True love does exist but not in a realistic sense like a lot of people believe it to be. Very rarely does love happen like it does in fairytales where the couple fall in love so passionately in a short period of time and remain at that state beyond "Happily Ever After" without knowing each other better first. In my opinion, true love takes quality time, patience and bonding for it to flourish beautifully in the romantic state most people want it to be at.
It's that feeling and connection of knowing you've found someone who is near, if not perfectly compatible for you! You grow up with them, learn to adapt with them and share all the memories and hardships with them that make your connection with them unique and heart-warming in deep love.
I believe to have found true love, after spending 17 years with my girlfriend and dating her for almost 9 years of it. What makes this even crazier is that my girlfriend and I have always lived 5 minutes away from each other; that can't be a coincidence in my opinion. People will likely not believe it until they've witnessed it themselves.
Sadly, not everyone will get the opportunity to find that "true love" so many people want but it's certain possible for them to find a highly compatible partner they can still fall in love with! People may call it a ridiculous concept but I believe it's real, just like a lot of us do <3
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nothing ever existed like we read in fairy tale's but true love does exist, and as for the happy ever after and perfect relationships
again a good relationship is filled with love, disagreement, happiness and sorrow, we cannot simply have a purely happy relationship as it would become stale and stagnant before too long, and would not last long...
same goes for a relationship where it is nothing but sorrow and disdain for each other...
but a relationship which deals with happy and sad, difficult and easy, challenging and simplistic times, arguments and caring... if you can find a balance between all of those... and still remain loyal and focused on the relationship you have... it will last a lifetime
but there has to be balance... and much communication and compromise
otherwise any without or which has more of one than the other is set to fail
a fairy tale relationship or love... is misleading and increases expectations and gives a false sense of what love really is... love is messy, painful, funny, amazing, trusting, forgiving, compromising, understanding, loyalty, acceptance and so much more...
No true love doesn’t if it did then more people would find it. Am a Lone wolf wondering this world and will never find anyone I can count on too love me so instead I will live my life the way I want too and focus on more important things.
The Greeks believed that true love was for the Gods and mortals would never truly find it and if they did so, etching would happen and one off em would die, this seems to true "happily married" doesn’t happen and as for me I never want a fairytale like love you know fairytales are rooted in very very dark books written by the brothers grim for example Cinderella was beaten and made into a salve by her step mother and sisters, she was made too brush the floor and fetch their dinner and if she said no she would be savagely beaten and whipped not to mention that one of her step sisters had her toes chopped off too fit in Cinderella’s slipper. Then you have bell from beauty and the beast who was stabbed too death by her sisters and the Whitchurch that cursed beast cursed them too be pillars until someone fell in love with them and then revived bell.
I believe in it you just need to stop giving attention to the wrong people and realize who playing you or not and move on if you think someone taken advantage of you. My friend met a amazing guy around our age and he wants to be married to her he loves her to death. These guys do exist but many women like to waste their time with fuck boys or don't know when to call it quits because you think he change and want you back some day or he does love you but he doesn't know how to show it that bullshit. Men know how to show you if he loves you if he not acting like he loves you probably because he doesn't!.
NO. That is just a fantasy, wishful thinking, or like a fairytale- fiction: it does not exist for everyone.
If true love existed, why doesn't everyone in the world have their special someone, find love, or like most people on here, are unable to even find a relationship? And don't get me started on how most relationships and marriages do not last due to infidelity, lack of communication, or people not putting the effort into making things work.
I suppose some people are lucky enough to have found true love- good for them! I'm sure it is possible for some people, but not everyone.
The reason why I said no was because not every relationship is going to be a fairy tale for some people yes but not for the rest of the people.
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Sure, I believe people can truly love each other. It's just rarely as aesthetically pleasing and theatrical as the books and movies make it out to be.
Yes it does. My parents' love taught me that much
It's there, but it doesn't always magically cure your old flame of terminal disease. It does, however, convince the parties to embark on a soul cleansing journey to see each other and right any remaining past wrongs, so they can say goodbye in peace. It doesn't always topple the insane tyrant in her country keeping you apart. But encourages you to pray she turned out fine without you, and longing to see her again some day with everything having worked out. It won't always yield you the wedding you wanted. But it doesn't have to destroy your self esteem to deny you what you want.
Fairy tales ended in weddings to preserve marriage as a societal ideal. Yet, this has proven misguided, as it also encourages belief in perfect marriages as a happy ending reward, requiring no effort sacrifice. Reality has punished several generations for this delusion, and the erroneous result is that many gave up on the idea of marriage. Because f*k effort.
And manydangerously equate sex with love. They are nowhere close to being the same thing.No - those stories are no more true than Adam Sandler/Drew Barrymore rom-coms.
In the real world, things are often not ideal and people are humans with flaws. Mistakes are made, and compatibility issues cause real problems, and adjustments and compromises have to be made on BOTH sides.
In fact, most original fairy tales were pretty gritty and realistic when originally written - but you're likely only familiar with the Disney version of those stories, which stripped out anything that didn't result in "happily ever after." Disney did this both because he thought those stories would sell better that way (and he wasn't wrong) AND because he saw all female relationships through his relationship with his mother, who he idealized to a crazy degree since he lost his father young.
And a lot of people have some major problems with these Disney versions of these stories, because they honestly create this false hope of "happily ever after" in a lot of women that the real world can never deliver - and the women who expect it to do so get very confused and depressed when they do "everything right" (get married, have children, etc.) and "happily ever after" doesn't arrive somehow - this mystical "perfect life" that is an Instagram dream doesn't happen to them.
Anyway, you definitely should not expect real life to be anything like those stories - because it isn't, for anyone.No, it doesn't.
1. You doesn't fall in love that quickly if you're an average adult before knowing the person better because of it's difficult to tell without knowing more. Physical attraction or a small crush isn't the same as falling in love.
2. People may care about each others and love each others, but no one is as kind or selfless like in fairy tales. All the couples I knows very well argues very often, call each others names, disagrees, complain about each others and get annoyed or tired of each others. Does that mean they're not loving each others? No, because it's part of the human nature to get angry at people and not liking all sides of them. No one are perfect and being unhappy about minor or trivial things are part of life. It's a reason why fairy tales and the belief in Heaven exists, because of people wants perfection and it's not existing on earth.
I've seen couples calling each others for "annoying useless idiots", complained about the other one singing too loud or putting things on the kitchen at the wrong place and chewing the wrong brand of chewing gums. Yet they loves each others. They splits the bills, lives together, raise their children together etc. You even doesn't need to be compatible to love someone. As long you've decided to love someone, you can live together with them regardless of how "idiotic" habits they've.
I'm an easily annoyed person, therefor I doesn't love people or bond with them as easily. But I know being single is an option if I doesn't want a relationship. I'm also not an A4 or like the average person in many ways, so I don't expect me to accept reality and settle down when I'm not ready for it. I've high standards and I'm fully aware of how unrealistic they're."Everyone wants to fall in love like Cinderella and her Prince charming but does true love exist like in the books or its just apart of our dreams and inaginations to find true love."
It's kind of funny how all of these "Happily Ever After" stories end: at "... and they lived Happily Ever After. The end." Except it's NOT "the end", is it? Marriage--which is the defining "final moment" of most romance-based fairytales--is supposed to be just the beginning. If you base your assumptions for how happy relationships should be on fairytales, where the aftermath of the wedding is literally never documented or discussed, then you're gonna have a bad time. Why IS the aftermath never discussed or documented in children's fairytales? Maybe that's because it would ruin the illusion. Like, what, are the characters video game avatars where, after they get married, they go offscreen and then their animations just get "frozen" in perpetual bliss? I mean, between raising a family (which is what a lot of newlyweds aim for) and paying bills (y'know, because you don't want to be homeless), where exactly does "Happily Ever After" occur in that picture?
Answer: it doesn't. It's unrealistic and unsustainable, which leaves all those who were sold on the idea lost and disappointed. An entire generation of people have been brought up on false beliefs and unkeepable promises--so, basically, business as usual.No, life is not a fairy-tale. Fairy-tales and romance novels represent an unrealistic standard for men to adhere to in that we are expected to blatantly violate a woman's boundaries while doing it in a romantic way.
Case in point, titanic. Jack repeatedly follows Rose around the boat despite the fact she is engaged to someone else. He follows her to a secluded area on the boat and then sneaks up behind her and pulls her into a room and confesses his love for her. She rejects him telling him that she's already engaged but he persists, and when she tries to leave, he blocks the door.
Or what about in the movie The Notebook. Allie is trying to leave but Noah stands in front of the car door so she isn't able to leave.
This is obviously controlling and stalker-type behavior yet it's seen as romantic simple because its a romance movie/story.
This type of 'true love' doesn't exist in real life. If you tried any of these things in real life, you'd end up with several restraining orders made against you.
TL;DR, true love doesn't exist like it does in the fairytale books because its largely just based on the female fantasy.Ha! No because people choose mates and love according to what they can gain for women its resources and protection rather than who the actual person is hence why girls require a man with a stable job and strong enough to protect her etc. And that's just the normal girls some girls want a rich man an alpha male/bad boy because let's be real alpha males is just code for badboy and most of guys don't fit that category some with amazing personality's some that are so good these girls could fall deep in love like they could never imagine but they discard these men because they can't give them things that they (require) which is why they are doomed from ever experiencing true love same with guys too many guys are concerned with how hot a girl is and how sexy she is rather than looking past that and looking at her personality and deciding if she will be a good spouse in the long run if the love can run deep but no people are always just thinking what can I gain from him/her so we are doomed for shallow materialistic relationships which will always evaporate whenever what we were gaining i s taken away
Those fairytales set unrealistic goals for little girls just like romance movies do. It’s so dumb. Love is so much more complicated than what those stories show you. Because us humans are complex and emotional beings. True love or soulmates do not exist. There are multiple people you could match with incredibly well but there is always gonna be something negative. Can love last? Love is something that fluctuates in my opinion it has its ups and its downs. If one can handle that and understand the motion and stay honest, open, respectful and committed to one another I do think love can last a very long time.
No. That's far too unrealistic. Fairytales teach people that couples live happily ever after after marriage. But life isn't that easy. There's always issues that arise within relationships. And couples face challenges that can drive them apart.
If couples work together to get through any problems life throws at them, it'll strengthen their bond and relationship.
It's the challenges and issues in life that show the strength of a couples love and loyalty to each other. It's easy to love someone and stay with them when life is plain sailing. Weathering the storms in life together is what matters the most.I think it does, but i think it was more true in the past generations like the 50s or so on. I heard a story where one solder was from Japan or somewhere similar and he he went to North Korea and he feel in love with Korean woman. But somehow there relationship broke because of the war and that guy couldn't forget this woman and they meet only after when they were 70 years old and they still didn't forgat each other and hoped to meet again.
So I think that is true love and it exist, but like I say now its more rare, because people losing there values now materialism and feminism it destroy true love.
I think believe you will find and know first want you want to find and maybe you will. But i don't think there is farytale with castles and so on unless you are like Queen or king of some country in Europe, which is almost 0.00000001% chance to meet a real prince :DDoes true love exist?
Certainly. I've experienced it, as did my parents. I highly recommend it, by the way.
Does it exist like in fairy tales?
No. True love has arguments, ups and downs, miscommunications, some heartache, and other things I'm probably forgetting to mention.
However, just because love isn't perfect like a fairy tale, DOES NOT MEAN IT ISN'T TRUE LOVE.
Go and try to find it, y'all!it exists but it certainly doesn't happen to people who fuck around to get the one who is the most sexually compatiable with them. To check how well your love fucks in order to decide whether to love them or leave them is not love let alone TRUE love. I don't know a fairy tale where the princess has sex with men for exploring her body and see which one of them is the best fucker so she can commit her whole life to him.
How can you love someone if are ready to you leave them once you find out they're not good at sex? And you wonder how true love doesn't happen?Ultimately love boils down to similar interests and chemistry. If you can both stay up for hours talking, or have sex regularly without getting bored, its the closest thing you'll find to true love. But interests and personalities change over time, meaning there's no such thing as everlasting love. Love requires effort and self-sacrifice, you don't just stumble upon it and take it like in the fairy tales.
It's all hogwash. In Disney movies, they fall in love, ride into the sunset and live a carefree, easy life. Real life isn't like that.
Relationships aren't easy and you can't be carefree in a relationship. Relationships are work and to maintain a relationship, you have to keep things interesting or the relationship will fizzle out.
They don't show that in Disney movies.my favorite fairytale was the little mermaid. When i grew up i re watched it and saw that ariel did all the work and eric got brainwashed by some evil seductive fat witch, and moped around on a beach.
My second favorite fairytale was beauty and the beast. However again, girl did all the work. Beast waited till after it was technically too late. And it was all stockholm's syndrome
way to give my heart a fatlip.Yes, I do believe true love is there and it exist but it will not be like fairy tales. In fairy tales, true love will be portrayed as an unconditional love whereas in real life unconditional love cannot exist.
There will certainly be some healthy boundaries, some ground rules are bound to be there. Hence true love in real life would be different from what is portrayed in fairy tales.The day I saw my fiance we locked eyes from across the cafeteria, I walked over to her, sat down, and we exchanged phone numbers. I took her out for dinner that night, we cuddled until the sun came back, and have spent every day of the past over five years together.
yes if you play by the book and not challenge conventional expectations. I actively defied it all and now I’m devoid of expectations.
According to what I read, girls have to meet harsh expectations for respect from men. It’s not easy it’s not impossible either it’s a dance of two to tango.
I can’t personally do it im very passionate with guys i come across. So yes being a modest conservative type was not my interest.Yes I think it does exist but not in such a perfect manner as we see in movies but then again - in movies the end is when they get together or get married and we are not shown their day to day life. True love does not mean they will live "happily ever after", no, there will still be downsides, struggles and arguments but with true love the two people will be able to overcome them all and find compromise, respect each other and put in effort into makind it work.
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