Long or short doesn't concern me too much at this point in life. Someone emotionally stable would be preferred. That way if it doesn't work out we can at least part as friends.
Long term but with guys that is like an up hill battle for self respect and preservation not to mention a test of patient endurance. I’ve lost my hopes for all guys even those who profess commitment.
It is not sincere and can be deceptive. It’s like handing the kingdom of you and everything you stand for in the hands of zoo primate ! Not going to far with that ! Just the sheer thought of hard work, and disappointment can be a pivotal thought.
Guys might say they are vulnerable to rejection. They mean it when they set their sights on a girl who every man covets. Then get depressed and say they were hurt irreparably. That women should take the risk of vulnerability.
We already do so much really! Let’s see ; 1. In a relationship we are subtly compromising though some show a facade of liberalism. Not when money rules the game ! 2. If a girlfriend dresses down she loses her mans’ attention and attraction. 3. Conversely, dressing up sets a tragic series of trust tests on a girlfriend. The guy just doesn’t want to believe you no matter what. So you find a ‘in between style’. You may only dress up for parties but be warned; if anyone flirts with you all hell will break lose. Sometimes openly or very subtly over time. 3. When he’s been through a lot with you, he’s decided it’s too much ‘drama’ to take. It fizzles out. 4. You do everything even give him space to recover to no avail. 5. Don’t even start with marriage not that I’m against it I’m die hard romantic but I’m more realistic and been through tears and tests myself to know never be this foolish.
6. In marriage you are everything to everyone in the household. Yes in all societies even if it means you ring for take out you are still responsible.
7. When your in laws come there is a certain decorum. Please to all those saying it only happens in my society I actually have witnessed this more in western cultures too.
In Indian societies yes women are forgiven for a showdown. In wester cultures your men divorce you because it’s past irreconcilable differences. Any good excuse works for no fault divorces. Drama trumps the list. You are not dramatic you are cast negatively.
8. Men can flirt in your face you have to bite the bullet as so many options exist. However good luck getting away with that as women. You’ll be assigned degrading titles and lose your wife or girlfriend potential in a jiffy.
9. If we ask a guy out we are faced with long term reeling humiliation for that bravery. Girls who reject guys will never treat you differently after you approach them unless you scare them seriously.
Oh this list can go on. I can hope but that’s all pipe dreams. Not one guy is true to that long term commitment and his attitude changes significantly even if he did. Like you are holding him against his will and well-being.
I don’t want to oppress or be oppressed but this is the way of romance today. Flitting rapid and insane.
Well, obviously long term is what everyone wants. We all have that dream of finding the perfect partner and as they say "until death do us part" live with them for the rest of our lives. Of course finding that partner is very hard, hence why a lot of people end up divorcing citing irreconcilable differences.
You need to find someone who is your polar opposite, by that I don't mean frozen :P They say opposites attract, it's definitely true, if you date someone exactly like yourself you will find it very hard to better yourself.
I've never understood people who want short-term relationships. If someone said that to me, it'd just mean that they see me as someone convenient for them right now, but they fully intend to breakup with me so that they can fuck around. Super unattractive behavior.
With my current boyfriend, I really want it to be extremely long term. Want us to grow old together. Been dating for over a year now and we are already thinking about having a family, getting a house together and getting married someday.
One doesn’t have to be in a relationship to have fun or enjoy another’s company. But I would hope they’re seeking long term commitment, being anything else is a waste of someone’s time.
Long term obviously! I want a girl with whom I'll be able to goof around all the time until we both get tired, fall asleep, then wake up next to one another faces. Go to any kind of adventure together and just enjoy each other till the end of time.
After just getting out of a long relationship, I want to play the field a bit before I slow down again. If the right girl stumbles by and I take a deeper feeling towards her, I might engage in a longer relationship.
definitely long. But I'm also cool with casual lunch or 1 night stand. Basically anything I can get but hope for the best
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I'd have long term, someone I can travel the world with and experience everything with them. I'm dead against short term relationships hence I haven't got a bf/gf and I won't have one until I am settled and have a house etc. - just my opinion!
I'm hoping for forever. But I suspect most of the girls I'm attracted to just want few to several years. Which means a divorce I won't be able to handle
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