How can I get my boyfriend to be ok with my body goal? (Page 4)

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Hi everyone!  My boyfriend and I are together since 2013. I started going to the gym as my 2015 new year resolution and I got addicted after I saw how my muscle grew and how hard they become lol I took it more seriously for the past two years and I grew a lot. I talked to my boyfriend and I told him I want to grow bigger and more defined. He wasn't as thrilled as I hoped (he loves muscle on women). I'll post pictures to get a better idea: I am like her in terms of muscle amount and definition And I want to be bigger and more muscular like this girl ore more: How can I convince him, I don't want to lose him neither to stop myself from doing what I like?

joshctlee · Answer

Oh boy.. well it’s the same thing if my girlfriend developed an eating disorder and got really fat. I personally would have a problem with it. One three things is going to happen.

1: he will love and accept you and your goals.

2: he will not accept this change, won’t stand for it, you give up your dream to stay with him.

3: you break up, continue your goals and find someone else who fits your new lifestyle.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m sorry to say, but guys do not find this type of body attractive at all. In fact it’s a massive turn off for them.

jboswell · Answer

You're bettering yourself, he's the problem for not cheering you on. You're not doing anything wrong. He's gonna be fine with or He's gonna have a problem with it. Make your evaluation after you sit down and talk to him. You shouldn't feel bad either way for making gain home girl! Pump that iron girl! Lol

KingJoe88 · Answer

Well some guys have a certain prefrence in woman and he may feel emasculated if you're stronger than him. And some mightt say women that muscular is a manly feature and may feel like he isn't turned on by the over muscularness? Im not saying this is how he's thinking, but it could b. Try to consider it from his point of view.

SpooksTheDoll · Answer

Breakup with him. It’s for the best, it’s the only way for both of you to find a compatible partner. If you want to dedicate a part of your life to being muscular and he’s not attracted to that kind of women, it’ll never workout

LeeKenz · Answer

Please don’t. That’s not natural, nor is it attractive. I’m with your boyfriend on this

triff · Answer

this is your body don’t pander to him muscle can become soft and flabby when your addiction is ceased so Don’t try and convince him that sounds like control Be yourself Tell him this what I’m going to do Not this is what I want to do

Anonymous · Answer

I assume you’re going to take performance enhancing drugs, then I understand him, because you’ll slowly kinda turn into a dude. But if you want to compete, maybe get him into it as well. At the end just ask him, and your have final say, even though youngsters have to make some sacrifices. Cheers mate

AnthonyAA · Answer

Lol must be awkward when he's hitting you from the back and sees all that muscle.. kind of gay if you ask me but everyones different so do you

SherlockHolmes2012 · Answer

Well I don't think you can get both because this becomes an attraction problem and from there more problems will arise. So Id say pick what is more important.

Guanfei · Answer

You can't convince him, it's his taste. And tbh I understand him, those girls look like Rambo with boobs. That's not feminine at all.

Anonymous · Answer

Women are meant to be feminine. Not body builders. It's great you want to be fit, it's great your hubby says he likes muscles on women, however how can you expect not to immasculate him with your ever growing muscles!

AlphaStyles · Answer

Holy shit sorry I can't even date women of this statue

mariaantoni · Answer

I do love working out too, but if that’s your dream, go for it. He’s not the right person if he doesn’t accept your dreams and goals. But you gotta work extremely hard to be like that. It seems fake to me tho

Uglyman1001 · Answer

I'm sorry I say this with no disrespect but muscles on a woman is like a guy who's a transvestite. But hey if getting fit makes you happy by all means do it I prefer very feminine women which is funny since I'm an overweight ugly looking hairy gorilla lol.

makas_33001 · Answer

Many guys are into a little definition but not muscular like that. He may also feel undermined for his girlfriend having more strength than him. It's not about you convincing him either that's a one sided relationship. It needs to be discussed and one of you will have to compromise

Shybabe33 · Answer

Find a bodybuilder boyfriend. Because average guys wouldn’t want a girl bigger than them. Unfortunately it is a turnoff to them. But you do what you want

nikkiki32 · Answer

I think if he loves you he will be supportive of you and what your goals are. If he doesn’t support you and doesn’t act like your cheerleader I would re-evaluate the relationship. If this is something that makes you happy you deserve that respect. you should never have to give up your goals and aspirations for someone else.

zinkavitch · Answer

Seriously from my POV, IF he loves you it shouldn't matter. My wife wants to get a boob job because of society implants pictures of girls with massive boobs. I think she's perfect the way she is. But if it makes her happier than I support her doing it. Hope that helps

reaperrussian · Answer

Relationships sometimes are about sacrifices, and that shows how much the other person loves you. So if he is not okay with it, doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. Just do it anyway, because it's you. Later in life when your older you will regret it and if your still with him, you could take it out on him.

bluntmonkey420 · Answer

If he loves you he will love all of you. Muscles n all

Unicornia_ · Answer

Do what’s best for you, if he isn’t going to go along with it then let him go. You shouldn’t have to lag on your goals because someone doesn’t agree with them. Unless you two can come to an agreement I don’t think it’s fair to you.

lilzichik1 · Answer

tell him you are going to grow more and he needs to be ok with it because you like it and it makes you happy and if he still doesn't like then I don't know. As long your happy who cares what he thinks.

RzwoDzwo · Answer

First of All, talk to him. Ask him what he thinks about it and if it would be that Kind of a problem for him. If He really dont like it, then you may need to decide what is more important for you. Maybe think about why you like it so much and what exactly does it give to you. And what does your boyfriend give you...

ascendantpure · Answer

Simple, make him your girlfriend, be the man of his dreams. Go ahead.

Simonitro · Answer

I guess, he'd be cool about. I would and I'll probably be encouraging. So, from my point, great going!! :D

BobSansMal · Answer

He was attracted to how you looked when you two began dating. If you radically change that, it's not reasonable to expect him to continue to be attracted. We are what we are and like what we like.

Danael31 · Answer

Break up or stop. Time to make a choice. You should also maybe relate : you said you became addicted. Time to make a break, to do something else? To think about him? We don't know enough.
If you wanna be yourself, break up and keep it on. If you wanna be part of a couple, listen to him.

paulbanyan · Answer

The convincing has to come from himself Hunny, this is a decision that you gotta make for yourself, because its directly of yourself, and he has to decide his stance on it.

TheKidFromBrooklyn · Answer

Well, men aren't attracted to women who look like men. Fairly simple.

MrEAusB · Answer

I don't find that style that sexy my self. But if that something you want to do. He should either support you or leave. There are men out there who like that body type.

ZoeB95 · Answer

You do what makes you happy, babe. If he can't handle it then you need to find someone who can.

oddwaffle · Answer

Your body, your choice to have it or not. His girlfriend, his choice to leave or stay. You can't convince someone to change their taste.

jess54 · Answer

If he’s a good guy, he should accept you no matter what you look like

wadewilson616 · Answer

We like what we like, can't help that. My ex wife got into this and we are no longer together, she is now married to a body builder. We like what we like. It's not for everyone.

ZJKoA · Answer

It is like a guy who is growing boobs making his hair taller and shave all of his body hair and put a lipstick, will you have a sexual attraction to that?

chloe948 · Answer

If he can't accept what u want then he's probably not good enough. Just do u and be urself. Don't let him tell u what u can and can't do. Try to talk to him and tell him that this is what u want.

d2796 · Answer

you shouldn't have to convince anyone to be ok with your goal, if he doesn't approve, let him go.

bomotion · Answer

Your happiness should do all the convincing needed. He'll like it eventually I'm sure.

hoodwill · Answer

Suck his dick a lot more hat should change things real quick

Chuckle · Answer

I personally don’t like bulked women, but that doesn’t mean that I would not support her.

sctimo · Answer

You are a good Girlfriend, but if you dont want to spend your time in events, too. I think you need to go a way between your wish and what you look like now. But bby bby please, tell hiiim yoouu wooonntt leeaavvee, cause you only want to get mi-ii-ght. Ok, enough :D my opinion is stop lifting now by the way. Dont go straight on you have the perfect body

Robc747 · Answer

In my opinion its your life and your goals do what you feel is right some men might be intimidated that their girlfriend is more jacked then they are if he is like that then move on or help him understand your goals and ask if he is willing to workout with you

Alyssa11 · Answer

girl how did you get those muscles help a girl out. I'm just tryna be toned and I've been going to the gym for six months and i've seen no results!

redbay19 · Answer

why is he not on board? does his argument have merit?  at the end of the day you've gotta decide what's more important to you.  I personally would do whatever is healthiest for you in the long term

piyushsati0409 · Answer

See you should always go for your dream but since you live him and don't wanna lose him sacrifice is all one needs is okay to do some sacrifice when you are on love  It's upto you guys who sacrifices

LonestarDiety · Answer

I'm not sure if what to say. I think that, for your relationship, your addiction may have a future crossroad, but I suggest during him down and detailing some positives around it (tighter sexual organs, longer life, etc) & the negatives (hormonal imbalances, sexual organs losing sensitivity due to imbalances, etc) and go from there.

Chaz269 · Answer

You can't convince him. You have one set of ideals, he has another. Don't try to change him, that's not fair to him. And don't let him try to change you, it's not fair to you either. If you can't find a compromise, you may need to part ways.

ystyle · Answer

Damn sexy all of them then again Bakhar nabieva is my biggest crush. If he can't support you move in he need to love what you love

vikramdua · Answer

I wouldn't blindly say that you should leave someone who loves you if they have a different opinion on your goal. Try to show him what gets you motivated and what it really means to you. Tell him how passionate you are to get into that shape and try and figure out if he has some fears or problems that he might be hiding.

SDegler · Answer

That's a tough one. I guess do what makes you feel good no matter what others think, even your long term boyfriend.

cmack1616 · Answer

The women in these pictures are most likely on the end of a cutting cycle and the other 2/3 thirds of the year they have a higher body fat percentage and dont look this way. These women are contest/photo ready and are actually at there weakest at this point.

ToasterMcLovin · Answer

My perspective on it is that sure he enjoys women with muscle but there is a point where it becomes D masculating for someone in a position like him, not 100%, but maybe you should try to see if he wants to work out with you and become Mutual bodybuilders. He might see it as intimidating if you have a greater muscle mass than himself.

katcasal · Answer

As long as you are mentally and physically healthy, who cares what other people think. And that includes your boyfriend. He can decide to be on board or not.
Sit down with him and have a long talk and if you really like him take the decision together.
Good luck!!

whyifitsanonym · Answer

Maybe you can't. You might just have a different idea for what you want to look like than he would find attractive. Maybe your are just incompatible in that sense.

itsme123456789 · Answer

I think it might take time, if he is used to you a certain way, ramping that up might not be what he is into as much, I mean you have to do what makes you happy, but maybe take your time getting that much bigger, either that or get him involved :)

Anonymous · Answer

Women cannot look like that without steroids. Look at women who are powerlifters in the Olympics. They do not look like that at all. They have very feminine looking bodies. All the training in the world won't make you look like that without steroids. It's just a fact.

Anonymous · Answer

You need to do what you want. However you can't force someone to find that look attractive if they don't like it. It's a turn off to a lot of men. If you found someone to be physically unattractive would you want to be with them? It's a tough position you're in but sounds like you will have to choose between the huge tank body or your man.

Davidkane · Answer

I find these pictures a real turn on and quite sexy, I would guess all guys have different tastes but I have no problem whatsoever with women who are into bodybuilding

Kenni · Answer

No one can stop you from doing what you want, just like no one can convince him to like what he doesn't like.

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