If my boyfriend wants me to do an abortion, it means he doesn't truly love me?

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Been together for 2 years
But we are both not financially stable yet
He said its my choice to abort or keep.. but he would rather me to abort because we are not stable yet to raise a child which is true
Im not ready yet 
But if he rather me to abort, doesn't this mean he doesn't truly love me?

nnaomi · Accepted Answer

I think he cares for you more than you think. He is thinking about the future of the child and also your future.
Raising the child would be difficult for you and the child might also suffer from it.
But the fact he is giving you the right to choose, I think that shows how much he loves you. He is willing to have a child with you if you choose so, and he is willing to take the responsibility for the child.

BrazilBabe · Accepted Answer

I don’t think it means he doesn’t love you. A child is expensive but so is a pregnancy. You want to make sure you are financially stable for that. And trust me, that amount of stress on a relationship could easily break it so maybe he’s just trying to be logical and not create more stress than the two of you can handle right now

AxlStahlmann · Accepted Answer

I would say he does love you, but he also realizes the danger that you two might face financially if you go ahead with having a child. If you really don't want to abort it, talk to him and see if you two can make a game plan to make the process smoother.

Dark93 · Accepted Answer

It means he does love you because he doesn't want you 2 to be put into a position where you're struggling day to day. He wants to build a sturdy foundation before bringing a child into the world.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

It is an indication of his feelings about your unborn baby and not his feelings about you.

TheFacetiousCook · Answer

If you truly believe that his action or choice of wanting an abortion due to the fact that you are not financially stable is him not loving you despite being with you for 2 years, you must be mental. He has gone into the logistics of your situation has figured out that bring me in another life to feed and take care of will put you guys in the ground either financially and can also put a hindrance on the relationship when y'all are fighting because there isn't enough money to go around. The majority of relationships that and isn't so much about the stress of new family it's the stress related to money so if you feel that the abortion because doesn't want to have a child with you at the moment means he doesn't love you then you need to figure out your priorities before anything else. Normally I say this is just a hypothetical and don't take it to heart, however you must definitely take this from the heart and think about your actions and words, because this can possibly have a negative effect not now or in a couple months but quite possibly a couple years

KAF87 · Answer

No, look unless you are really religious it is very irresponsible to bring a child into the world when you do not have the money.

Children are very very expensive, and odds are he will loose the benefit of your income, at least for a time.

The fact is it's your choice, he does love you, he's just not ready to be a dad yet.

liniana265 · Answer

You've been together for 2years. No one in their right mind would not be with the same person for 2years if they did not love the other.
He is probably scared out of his mind as well. You two need to talk about this more and decide what to do for the sake of this baby. If you two are not ready to have a baby, then you should wait till you are.

shinensta · Answer

Abortion is the sensible choice if you aren't ready to have a child but you have to decide ultimately if you are okay with abortion or not. It is irrelevant whether he loves you or not. He is thinking about whether you can be parents or not and he doesn't believe he is ready.

littlebutswole · Answer

he is acknowledging that it's your choice, showing that he cares about you and your opinions and feelings. he sounds like he cares a lot. some guys freak out and run off or demand an abortion or forbid it. but if you aren't financially stable i think that it shows more love for him to say that it may not be the best time to bring a child in the world even if you want to. some people don't love you enough to tell you straight up. it's just tough love. but i think he loves you

Anonymous · Answer

The decision to abort is not necessarily because of feelings for your partner. Take what he says at face value. He sounds like he prefers logic m, and is voicing what he feels is the most logical choice for the situation. If he tries to force you into the abortion, that is a sign of not caring.

damoM · Answer

A bit of pain now...

Vs having to delay your career and raise a child in poverty...

I think your boyfriend may just value your children more ths than you.

Which is a good thing.

Parents should be willing to sacrifice anything for their children

Nice222 · Answer

Having an abortion is a truly hard and personal decision. I would not say that he doesn’t love you at all. I think it is more that he cares about you as a couple and does not want to se you struggle financially or emotionally trying to provide for your child.

jellyroo · Answer

No, it means he has the reasoning that raising a child in your current situation would be unwise, and not the best for the child in question. He probably just wants a child that can be raised in stable conditions.

Hurlyburly · Answer

No, it means that he is mature enough to realize that both of you aren't financialy stabile enough yet to care for a child...

funnychick101 · Answer

I'm sure he is just scared and not ready he did say it's your choice witch I do think means he does love you, however personally I know people who had abortions and every one of them wished they didn't even though they were not ready they all have said it messed them up and to never do it

sam0017 · Answer

I think. Having baby is. Mutual choice. You can't plan for a baby on your own. If by chance it happened and onw of the partner is not stable enough for the relationship, then it can lead to several problems. But coming back to your problem. If you are pregnant by chance or intentionally, whatever maybe the case that doesn't matter. Then he should man up and take the responsibility of the child. No one in the world has the right to take away the life a developing baby inside a mother.

ImagineSketchy · Answer

A. It means he doesn't want the child because he doesn't want children at all. B. doesn't want children with you. C. Or is not prepared to have children at the current moment. If the answer is A, I'm sorry. He's not the one for you if you want children. If the answer is B, the same applies to the result of A, and you should definitely leave him because it sounds like he may not love you. If the answer is C then when he's ready, he will let you know.

Ceramic_bloke · Answer

How ok earth do you connect those two together? You're not financially stable, he thinks the baby is a bad idea. Because babies are expensive! He's being responsible.

Destiny2Love4Ever · Answer

Don't abort the baby just because you don't have enough money or because you're afraid. You should keep it. Don't let your boyfriend pressure you into getting an abortion. In my opinion If a guy really loves a girl then he wouldn't want her to abort their baby.

sodaslut · Answer

yes lol he loves you. if he didn't he would have abandoned you along with the baby.

if you can't adopt, then abort. if not for the sake of a life, 3 lives will suffer including it. it could be life-long, or if not long term.

LeeKenz · Answer

I can see where he's coming from because neither of you are financially stable enough to care for a child. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you. I mean if you don't want an abortion you can put the child up for adoption.

TsubasaCorrupted · Answer

It means he care about you and your futures enough to suggest it. If he didn't care, he would just leave or not help either way.

PrettyRegular · Answer

In many ways I'm kinda conservative but a child is a great responsibility. If you are not up for it, do an abortion.

ciitruskiwi · Answer

He's just beung smart. You aren't ready and neither of you are financially stable. There is no way you can take care of a baby.

joker_daddy · Answer

It means he is using his head if your not ready and stable enough to raise a child abort or give it up for adoption he loves you because he could leave you on your own to raise it

Gray-Wisp · Answer

No, it probably just means he's very ignorant and would like to dismiss the possibility of it being murder for the sake of his own convenience.

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

Uh, no. It means he's freaked out and not ready to be a father. It's perfectly reasonable that he feels the way he does.

YHL6965 · Answer

No, he is just being wise and wanting the best environment for a child.

Anonymous · Answer

False. Wanting a better life for yourselves & future kid =/= not loving you

doogo · Answer

If both of you are not financially set, get the abortion.

youngfungentleman · Answer

Adoption is a loving option. There are plenty of people that would like to have children and are unable to

marijajr · Answer

He is smart. He said that's your decision but if you're not financially stable, what's the point?

-Asca- · Answer

I don't even see how you would think of that. Loving someone doesn't mean you have to want a child with them as soon as possible.

genericname85 · Answer

I don't think he probably thinks he can't be a good father right now so it's not about you. I guess he doesn't entirely understand the process of abortion and the psychological trauma for the woman that comes with it.

Belgie · Answer

He is thinking sensibly. It says nothing about whether he loves you.

rmgnow · Answer

I don't understand you logic in all this, so if he wanted you to keep the baby, that would prove that he loved you somehow?

AdmiralBailey · Answer

Babies are expensive. You can't just feed it Oreos and think everything will be okay

jsixis · Answer

If you guys aren't ready you aren't ready. It has nothing to do with how much he loves you. If you have a kid you can't afford or take care of it doesn't matter how much you love them lol. you're screwing them too

ChronicThinker · Answer

No, it means he knows you don't have the money to raise the child.

britpop · Answer

It means he's not ready to be a father doesn't mean he doesn't love you complicated situation and good luck with it

Ankitasingh466 · Answer

I would say keep , don't go for abortions. It will break U down mentally and physically.

GingerGuy · Answer

Not at all. What's happening is he's thinking logically, you're thinking emotionally.

halfbowsey · Answer

Cannot tell. But what would you rather him say that won't make you doubt if he loves you?

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

On the contrary.  It means he does. If he didn't value your relationship, he'd let you have the baby.

pleasestopthis · Answer

Not necessarily. It just means that he has different principles and values and doesn't think abortion is a murder,

MarketData · Answer

On the contrary, he might feel that it's just not the right time to have children. Which could mean he wants to stay with you and have children when you can support them.

Seppelson · Answer

It's exactly the other way round.
You are not financial stable so it would be horrible to rise kids. If he wouldn't love you, he would Let you ceep it and run away. Move to another country to don't pay for the shit

Anonymous · Answer

I can't tell solely by that episode, but he's right about the abortion, I think. I mean, you're not financially stable and he'd like to give his potential child a good life.

alyssal · Answer

It just means he wants you to have a kid when you have the opportunity to properly raise the child rather than struggle financially. He's not saying you have to or anything.

jayyeve · Answer

He literally gave you his reasoning why, not being ready to raise a child is a lot harder than you think (even then let the baby love sis life is precious)

Anonymous · Answer

you should think about the baby which is a live inside you don`t care about his love if he is cold enough for that he can do worse things afterwords, have your babe and leave this guy

Anonymous · Answer

IT MEANS HE IS NOT READY. GUYS NEED THEIR CHOICE TOO

chwezi · Answer

Not true or false depending on the situation, in the conversations you have had. Did he mention that he wanted to be dad, soon?

Anonymous · Answer

No it doesn't mean that you don't have get an abortion you could have it and put it up for adoption and if he never said he didn't love you or gave you any reason why he wouldn't then he does love you

Mrwonder · Answer

He loves you it’s just that he isn’t ready for a child yet

exoisback · Answer

If our own life is difficult (not stable), better not to trouble our children. Because he loves you so he suggests for an abortion.

kevinaskmenow · Answer

Go for the baby.. Life will fall in place by itself

Aysev · Answer

It might not mean he doesn't love you just that he isn't ready

KatnCat · Answer

He’s just being logical

He-Loves-Me-Not · Answer

You’re the one carrying the baby. You’re choice.

fauchelevent · Answer

No, I don’t think it means that

Mexicoman101 · Answer

Nah that doesn't make any sense.

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

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