Can the strength of a relationship be determined by the length of the relationship?

[Lady_709]

Can the strength of a relationship be determined by the length of the relationship?

Yes

No

[EpicDweeb]

I'd say so. It depends though on what you mean by strength. I see strength as their commitment to each other as people. It doesn't matter if they argue a lot, if they aren't willing to leave the other even after a lifetime of arguing then they their relationship is indeed very strong. If they have a healthy relationship where they don't argue that much, if it's lasted a long time, it's safe to say they are very committed to each other.

Now if by strength you mean how healthy or truly loving their relationship is I'd say no. You can stay in an unhealthy relationship for a long time but that doesn't mean it's a weak relationship, it can be a very powerful bond without being a good thing.

I consider the strength of a relationship to be how committed both members are to the relationship over time thus length of the relationship is really the only determinant. Of course this makes it difficult to judge how strong a new relationship is, but if the relationship has lasted a long time... it's fairly safe to say it's a strong one.

[CallMeDave]

Not necessarily. In my marriage, the relationship was strongest in the early years and weakest in the later years. People stay in relationships that are deteriorating or are already pretty much dead for a variety of reasons - financial considerations, perceived benefit to the children, to avoid the hassle of divorce and/or fighting over child custody, religious objections to divorce, and/or some other reasons I haven't thought of.

Once there are children from the relationship, one spouse is dependent on the other in some way, it is not easy to leave a relationship that's gone bad, so many long relationships are not strong relationships.

[btbc92]

Nope. And my parents dysfunctional marriage before my mother passed away was one of them. They argued and fought about EVERYTHING. And I mean EVERYTHING was an argument. They talked about divorce sine the time of my birth. 23 years of living hell and I always scoffed when plenty of people would say, CONGRATULATIONS on XX years of marriage. If only they knew...

Success is growth, maturity and always learning. It's not stagnate. If you ask a couple if their getting married, your going to question what is going on. Strength is just that strength. Length can't tell you anything. Because you can have a couple who's dating for years and still can't know each other until they marry them and then may really see who they are.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Not necessarily. I've seen couples together for 10, 15+ years but one or both of the partners was just 'there' for convenience, companionship, or because they had kids. There was no love or meaning in the relationship.

I'm not saying all relationship that last long periods of time are that way.
It's just an inaccurate factor to use the length of a relationship to gauge their strength, or even happiness.

[debi2622]

There are many aspects involved with a strong relationship. I said yes though - and it is because one would assume that the longer the relationship they have been through more ups and downs, and know each other much better. Thus having a stronger relationship.

[Uru_DS]

Can it be? Yes of course.
Would it be an accurate assessment? Absolutely no fucking way.
I've grown tried of telling girls that just because they've been in a relationship for a really long time they don't 'owe it' to the other person to continue doing so.
Even guys but that's less common.
I mean there are so many people out there who are together just because they have a history of being together. If you call that strength then I don't know what weak is.

[Flower7]

I don't think so because often, people stay together just because they're scared to be alone or they think a break up would look bad (such as a divorce.) That doesn't make their relationship any more strong, in my opinion.

[Mickey9999]

No. People stay in unhappy relationships for many reasons. Length is never an indicator of a good relationship. You should be able to tell by body language and interactions of the couple but even then, some couples are fabulous actors!

[BlackRoseFairy]

Nope. It has more to do with connection, communication, mutual way of thinking, chemistry... those are things that strengthen a relationship. Not time.

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

That couple looks adorable

I think its a good indicator, especially in the USA where there is 0 incentive to be with someone, and 0 societal pressure to keep it together.

In other cultures where arranged or forced marriages occur, not to much.

[GraveDoll]

No.

I like to always remind people that time doesn't equal success.

[Tam0320]

no, you can have a long wasted miserable life (it happens very often for whatever reasons) with your partner and have a new person in your life that make you feel loved for ever in matter of months.

[nailz660]

No way. It’s all about the people in the relationships not the length

[Bmories99]

Reality is this is a yes and no answer as there are many things that go into a strong relationship. First and foremost is communication. Quickly and closely followed by honesty.

[Secret6620]

I would say sometimes. And other times no because my parents have been together 20+ years and they completely hate each other. 😢😇

[cedricadedje]

That's so sad.

[Meditatingsquirrel79]

See how long it is. The Love on it. CARING, LOVE, and HONESTY with it too.

[Browneye57]

Uh, well, no. People married for 25 years up and divorce. What does that say?

[r1ngzz]

No it's more so by the twos willingness to work together lol

[Anonymous]

No, it doesn't matter how long you've been together if only one of you or neither of you are contributing to the relationship, then nah

[DarkAgent]

It's determined by the adversities it has faced whether minute or overwhelming. And how it has weathered through the stormy times.

[ITGirl95]

No
Not at all

[killmejerusalem]

Not even close no

[MannMitAntworten]

No...

[Razal]

To some extent yes

[Dantheman101]

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