Is the ''as long as he/she makes you happy, that's all that matters'' phrase a lie?

[Anonymous]

Let's say your parents for whatever reason literally hated your partner. Then suddenly (after so much struggle and frequent arguments) they say ''If you're happy and he/she makes you happy then that's all that matters, I'll love him/her'', is that really a lie? My guess is they will never truly like (much less love) that person and are just forced to being cordial for their child's sake, esp if that person will give them grandkids. lol

It happened to my best friend (a guy). Supposedly his parents and his now wife have been on good terms for 4 years now. They claimed to now adore the girl but I doubt it. Somewhere within them, there must be that lingering overall dislike. They suddenly changed their minds as soon as he proposed to her; the following year she gave birth to twin girls. lol

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Yes, they are both a happy couple but I'm guessing his parents aren't personally fond of his wife. They just have no choice but to accept her otherwise, they won't have any relationship with their son nor granddaughters.

[PinkMichae]

They may not like that person because they didn't really take the time to know them. But as time went on they probably got to know her and realized why their son fell for her. It happened to me. My ex husbands mom didn't like me and even tried to set him up to reunite with an old girlfriend. But after she realized there was nothing she could do to stop us from loving each other she backed off. And she let her guard down and got to know me. We became really close. And even after her son and I separated she is still in my life. We go out on girls nights when she's in town.

[PinkMichae]

Thanks. Glad I could be most helpful.

[AynonOMouse]

Maybe at the start of the relationship they saw something that made them think it wouldn't last, or that they were just being used, but over time realized that wasn't the case.

[intjgamer]

People give you warning signs for a reason. You may be happy but you'd be blind to not see the bad things.

[Asker]

I agree with that. If my parents (who are sweet with everyone) acted that way, I would reconsider my relationship. There must be something wrong.

In his case, only his parents hated the girl in the beginning. Others people (including me, his close friends, mutual friends and other family members) had no problems with her.

[Asker]

I wouldn't be happy at all if my parents didn't like my partner from the beginning.

[intjgamer]

It could be something else too. Like social status or race as the reason , but that is when it isn't a lie.

[Anonymous]

Not really, once they get to know the person better their opinion can change.

[Anonymous]

It is wrong.