I love my boyfriend so much but I'm just not happy with him. I feel like he's holding me back. What should I do? (Page 2)

Anonymous · 2018-02-26T15:31:53Z

So I absolutely love my boyfriend. We have been together for 3 years now so we have quite a history... but here's the issue: we are just too different. I am a fun-loving, extroverted, get up and go kind of person. He is an introverted, antisocial, couch potato type of person very laid-back easy going. I never thought it was an issue until we started fighting about it, the fights became frequent because he is perfectly content sitting on the couch and playing video games all day long, and I just want to go out and have an adventure. He just complains about everything so I end up sitting on the couch with him all day, smoking pot and playing video games. He doesn't like me going out with friends and it's like he's borderline controlling but not as bad as he used to be. He has no job and no license, makes excuses for himself all the time, and kind of acts entitled (he's said to me "I'm too good for a normal job") so I end up doing things for him. He has borderline personality disorder so he can be manipulative and selfish many times, but I know deep down he's a sweetheart who just needs love. But I feel SO resentful towards him and our fights turn into screaming matches and hurtful things get said.. But I just can't leave him, and he won't leave me either. We have both verbally expressed how unhappy we are at times, but then we "resolve" the fight and have great sex or just have fun together. We've been on and off for 3 years now and as much as I hate him, I also feel this warm cozy and happy feeling when I think of him. What the fuck is wrong with me? I feel like I'm wasting my life on him but my love for him is too strong and the thought of him being with someone else KILLS ME

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BPD is no excuse for misbehaving. Also you got with him when she didn't have a job? Red flag.

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Move on. Live is too short to mess with that.

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Then how can you feel love. if he is different

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Set sail toward new horizons.

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You should bounce, the sooner the better.

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Couples' counseling. Next question.

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Get rid of his sorry ass and grow as an individual

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Leave his bitch ass jump on my dick

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Find somebody new

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Just leave him

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