Should I be worried about my boyfriend's close female friend? (Page 2)

[Anonymous]

Don't you invite people to your question when you don't give a fuck about opinions, just stfu put your big gurl pants on and gtfo.

[Asker]

? I literally invited people to my question so I could gather opinions because I need them

[Opinion Owner]

Out of all the ones you didn't even upvote any. Good luck finding THAT opinion.

[Asker]

I just joined the website today, I don't really know how the features work except that I can ask a question and reply to people. You need to chill before you jump to conclusions..

[Opinion Owner]

Never too late to learn. you're welcome.

[boochie0]

Have to trust him.. but that’s too much time spending with just a friend

[Asker]

He hangs out with her once a month. You believe that is too much? Should I ask him to reduce this?

[AlphaStyles]

For me they are best buddies and he doesn't want to lose his best friend

[foreveralone22]

I would be super jealous

[britpop]

Its suspicious sorry

[Asker]

why do you say this?

[britpop]

Because he knows how insecure it makes you feel but does nothing to change and he goes out of his way to stay in contact and he sees her alone not socially with other friends however she's not the problem he is

[Asker]

Well he has allowed me to meet her, he doesn't contact her as much anymore, he lets me know when they're together so that's his way of changing. Do you think my insecurity should be enough to make him stop being friends with her? Or should I be the one working on my insecurity?

[britpop]

Both probably but are you usually insecure or is this situation making you insecure

[Asker]

I'm always insecure when it comes to my SO having a close female friend. Just because I don't believe guys and girls can just be friends, based on personal experience (I've always fallen for "close" guy friends)

[Asker]

But I'm ok with guys having female friends in general, just not CLOSE female friends like this

[britpop]

Ok I believe we can be platonic but I do understand where you're coming from if they have given you no other reasons for concern I think you'll be fine

[Asker]

Yeah I'm always having this back and forth battle with myself. It's hard to say-- even with you, your first instinct was that it's suspicious but given some perspective you've reconsidered. So I'm always having that problem with being ok with it and then other days I'm so paranoid about it

[britpop]

That sucks babe I get it I really do but I think it will be ok I hope so good luck x

[Asker]

Thanks love, always great hearing from an outside voice <3

[traman]

yes u should

[Asker]

why do you think this

[traman]

well kind of when i used to love someone
she was only female all i want to have
for she was my girlfriend and my best friend too
and even if i try to talk to some another girl, its kind of always feel little guilty

[traman]

for me*