who appreciates you, how you look and how hard you work for that
The type of muscle body in the first picture is OK, nice - and probably the kind of body, that would be found as hot and sexy by 90% of guys, and same number of guys that would find it as the most muscular body for a normal, good looking lady - even proud of having such partner...
NOW - about 2nd picture: shows something else, that won't be liked, understood and found as to be normal for a lady...
That's general opinion.
My personal advice is, if u wanna continue with body building- there's a v nice and hot area where you can put your efforts.
I'll try to find few pictures and names of few female Bulgarian girls that practice it, and go to shows, who train a lot of time, but not just for muscles and mass...
Tell him if tries to leave you because of your body goals you're going to put him through the coffee table!
Seriously though, just tell him what your goals are and tell him it will make you happy. That's it. Then the ball is in his court. If makes a big fuss about it, tell him off. Your relationship shouldn't end over this, but if he's doing to make a serious issue about this, how important is your happiness to him?
If he really cares about you he would want you to do whatever it is it would make you the happiest and most pleased with your appearance. I understand most guys want a girl that they can pick it up and throw around in the bedroom. Maybe he's starting to feel intimidated by the fact that and you're probably a lot more muscular than you were when he first met you. The main thing that you need to remember and disappearances don't last forever, if he's not willing to let you make a choice to do something to your own body probably not worth staying with. Send it comes to relationships you both have to give 50%. Well you really have to give 100% but in the middle when it comes to things you disagree on. I hope you're able to work out a solution to your problem
I say go for it! I admire your strength and would love to have some muscles, I'm pretty much as bone being very skinny.
It might be different for him and take some time getting used to it, but you'v been together for so long that what you look like shouldn't matter if he truly matters. If he can't deal with it, then is he really worth it?
Best of luck :)
I really admire you for being so strong and working so hard, first being said! I think your boyfriend might not like the idea to somehow feel like the less dominant part, because muscles are always seen like a dominant and male thing. But if your goal are a lot of muslces, just do what you feel most comfortable with and no one should tell you what to do, because its your body and you can do with is whatever you want.
So you look like a man with boobs and now you wanna look like a ripped man with boobs? It's your body and your decision, nobody can tell you what to do, just keep in mind that it's a major turnoff for most men.
Pro tip: if you care about him, you two should sit down and talk this through. Most probably he will accept your choice.
Maybe he misses you when you spend hours at the gym?
Maybe he worries about the unhealthy effects of bodybuilding on you?
Maybe he just wants back the girl he fell in love with?
Maybe he feels like he's losing you.
Maybe he would like to go to McDonalds with you? Just joking.
Good luck to you both
I would tell him that 99 percent of women can't get that buff without drugs. Women have a much harder time putting on muscle than men.
Also, a lot of those fitness models only look like that during competition. So I would say do what you want to do, but assure him that even if you do reach that level of cut it won't be all the time.
Personally though, as a fitness enthusiasts myself and former trainer i think it's beautiful.
Interesting how most male answers are "give up ur goal because I think muscular women are icky" you go get all the muscles and if your scrub of a boyfriend can't handle it laugh him into the sun with your new strength
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No :))) you are wrong
The problem is she is saying it is an addiction, perhaps her boyfriend is concerned by something that is becoming unhealthy. It is human nature to scew things in a way that makes us look better. If the poster uses the word addiction, please remember that usually means it is far worse than will be let on. Again human nature. My guess the boyfriend is worried about her health at this point.
Then what love ur muscles ruin an healthy realationship are u immature or something try to change for ur partner they fell in love before she got muscles and u expect to live what ever the way u want and doesn't care what ur partner think. good luck with a relationship u may find some awesome guy.
And u says it's an addiction if it boyfriend cheats on u because he is addicted u would support him what a crap.
And don't give advices to ruin a relationship think deep not scratch the surface
Here's the thing... If someone is telling you not to do things because they don't like them... It's NOT a healthy relationship
He never said that she told that he is not soo much interested now I think he still don't want to ruin there relationship that y he is keeping quiet the lady who asked this is mature enough to understand it y don't u guys get it
I think women who want a man shouldn't look like one. And if your answer is "Too bad, I'll do what I want." You'll be single forever.
Lol not single pal
You will be.
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