A married man wants to leave his family for me. I am scared and don’t know what to do? (Page 3)

llsetova · 2019-09-17T01:43:58Z

I am 22 and he is 29. I met this man a while ago and we instantly had a connection. It wasn’t romantic at first because we had many mutual friends. But somehow we started hanging out more and I realized that I was in fact interested in him in the beginning but was trying to block those feelings after finding out that he is married (I didn’t really notice the ring at first but rather around the second time we met with mutual friends). We live in different cities but he calls me every single day and we find it so easy to talk and I feel as if I’ve known him for a long time. He has been telling me about his problems with his wife, they have been married for nearly 9 year and says that every single day it gets worse and worse and their relationship is deteriorating so he thinks that people live only once and should be with those that you love. He says he will never forget his children and will always be a fatherly figure for them and support his wife and family financially and in whatever other we he can but he wants to “wake up with me and be with me”. This morning he txted me very early and said: I am so confused. I love my children so much and will never leave them because I know she will never let me see them again. I don’t want to be the man that dumps his kids. This text freaked me out and I feel terrible. I was never the initiator of our relationship, and I knew from the beginning that a married man is a no go zone. I don’t love or have an interest for many men. And it disappoints me that the man that has found a place in my heart is married. I don’t want to break his family. I know our mutual friends will hate me and because we have many- I will probably be hated and I told him that and he said: well we only live once and I want to follow my heart. Help. I don’t know what to do and am confused and feel terrible and want to drop all this immediately but it is so hard. Has anyone been in this situation?

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Browneye57 Follow
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Thank god you came to your senses.
Smart people NEVER get involved with someone already married to someone else. It NEVER turns out like you think or hope it would. EVER.

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Congratulations on doing what I think you really thought was the right thing all along! You're right, it will hurt for awhile, but you will be much better off.

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GhettoGirl Follow
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I dont have to read all this, key is; he already has a family why are you in the picture ?

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GuidoThePizzaMaker Follow
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God bless both of you. Ultimately you made the right decision.
Sometimes the right way isn't the easiest <3

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EleanorRigby Follow
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If he can leave his family for you, he can also leave you for someone else.

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CarterSloan Follow
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Run as fast an as far as u can your to young you have the rest of your life ahead of u too b goin through something like this Dont do it if he is willing to leave his kids he will leave u for another one don't b that girl

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GreatnessBack Follow
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Let him leave and then come to you.
Most dudes just say that to get into the pants.

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If he would leave his wife for you, he would leave you in the future for someone else.

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infinitybiguy Follow
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Well if he's willing to leave his wife , what makes you think he won't do the same thing to you. Plenty of SINGLE guys out here.

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  But who’s fault is it really if it’s just this man that you feel for. It’s not morally correct. But it would’ve been better to meet a single man and have the same feelings of course.
  
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  Where u from
  
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Please no man who ever claims they are gonna leave their wife for you ever do

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winterfox10 Follow
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Tell him that he should stay true to his wife, or follow his heart elsewhere, but not with you.

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Arlyss Follow
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I am glad to hear you resolved the situation and had a proper conversation.

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Keith469 Follow
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If he leaves hios wife for you, he'll leave you for someone else.

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charlie_all_night Follow
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Destroy a family an u will regret that shit... Karma is a bitch

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PrinceOfAljazeera Follow
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he probably is tired of his wife, you know marriage is, women love to nag and nag and nag.

Stay and talk it through and see what happens

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BeHappy1985 Follow
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Did not read but it sounds to me like you're gonna be the reason for many mental scars and psychological issues. Great Job!!! I hope you're proud.

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Don't let him do this. He may treat you the same way when you no longer serve his purpose (s).

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shimmeryns Follow
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He did the right thing.

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You should inform him that what he wants is immoral and not feel flattered that he shows interest in you.

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If he will leave his family for you, he will leave you for someone else.
Don't be a homewrecker.
He's obviously a piece of shit.

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