How much does a good/great personality compensate for average/bad looks?

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Beauxbreaux · Accepted Answer

Well it all depends. From this picture you are forgetting that being morbidly obese explains a lot about life choices. Usually good looking people don't sit around all day eating processed foods. It takes discipline to stay in shape. So weight can be correlated with life choices and personality not just looks. With that being said
The majority of people aren't looking for what is important within their partner. That is... The potential for growth within a relationship. Most people have a narrow perspective on life and see things only through their eyes. They make exceptions for themselves and don't treat situations in accordance to how they treat their self. The only reason I am in a happy relationship 6 years going is because I focused on the values I found important and not her looks.

Philyouup · Accepted Answer

I was fortunate enough to have had a great learning experience when I was 16 or 17 I met a girl while camping, She was not pretty at all, I though wow, poor thing. By the end of the weekend, she was the prettiest girl I ever met. Her inside beauty was so brilliant, that it made her outside beauty shine as well. I took that experience into my life.. My judgement of beauty is much more anchored in substance.

Astraea · Accepted Answer

A great personality is everything.

I usually don't even look at really pretty boys, the kind that most girls want... because they are too into themselves and their hair. I would only consider one if he had an amazing personality and then I would still consider it a bit of a negative.

PrincessPie · Accepted Answer

Average looks for me totally! ugly or unattractive to me? nope, but i'm fine with average if he's got a really good personality.

HawkPerception · Answer

I wouldn't date a girl with a shitty personality. But I also wouldn't date a girl I don't find is attractive to me. Both physical attraction and chemistry in terms of personality are extremely important.

It doesn't matter how physically attractive a girl is. If she doesn't have a decent personality, I'm out. And I personally don't think there's any reason for obesity. I'd rather take a girl that has an average level of physical attraction and a great personality than a model with a shitty one. So you can say it definitely does compensate a lot for it.

Desconhecida · Answer

I want to believe that men - even caring about looks at first - are capable to appreciate what really matters... the one thing time can't destroy

Avicenna · Answer

It can more than compensate for it

Ayer93 · Answer

You can learn to be attracted to someone that you don't find particularly attractive over time, but that entails that you be around them frequently to develop that interest. However, if you're physically attracted to someone in the first place, then you're much more likely to initially be interested in them and act more attentive and responsive. A physically unnattractive girl with a shit personality is a 0. Add a nice personality to that and it's huge and can add as many as 7 points depending on how nice the personality is. If it's a physically attractive person with a shit personality, they're seen as more of a "one night stand" thing and their rating is probably around 7 or less depending on how shit their personality is and how physically attractive they are. Then finally a physically attractive person with a nice personality could be anywhere from a 7 to a 10. The main thing is that if you're not physically attractive in the first place, people don't care as much to try to get to know you.

adamjanovic · Answer

It can make a huge difference, unless the other person is incredibly shallow. I’ve seen lots of people who most would rate as lower than a 5 who are with good-looking partners because they have an awesome personality. You also have to keep in mind that everybody has their own opinion of what is physically attractive, and it’s not always the same as the majority. For example, I know a skinny good-looking high value guy who is ONLY attracted to overweight women (by which I mean 200 lbs or bigger) while I know that probably 90% of men aren’t attracted to that at all!

TheSikuu · Answer

I've developed crushes on ok looking girls just from liking then as a person, and once I like them They get prettier.
But that hasn't happened with an unattractive girl; I've always had to find the girl at least a little attractive first.
The opposite has also happened tho; I've lost all attraction to a beautiful girl after getting to know her a little and finding that she's not a good person. Like I just wanted nothing to do with her after that. (And I'm talking BEAUTIFUL (and she liked me already))

I'll sum it up this way: I come for the looks but I Stay for the person.

aestheticsofty · Answer

Ugly? Nothing to a bit
Average? A lot

A good personality is important to have. If you’re gonna be a boring, mean weirdo then you won’t get very far in the dating scheme, maybe with desperate and insecure people though. Good looks automatically gives you an easy pass.

Anonymous · Answer

There have been 2 guys I dated that I wasn't attracted to at first, but the more I get to know and fall for a guy, the more attractive he becomes. The longer I'm in a relationship with them, the more their cute unique traits become adorable. The other guys who i was attracted to before dating them also became cuter the longer I was with them.

Udbhav_Bantwal · Answer

It compensates a lot for me, I don't care much about physical appearance, maybe just a tiny bit but not so much that I wouldn't even consider a person for that. If I find the right person with the right personality then I wouldn't care about looks but if she's not right for me then...

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

I don't want to sound rude but attraction doesn't work only by personality. Physical attraction lies in our nature and we can't deny it. Even if we love someone by their personality but they are not physically attractive to you at all, sexual interaction will be maybe a problem.

LegateLanius · Answer

Have to get through the looks to see the person. I should go for a blind woman. At least then my ugly ass can have a chance.

estoydorado1 · Answer

Average looks can still be pretty attractive in their own way, especially if they have a magnetic personality. So yeah. AN average looking great guy will have my attention over a super attractive numbskull & jerk.

Anonymous · Answer

Personality compensates for a lot, actually. If you can’t stand someone’s personality, there would be no future with them even if they were incredibly gorgeous/handsome. A relationship only built on attraction to looks would be far too superficial to last.

fauchelevent · Answer

Some. I wouldn’t be with someone I didn’t find attractive just because their personality was good but I would be more open to being with someone I thought looked kinda meh/okay if I loved who they were as a person

jmorrow · Answer

A good/great personality will effect it a great amount so long as the looks are within the realm of reason. If someone had an attractive scale of 5 to 10 for dating. The chances of them dating a 5 with a great personality are much greater than a 10 with a horrible personality.

TheJoe92 · Answer

It depends, I mean most people aren't models indeed, but they are not ugly as well. Look matters, but there is a huge scale from the idea of our perfect type and all the shades we might like, that's the real point that people tend to forget.

SarahVanRensburg · Answer

Yes looks are something that catch your eye; the way you dress, keeping healthy and so on.  But for me personally, I can appreciate looks but if your personality is trash then bye👋👋

madhatters4 · Answer

a good personality can definitely make a person overall more attractive but it doesn't turn an unattractive person (physically) into a attractive person.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

For a meaningful relationship, looks aren't top of the list for me. There is a ceiling, beyond which I may find it difficult to look last it, morbidly obese. But the spectrum would be rather wide.
For a fling maybe you could be more picky

markscott · Answer

How much personality compensates for looks, varies with each person. For some, looks are all that matters. For others, personality is very important, with all kinds of gradients in between.

tartaarsaus · Answer

It compensates for it to an extent, but I'm not going to be in a relationship with someone who I don't find physically attractive to me

es20490446e · Answer

For bad looks, not much. But for average looks, a lot.

alinakhanx0x · Answer

It doesn't matter a lot And nice dp by the way @BellaIsQueen

TheBootyChest · Answer

I want her to have average but specific looks and a great personality.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

As long as a girl has a great personality i don't care about her looks.  Her personality with sweetness is what means a lot to me.

GoldCobra · Answer

From my experience. Looks matter more than personality in terms of dating someone. A good personality won’t make a difference if the person doesn’t have the looks lol I’m not very attractive myself so that’s where I’m coming from

Dark93 · Answer

On a scale from 1 to 10, a really hot woman who is a total bitch is only a 5. And a really nice woman who has a unattractive face and body is still a 5 out of 10. Put them together and you either get a 0 or a 10

oliver_tulipp · Answer

I don’t think it compensates but it overlooked bc hey they have an amazing personality. So to me it doesn’t but I learned not to trust people based on looks, bc that changes and so do personality.

deric_97 · Answer

It only covers up to some extent, because I might not see her sexually.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

A decent amount as long as they look at least average.

DenDarW · Answer

Thats why we ugly guys are so funny. The more the ladies keep their eyes shut when laughing, the less they care about our looks.

CT_CD · Answer

None

wyldun · Answer

looks last a decade or 2, who you are, your personality
is with you until you die
do you really wanna think about spending the rest of your life with a braindead egomaniac bitch thats gonna be uglier than sin in a few years? lol

Aynsof · Answer

Personality wins against all But personality takes time to get to know while appearance is readily available

motownplayer2000 · Answer

It helps a lot. But attraction to someone is purely looks... so it may not get to that level if you can’t get past what they look like/attraction

MarketData · Answer

It's hugely important, but the catch is that you have to get to know the person first. And who wants to get to know ugly chicks, amiright?

blazinbrimstone · Answer

It really depends. If their personality is bad, totally no, but if they have a good personality, it shifts onto looks. If they look repulsive, no amount of good vibes will bring anyone to u.

FinalFantasy8 · Answer

I have an amazing personality and everyone loves me. So yes it can work.

krity · Answer

Personality and soul can make an average looking girl truly stunning to me, of course looks matter to some extent but personality goes a long long way

Anonymous · Answer

Personality will always carry looks far more than the other way around.

Angelina25 · Answer

To an extent I'd say.

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

For me, if I'm not attracted to a gal, I'm not attracted to a gal.

torwulf · Answer

Not at all. Looking good is a prerequisite, personality is how i choose between the 7-10's

Lance1965 · Answer

It compensates a lot especially if her personality is really great.

LittlePrince85 · Answer

It depends on how ugly. If they take care of themselves it couldn't be too bad.

JohnTheAwesome · Answer

She must have a fair balance of both, neither too ugly nor too disrespectful

That2kKid21 · Answer

I'd date a 6/10 with nice personality but no lower.

NicholasRedone · Answer

Other : Left Handers need to stick together as Left Handers : I should never fall for a right hander woman ♀️ 👀

geminiboner · Answer

Personality makes up for it all because you can be gorgeous and an assholeand no one will like you, or stay with you for that matter.

KAF87 · Answer

Personality here =code word for penis

JustWorthlessMe · Answer

LOL Why are you women lying so much? The truth is you'll NEVER find out if an ugly person has a good/great personality because you'll NEVER talk to him.

Johnkramer98 · Answer

it depends. a average looking guy can compensate with humour for example and add to his general image. but a guy that looks like Efialtis from 300, no, whatever he does he will be just too unattractive for a good personality to save his image

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

Typical idiot GaG putting a pic of a really hot, pretty girl as a thumbnail on a post that's about the total opposite of that. Anyway, the answer is "a little bit, but not much."

RavVid · Answer

I think personality compensates quite a lot. I'm a sucker for bright amusing girls.

alwayscurious247 · Answer

If I'm not embarassed to be seen in public with the person, it can compensate a lot.

Guanfei · Answer

If you're ugly, only money matters.

LiamS95 · Answer

I'd much rather have a regular decent looking woman with a great personality that a beauty queen that is a bitch.

JellyDonutguy96 · Answer

isn't ugliness associated with disabilities though?

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I voted totally.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Not much. I need 60% looks 40% personality

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